Poll: Would it bother you if...

[manaman]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

Unsurprisingly, yes. :/

I'm a little OCD like that. :/

How is it that I can only find one other person bothered by someone messing with their stuff without permission. I don't let people into my house to play with my stuff when I am not around without permission.

Though this is a workplace, with other people...Working...

And I would expect them to ask me to turn it down long before. If it bothers them with me gone it bothered them before. Waiting for you to leave to turn it down is just plain rude, and shows no respect for you or your things.

As a matter of fact, I would probably ask people what volume they find acceptable when I first brought in the radio, and maybe even find some music we can all listen to.

It's not going to upset someone to tell them you have a hard time concentrating with their music playing, and if it does. Screw them, you made your attempt to be considerate and they threw it in your face, do what you have to do at that point. With me, I wouldn't be trying to upset anyone. I simply wouldn't know it was bothering anyone. As I said before, it wouldn't upset me anyway, It would just bother me because I find it rude. Which was the question, does it bother you. My answer: Yes, I find it rude. My only reaction would be to tell them to ask permission before they touch anything else, and likely what they find an acceptable volume. I would probably also give them permission to use it when I am not around.

 

[manaman]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.

Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.

Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.

I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.

Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.

No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.

 

[CrashBang]

Why in the hell would that... no, of course it wouldn't

 

[bdcjacko]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.

Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.

Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.

I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.

Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.

No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.

No it quiet literally was the question. I asked if you left the radio on, and it was annoying the people still there, if you would have been bothered that they turned it down while you were out for more than an hour. Learn to read.

 

[itstimeforpie]

No, not really, you could always use headphones or something.

 

[Rasputin-2]

If it's country music you have every right to unplug the radio and throw it out the nearest window.

 

[monkey_man]

Not at all, Because I hate other people's music, and I cannot blame them for doing something I do all the time

 

[Gladion]

Yes. Yes, I would be bothered. A lot. I told you a fucking goddamn million times not to touch my stuff. If you don't want to listen to my music then tell me and keep your hands where they belong. I think it's fucking weak you turn to the internet to get recognition. Don't you dare coming to me again tomorrow at work and ask for ANYTHING.

You know what would be a nice apology? Go fucking kill yourself. I hate you with all my life.

 

[Verlander]

I don't listen to radio. In the workplace or similar I don't enjoy music being played out loud, I'd much prefer personal devices were used. So I don't see this situation ever ocming up. I put down no, as I'm on their side throughout all of this.

If someone came back to the office and was offended that I'd turned off their radio (I wouldn't just turn it down), I'd point out everything that was wrong with them leaving it on in the first place.

Either way, the person who left it on doesn't have a leg to stand on

 

[bdcjacko]

If it's country music you have every right to unplug the radio and throw it out the nearest window.

There is nothing inherently wrong with country music...pop country on the other hand...

 

[manaman]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

What are you talking about? The question is, you left work, and one of your co-workers noticed you left your radio/iPod/music playing device is on, so they turned it off while you were gone for an extended period of time. No one is saying anything about calling the cops.

Go on. Re read it. It's okay. I can wait. Still missing it? I made a comparison between touching things without permission and people calling the cops on their neighbors for noise complaints without even asking the neighbor first. I find both activities to be rude, and both would bother me for pretty much the same reasons, because they would rather be self involved and petty actions that show little consideration for others and their things.

Now I wouldn't actually leave the radio on when I know I am leaving for a long time, I wouldn't knowingly leave the volume up so loud it bothers people as well. I would probably use headphones if possible, and would even attempt to find some common music we could all enjoy if it wasn't possible. I'm take others into consideration when I work or live in close proximity to them. But that's because I would rather make personal relations with others as effortless as possible, it's better for me, and it's better for them. I'm not going to bend over backwards for people, but I defiantly would go a few extra steps to appease them, because then they are willing to do the same for me.

I also made note that being bothered by something is not the same as being upset, or being angry. I wouldn't be either. Slightly annoyed at the most. I would simply tell them to ask me first, same as I would do with a neighbor that made a noise complaint. Give them my number and tell them to call me, as I have no problem turning it down and this way they don't even have to wait for the police to ask me. It's better for everyone involved to be neighborly.

Simply saying that you would be mad at some one touching your radio while it is blaring and you are gone would have sufficed.

No it wouldn't have. I wouldn't be mad, and that wasn't the question. The question was if I would be bothered. I find it disrespectful, and so would be bothered. Bothered is only enough to get me to clarify that with a person. Mad is entirely different.

No it quiet literally was the question. I asked if you left the radio on, and it was annoying the people still there, if you would have been bothered that they turned it down while you were out for more than an hour. Learn to read.

Wait.... But... I mean.... The hell? You just typed the damn word I used.

It may have been your intent to ask if people would be mad, but you didn't use the word "mad," you used the word "bothered." Different words there skippy. Also the question you actually asked was:

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's not me that can't read here, and you typed the thing in the first place.

 

[michael87cn]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

But, in this hypothetical scenario, you aren't around. You've been gone for at least an hour and they've tolerated it that long, but around that point it becomes roughly impossible to ask you to turn it down.

OT: Not at all. I should have turned it down before I left out of courtesy.

It's true that I would have turned down the volume, or more likely turned off the radio when I left, but had I been in a rush and forgotten it would still bother me for the reasons stated.

But I was asked if something bothered me, not if it upset me. I never said I would be angry or upset, just bothered. I find it rude to touch other's things without permission, unless it cannot be avoided (as I find leaving the radio on and blasting music without consideration for others rude), however I do find it understandable to an extent so my only reaction would likely be to tell them to ask me in the future to turn it down if it bothers them. It probably wouldn't even bother me a bit if they showed up after I left as it's unavoidable to not ask permission at that point.

That's a big quote just so you can save face..

If the music is so loud that you have to be asked to turn it down, you're being inconsiderate.

If you have the philosophy that you're so great and special, that people have to come and BEG you to allow them the peace of mind they deserve, you've got another thing comin'.

Furthermore; are you serious? You think people DON'T tell others to turn their obscenely loud music down? How much good does it really do?

ZERO.

I have no tolerance for music blasters. Far too many times have I had to suffer through a headache with some jerk blasting music, causing my extreme pain.

 

[Rayne870]

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?

It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.

Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.

 

[mireko]

Nope, but I'd rather they turned it off.

 

[nitetrain8]

This is actually somewhat common in college at least when a roommate leaves early in the morning, before his alarm clock goes off. The solution is just to turn it off. He wouldn't know either way.

 

[bdcjacko]

Ok, so you work in the same room as a few people. You have to leave for an hour or more, but you left your radio on. So while you are gone, one of your co workers turned it down because they didn't want to barely hear it from their desk. Would that bother you?

It's such a minor thing so it wouldn't bother me. I'm curious as to what the inspiration for this thread was. Perhaps you have a coworker that leaves his radio on?

It is a her, but yes, and it is happening right this second.

Sorry to hear that, I'm guessing she is or has freaked out about you turning it down as well then. I guess the thing to do there is just keep it tactful and just say that you don't mind the radio being on when she is present but when she isn't you appreciate some quiet time when you need to focus.

I have mentioned it a few times already, but yes she flips out because...well I don't really know why. I am guessing some sort of control issue. She has used the line, "I don't go through your desk."

To which I responded, "I turned your radio off while you weren't here, and it is sitting on top of your desk, I was hardly going through your desk. Also if I wasn't here and left my radio on, and it was distracting you, then by all means turn it off."

To which she just got angrier and said, "DON'T MESS WITH MY DESK!!!!"

 

[Artina89]

No I wouldn't mind at all. In fact, I would have turned it off before I left. If I am watching/listening to something, I cannot leave for an hour and just leave it on.

 

[Chairman Miaow]

It would only bother me because they didn't have the levels of maturity needed to just ask me to turn it down/off.

 

[bdcjacko]

It would only bother me because they didn't have the levels of maturity needed to just ask me to turn it down/off.

How can they ask you if you aren't there?

 

[manaman]

It wouldn't bother me at all if they asked me to turn down the music. However it's my stuff and messing with it without my permission would bother me a bit. It shows a total lack of respect for my person and my things.

Still like I said, if they asked, no problem. They could even ask to change it to station we can all enjoy, or to use it when I am not around. Wouldn't bother me at all.

The question is if you aren't around and they turned it off. They can't very well ask permission if you aren't there.

And they can't ask while I am there? This is the problem I have with people calling the police on people making noise as well. I could understand if you have made an attempt in the past to ask them to keep the noise down. After all how are they to know it's at an unacceptable volume unless you say something? Once you already established what an acceptable volume is, and if they exceed the law, and have been notified that exceeding the law disturbs you but still refuse to cooperate by all means then call the police, otherwise you are just being an ass because you don't even want to walk outside. It's your neighbor, what ever happened to neighborlinesses. It's the same situation here. You should respect the boundaries of those around you so that all can at least coexist in peace.

It would obviously be at a volume that bothered them the whole time, so why wouldn't they say anything except for this mentality of not rocking the boat they pass off as being courteous?

But, in this hypothetical scenario, you aren't around. You've been gone for at least an hour and they've tolerated it that long, but around that point it becomes roughly impossible to ask you to turn it down.

OT: Not at all. I should have turned it down before I left out of courtesy.

It's true that I would have turned down the volume, or more likely turned off the radio when I left, but had I been in a rush and forgotten it would still bother me for the reasons stated.

But I was asked if something bothered me, not if it upset me. I never said I would be angry or upset, just bothered. I find it rude to touch other's things without permission, unless it cannot be avoided (as I find leaving the radio on and blasting music without consideration for others rude), however I do find it understandable to an extent so my only reaction would likely be to tell them to ask me in the future to turn it down if it bothers them. It probably wouldn't even bother me a bit if they showed up after I left as it's unavoidable to not ask permission at that point.

That's a big quote just so you can save face..

If the music is so loud that you have to be asked to turn it down, you're being inconsiderate.

If you have the philosophy that you're so great and special, that people have to come and BEG you to allow them the peace of mind they deserve, you've got another thing comin'.

Furthermore; are you serious? You think people DON'T tell others to turn their obscenely loud music down? How much good does it really do?

ZERO.

Really now. I stated that it would be rude of someone to not ask first. If they asked I obviously would have turned it down. Your whole point is kinda... Well non existent.

I keep saying over and over again that I would have probably already settled on a volume everyone finds acceptable and at least tried to find music everyone can enjoy to play on it.

This hypothetical situation comes from the point of someone that hasn't bothered trying to work with a person. The person asking this question actually thinks they are so special that others should magically know something is an annoyance to them, and act accordingly. I would go out of my way not to annoy anyone in reality, but inside the confines of this hypothetical situation I am anal enough about my stuff that it would bother me had they not asked first. Obviously I wouldn't be turning up the volume upon leaving so that would mean it always annoyed them. Again bothering isn't anger either. I would simply ask them to let me know in the future if anything is bothering them. Nearly non-existent issue solved.