Poll: Why do people hate others?

[MammothBlade]

Lasting hate is justified with sufficient grievance. If somebody intentionally harms me or people I love, of course I'm going to hate them. It is a rational response to threatening or nasty behaviour.

 

[RookwoodX]

The human race has always been dominated by psychopaths. This much we know. But I imagine it has something to do with natural selection where those tribes that were not led by psychopaths were destroyed by the ones that were.

Anyway here we are today struggling with these remnants of tribalism and as of yet we haven't really developed a good alternative as people still prefer to be led by psychopaths.

Also testosterone. A good step would be to make our society more of a matriarchy.

 

[Brandon237]

Even the hate that is arguably justified isn't worth it in the long run. This is extreme, but say someone murders someone close to you. He goes to jail, has a change of heart, and gets released from jail. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that you know he has had a change of heart. Hate might make you still have animosity for him, while lack of hate will let you accept the person who was once bad.

The question im asking is, why do people hate? Is it justified?

Warning, there is a high potential for graphic outbursts in the sections that follow. You have been warned.
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In such a case, I would not give a flying whether the hate was justified or whether said murderer had gone through a change of heart. They bloody-well took the life, all the hopes, dreams and connections that someone I knew on a positive, personal level had as well as all the potential extra time I could have had with that person and replaced it with huge buckets of grief.

Even years after the incident, if my memory stayed sharp I could likely muster the anger to rip their head off given the chance. The biggest reason I would not even things out with such a murder is that I don't feel revenge is worth jail-time and I would eventually somewhat cool off, it would be a slow process, but I know that (luckily) memory is not perfect. But in that case you gave, I say the hate is justified and stays that way.

Now for lesser crimes that do not permanently rob a person of their hopes, dreams and relationships, things become a bit greyer. For theft or assault that does not leave permanent damage, to hate for long is simply a waste of your own time. Once you move onto more serious offences against someone, I think the desire to see that person in great pain, while not productive or good for mental health, is certainly understandable.

Hate is justified when someone has done something that damages your life for an extended period of time, or permanently takes something of great value (such as someone close to you) from it. Healthy no, but certainly justified.

 

[theSteamSupported]

We hate because we're 7 billion people, which leads to a severe lack of communication. That lack leads to lack of knowledge, which leads to lack of understanding, which leads to ignorance and after that, all hell breaks loose.

I personally don't believe in either hate or love. I'm doing my best to treat everyone with empathy and respect. Even on the most disgusting brute, because that will maybe just maybe, dampen their anger, fears and aggression.

Though I don't think behaving like a hippie is going to work. That's why I chose option 6.

 

[For.I.Am.Mad]

Everything starts with child rearing, everything.

 

[chadachada123]

I only truly hate one person. I dislike plenty of people, but "hate" can only describe the despicable, miserable fuck that used to be my "best friend," before stealing my then-girlfriend (who I dislike strongly, but don't hate. She's just a giant *****). This being a long, long string of ex-girlfriends that he's dated...it was the final straw.

But other than that, I don't hate anyone. I hate humanity, but not (the vast majority of) individual humans.

 

[Yopaz]

Hating someone who caused you or someone close to you harm is justified even if the guy who did it regrets it. Like if he killed your brother it's not going to make it better to know that he's really, really sorry. Hating him isn't going to make things better, nor is doing revenge, but neither does forgiving him.

To answer your question. We hate because it's easier to hate than forgive.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

My guess is that people hate each other because they fear the things they don't understand... and can't be bothered to learn about them.

 

[Your Fearless Captain]

A wise man once said, "The cost of hating someone is loving oneself less."