Poll: What would you do if a girl was crying in front of you?

[jamesworkshop]

mysterious girl (your sister, your cousin, your best friend, your girlfriend

How can they be mysterious if they are related to us/dating us

Coz that's the awesomeness. I can't tell you which female to conjure into your head for the purposes of this thread

But you give examples for us to conjure

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

How can they be mysterious if they are related to us/dating us

They're women, how can they not be mysterious?

Denying a woman her mystique is asking for trouble because she will unconsciously start changing shit to maintain a minimum level of it. This is the truth behind 'it's"a woman's perogative to change her mind."

 

[likalaruku]

If she lost a friend, family member, pet, or charished posession, I'd just let her cry. In person, I suck at comfortimg people, but online I suddenly feel more friendly.

If she was crying over loosing a competition, flunking a class, or because she had a fall-out with some guy, I would tell her that she was weak for even having feelings & to man-up.

I don't hold much stock in romance. If she flunks, it was her fault. Competitions are usually annual things that you can try for again. If it's not replacable or there's too much to replace, then crying is reasonable. Weak, but reasonable. I haven't cried since I was 7.

 

[bobknowsall]

If I know her fairly well, I'll give her a hug and do my best to console her.

If I don't really know her that well, I'd just wind up acting very awkward and feeling very unsure of what I should do.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I'm an empathic person. I usually want to make people feel better. So if they have no one else comforting them, I usually head over and try to cheer them up.

Same. Beneath my cynical and ruggedly handsome exterior, there's a bloody nice guy.

 

[Ghostydash]

i'd say if it was the girl that i've had a crush on for a few years then i'd
first: ask her why she is crying
next: ask her if she has calmed
last: ask her if she would like to go out sometime.
thats what I would do

 

[Mistermixmaster]

I dunno... The right thing to do would probably be to talk to the girl crying, but because I am such an introvert I doubt I'd be able to actually muster up the courage to actually talk to said girl.

Yeah, I'm a horrible person for being shy and lacking confidence in myself, go me! ... *sigh*

 

[brunothepig]

It depends on if I know them. If I know them, ask what's wrong, comfort etc. If it's my girlfriend, just go over and hold her. If I don't know them, well, I'd feel weird being asked by stragers if I was feeling sad...

 

[Xiorell]

thats normally when I get my coat and call a cab.

 

[Dexiro]

Depends if i know them.

If i don't then i won't get too involved because i suck in situations like that. If they're a friend then i'll make an effort to comfort them, but probably fail in doing so.

 

[Kud]

I would be extremely socially awkward, but I would at least try to comfort her.

 

[Kurokami]

I'd be awkward in honesty. I normally think i'll just someone make the situation worse, or just get verbal/physical abuse by asking whats wrong. In any case I do end up asking whats wrong, but if unless it's someone who I really know I'll leave when they do the all to common "oh it's nothing (give me attention damnit)". If it's someone I know, i'm much more capable.

Pretty much me, take away the being capable with friends, maybe more so but depending on whats bugging them I may be the worst thing that could happen. (I'm a very honest person, I try and tip toe around the truth but I seldom tell a lie) On the other hand I've been told I'm wonderful at avoiding the subject and instead cheering them up, so maybe its all just in my head.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

"There There" *tap tap*
*awkward confusion*

i am not really good in 99% of this situations.Though i am kind of empathic , if i care about someone, most strangers might bleed to death on the sidewalk.(exagerrating of course, i usually wake up people sleeping on the sidewalk and ask if they're ok before i go away)
But conforting crying girls isn't really my strength. There are a few i know for long and went through a lot with and care a lot about, with them its ok, but what should i tell someone i dont really know?
At least the beginning would be more easy with a bro' . A bottle of beer/a cigarette , "Heyyy whatsup dude?"

 

[Uncreation]

(Though why did you post "see a girl crying"? That's an interesting discussion in and of itself: seeing a boy cry vs a girl.)

Because you give boys booze/boobs when he's crying.

Easy answer. Would make for a short thread.

Lol, but a disparaging answer. (Not trying to derail the thread here, but I just want to say this)

This falls into the current social norms that men shouldn't show emotion, and are incapable of feeling any true emotion and are emotionally shallow.

I see no problem with a society that suggest that males should be hardened both physically and mentally. Hell, I wish the same applied to women.

No one ever said men don't feel emotions, not even society. They just say we should be tough enough to ignore it and move on.

And men can be quite shallow, so I contend that the tits/vodka strategy will work.

It's unfortunately true that even today, men are looked down upon if they show emotion. And that infuriates me to no end. I see it as just another stupid , worthless social prejudice. I really don't think it's good or necessary to just ignore it. I'm not saying you should just go to the town square and start crying, but keeping it inside is not ok either in my opinion.

And i can't say for other guys, but i am capable of feeling emotion and am not "emotionally shallow". And i do show those emotions when i think it's ok. And if that does not coincide with when society thinks it's ok, then that's society's problem. Also, if i am upset enough to cry in public, no amount of "tits/vodka" will fix it. Hell, for me, "tits/vodka" is almost never a solution to my problems or a way of cheering myself up.

But, to get to the question at hand: i'm not sure what i would do. I guess i would try to help, but i am not sure how. In the case of complete strangers or people i know very little, it's never easy for me to talk to them. Plus, like other people have said, maybe she does not want to talk to someone. Maybe she like to be left alone. Difficult to say, but I think i would still ask her if she is hurt, or if she needs anything.

P.S.: Reading all the stuff people here say about what a man should be like, only makes me sadder. I really hoped the escapist had a different view of things. I think 90% of what society generally says about what a man should be like, is stuff that i have never felt like, and i have never wanted to be like.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Talk to her. Seeing a girl cry makes me die on the inside. Although if it was a complete stranger, it might be a bit weird.

 

[Trifixion]

Given my age, any attempt I would make to offer any sort of sympathy or assistance to anyone who was young enough to be called a "girl" would most likely get me classified as a sex offender by the knee-jerk-reactionaries in my community, and therefore I would do nothing. It's not that I wouldn't want to help, it's that the way society is these days, no matter what I did, it would be seen as me being at best "creepy" and at worst "attempting molestation."

Now if it were a woman crying, that would probably be a different story.

 

[Cmwissy]

I treat females the exact same way I treat males.

I may go 'Alright mate?' But I'd probably do nothing.

 

[lwm3398]

This actually happened to me, it was one of my friends. I didn't ask why she was crying, but I just handed her a tissue and tried to comfort her with "It's okay." and other such non-specific things. If she hadn't been my friend I doubt I would have cared.