Poll: What would you do if a girl was crying in front of you?

[Random Argument Man]

I'll try to help her as much as I can. I'll make sure she leaves with a smile.

(If she's cute, I'll let her use my shirt as a tissue).

 

[JJMUG]

Id just ignore her - Its not my problem.

I agree, if there is one thing i learned,if it dos not affect you don't bother.

 

[RanD00M]

I would most likely try to comfort said person.It's the me thing to do.

 

[Eaving]

Depends. Do I know her? How well? And is she crying about something stupid? or is it valid? If the answers are yes, pretty well, no and yes then I'll go and sit with her and put an arm around her. Normally its best to not say anything and let them cry it out. When they're ready they'll talk to you first. All they need while crying is a shoulder.

 

[Legion]

If I knew them well enough I would offer them a hug.

Otherwise I would ask them if they are OK (stupid question, but what else is there?). I would basically try and find out if I can help them in anyway. This is assuming they are alone anyway, if they have people with them then I'd naturally assume that an intervention is unnecessary.

 

[2fish]

I am odd, I would quickly study the issue, see if it seems I have any chance of being helpful and if I want to get involved. Next I would check her clan markings (clothing I despise some of the preppy clans that live near me). Should she seem like she needs help with something I can actually help with I would step in, I generally just work off of my gut feeling though.

-2fish

 

[PlainTwo]

All depends on who's crying. Based on the types of people you listed:
Sister - Probablly just laugh and get on with my day.
Cousin - Ask what's wrong, and maybe try to make things better depending on the situation.
Best Friend - Try to make her feel better by offering the best advice I can.
Girlfriend - Do or say whatever it takes to make her happy again.
Shy Girl At School - Just ignore it, as I'd probablly make the situation worse trying to help someone I don't know.

 

[SNIPERFOX ft. Harry P.Ness]

Try and help them deal with whatever issue is plaguing them.

same here

 

[Prince Rhys]

Feel bad but not really do anything. It's none of my business. If she's attractive/cute, I'd feel slightly worse about it but still not do anything.

 

[Fenreil]

If I don't know them: Pretend like I didn't see anything.

If I did, then maybe I'd ask about it, but casually. i.e. "So.....what's going on?" ....What? They'll feel better after a few minutes. Crying physically makes people feel better.

 

[Akalistos]

Yet it not who they are but what they do. They ignore you! That what drove you to it. And if you do get in, it for sex. Good guy like you, they put you on a pedestal because they care. You want a guy that don't care about you and yet is a good guy. YOU WANT A PARADOX. And by the way, even if a good guy has enough self-esteem. YOU WON'T CARE BECAUSE HE WILL PUT YOU ON THE PEDESTAL. Hence the fact that good guy get brush aside and get low self-esteem.

And you know what, Women are all the same. They want everything and more and blame it on others. It make me so mad....

Alright, I admit it. I want a paradox. Why?

Because you don't know what you want. That the more likely explanation. Look at old couples, they don't have that problem because they communicate and make sacrifices. You could just take a good guy and ask him less venerations or take a the dumb one and tell him you want a steady relationship. You don't because you want all and everything, as if you want your life model on those overly stupid, impossible and backward romance of Tween Movie. And trust me, if you do anything in that a female character do in those movie, you'll be dumped and humiliated faster than saying you love Uwe Boll on this forum.

Because I'm a paradox. Every woman ever born is a paradox.

Don't drag other womens down to your level. Some of them know what they want and are overly happy. Why overly? Because life is make of ups and downs for everyone.

One who needs to be connected to on the soul-level. Whose deeper instincts need to be recognized and revered as much as she needs a man who is self-aware enough, intuitive enough, to notice her paradox; that man will always get her first, second, and forever glances because he's the only one who can truly see her.

Pretty much what i said. You want your Tween Drama fantasy. Life ain't like that and you're suppose to be old enough to understand the difference.

And going into how both men and women have lost touch with that core self, that core intuition, handed down to us by literally BILLIONS of our ancestors is a whole other topic.

That a lie. Come on, how many girl have said "boys!" when they male friends interaction. We don't lose the "touch" with our core self. We are kids! Look, i'm a fan of Power Rangers and so is my best friend. WE LISTEN TO THE FULL THEME SONG SOMETIME FOR HOUR ON END, IN PUBLIC, AND WE SING IT. I KNOW IT BY HEART. The thing is there a time and a place. When we are in friend, we act like kid because we are, deep down. But with time come the realization that there reality need to be taken seriously. When such time arise, we act our age. The fact that we can shift from kid to adult when need arise is a display of not only our acceptance of who we are but also maturity to and understanding that fantasy is fantasy and reality is reality. I saw the same phenomenon with women. I can't speak for all of you, but my guess is you can't cope with reality, and therefore create a vision of reality bend to your liking. I also know that challenging that perception of reality will make you defensive if not violent. I study that in my psychology college class.

BTW: Thank. Now i feel i need to reread all of it. I had high grade in that class and using that knowledge make me want to reemerge myself.

 

[Karlaxx]

Telling it straight, I would try and help.
I have soft spot for the "Damsel In Distress", as it were.

Edit: Although there would have to be some other driving factor, like knowing them somehow and not being in a class or a crowd.

 

[awsome117]

Tell her not to get tears in my sandvich.

 

[Kevlar Eater]

I recall this very same scenario happening in high school. The halls were empty, and I saw her with her back to her locker, obviously crying. Unfortunately, my locker was right next to hers, and I was tasked with cleaning out my locker. I ended up getting an earful of involuntary sob story, all of it a trivial matter at best.

I wish ignoring her was possible, but she spoke a mile a minute.

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

(Though why did you post "see a girl crying"? That's an interesting discussion in and of itself: seeing a boy cry vs a girl.)

Because you give boys booze/boobs when he's crying.

Easy answer. Would make for a short thread.

Lol, but a disparaging answer. (Not trying to derail the thread here, but I just want to say this)

This falls into the current social norms that men shouldn't show emotion, and are incapable of feeling any true emotion and are emotionally shallow.

I assume you are a girl.
Men do feel emotions, IMO more so than women.

However what would you prefer? Someone that crumbles beside you in tears or somebody that offers you his shoulder for you to cry on and a firm arm to lift you back on your feet?

*patriotic song*

For reasons stated earlier, it is a man's duty to ensure the happiness of women around him. Empathy, sadness, joy ... these are feelings that get in the way of this goal, therefore we cast them aside. It saddens me to realize that you can only see the hardened shell we have forged when we only hone our skills in order to impress, protect and please our females. But sadly... underneath it all.... we are weak! and this weakness that can only be diminished by the happiness of a woman (refer to earlier post). To ensure this happiness is the reason that men grow strong, harden themselves and gather enough strength to even kill a bear with our bare hands if he needs to, hands that yet, are delicate enough to gently wipe a tear of sadness from your cheek.

*stares proudly at the sunset*

I know that men can feel emotion, I just think it's too bad you all swallow them down in your need to be the protector. Most women I know would rather have a man that was just a little more open.

I'm not saying that anyone (man or woman) should burst into tears at the drop of a hat. But I think men are taught to over-repress their emotions.

That's a fact we are actually proud of

 

[Anticitizen_Two]

I'd talk to her if I knew her really well. However, I think you specified that I do know her well in the OP, so I voted for talking.

 

[Hashime]

I always, If someone looks in distress, and is alone, I help out. One would be surprised at the number of people who are in pain, with frostbite in the mountain and will not ask for help. Three people this past season I've escorted to a ski patrol person due to injury, because the injured party was too embarrassed to go on their own.

 

[Elle-Jai]

I have no idea why, but everytime I try to cheer someone up, I just end making it worse. I say the wrong things in the wrong way. I'd actually be doing the crying girl a service by not talking to her.

Actually, I can summarise the process for you:

Assuming the girl is alone, go up to her with some tissues, sit down near her (anyone hovering over you is intimidating, so sit down). Offer her the tissues and say "If you need to talk, I'm happy to listen." If she starts up with that "Well, WHAT DO YOU CARE?!" crap, just sit, repeat "When you're ready to talk, I'll be happy to listen." Don't justify, freak out, or let it drive you away. When she does talk... Don't try and fix it. Unless it's physical abuse or some sort, in which case, whip out a cell phone and call the cops stat. If it's just stuff that's overwhelming her, let her talk it out.

Girls. Secretly, we all just need a hug...

 

[Riobux]

Assuming it's a girl that doesn't mean anything to me, which is more likely than that probably sounds, then I'd leave her be. I'd be even more inclined to it if it was someone from my school (long story why). If it was the only girl I current care about, then I'd obviously want to talk to her about it.