TheSnarkKnight said:
You do realise that just because you're dropping one set of constraints, it doesn't mean you can easily settle into another bunch? I mean, this isn't simple maths, drop three constraints, pick up three more, as simple as that. Whilst some people, I will concede, could probably live as males or females without being particularly bothered, many could not. You might be one of the few people with enough gender fluidity to make it, or you might just be an idiot who hasn't really thought it all the way through. I'm not going to comment, because that's not what we're discussing.
You do realize you sound incredibly sexist, right? For all your insinuations of me being a homophobe and racist, I find it hilariously ironic that you seem to make out the differences between each gender as so large that a human could not adapt to them. The human mind is incredibly adaptive, and our genders are not THAT different.
Your "oh just cheer up and take what you're given" attitude just reeks of someone who has lived a privileged life in the security of the physically and mentally healthy. I bet you think depressed people should just "cheer up", that people with legitimate eating disorders should "just eat more/less", that people with anxiety disorders should "just get over it". You might think I'm putting words in your mouth here *or maybe you might agree with the above statements, come to think of it) but the attitude is very much the same. It's an uncaring and unsympathetic attitude, finding simple solutions rather than going deeper, and putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
Damn me to hell for being happy with what I got. You're right, I should take up bitching and moping over things out of my control, life is better when you get hung up over things you can't fix.
Depressed people CAN get happier (with therapy and time, and unfortunately, sometimes a lot of bad medications), fat/anorexic people CAN get slimmer/thicker (with exercise, counselling, and eating right), the kicker here is that transsexuals CANNOT change genitalia, build, etc. All of what is used by society to define male/female. You can argue that the surgery and hormones might do that, I disagree. So far, we have not advanced far enough in the medical field for that. Maybe in a few decades.
We've focused a lot on me, lets discuss you for a bit. You reek of a transsexual trying to identify with every minority it's been popular to hate on at one point or another, with no real correlation between your group and them. Trying to build sympathy that way is stupid and a desperate stab in the dark, at best.
You say you have no idea what transpeople think like and that could be the first intelligent thing you've said so far. You make out that you have no beef with transpeople, but everytime you post something here it's filled with (probably unintentional) transphobia. You say it wouldn't surprise you if it's all one big delusion/fantasy, you personally define it all as a "malfunction". Based on what?! Don't just dismiss as a "oh, i just do" or come up with some tautologous crap to justify it. What makes you think this? There are people who would define homosexuality as these things, what makes you any different from them? Are you really unable to see how all this comes across, or do you simply just not care?
I would define a "malfunction of the brain" to be anything causing the person unnecessary physical or mental anguish or duress. Such as wishing to live a life that is impossible for them to achieve. See, if I was homosexual, I could just go and bone some guy, problem solved, not what I would term a malfunction. If I wanted to have a vagina and get boned by some guy, I've hit a wall, as I lack the parts for that. Homosexuals CAN be happy with their body, transsexuals cannot. It's that simple.
You seem to think that because I think "feeling like you're in the wrong body" (how does this NOT sound like a malfunction?) is a malfunction, I immediately hate gays, bi's, blacks, jews, every minority under the sun. It's really just pathetic.
Also, I feel that I should point out that it's not all about undergoing surgery to feel good about one's self; surgery is a relatively minor part of the whole thing, a bit that you seem terribly hung-up on. Not all transpeople have surgery, and it's not their defining attribute. Their defining attribute (broadly speaking) is their desire to live comfortably as the gender they identify as, something that you deny them with every ignorant and hateful word that comes out of your mouth.
Sure, there is hormones, dresses, and high heels. But you seem to say it's more the mindset. So ideally, what does a MtF do in your world? Look like a normal male, but expect people to use female pronouns when addressing them? Sounds kind of dumb to me. Really, I don't know where you're going with this one.
Also, once again, you end on a typically unsympathetic note, telling transpeople not to get all up in arms because of something as small and trivial as people not seeing them as real men and women. If people were being racist on this forum, saying blacks or jews weren't "real people", would you just tell them that "life is hard" and that they shouldn't get all "up in arms"? And don't use your fucking "ahhh! but you have no choice over being black or jewish" argument again, because one's control over what group they fall into doesn't diminish the responsibility of the people hating on them.
Here's another one for the road: "cry me a river". You don't like my example because it's
true. So if you can't dislike a person for the way they were born, and you can't dislike them for their actions, what are you left with? Sure, in a utopia we'd have everyone being all lovey-dubby with each other. However, I'd like my check please, I'm paying with "reality".
You seem to enjoy trying to hide behind other minorities, here's one to add to your collection: Pretend I'm a pedophile. I don't abuse kids, but I fantasize over them, even still, society terms me a freak, and would put me into therapy faster than you can say "kids", if anyone found out. Society, like life, is harsh, and the fact is that you seem to expect everyone to be Saint Teresa reincarnated is naive and immature.