Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Hap2]

I AM an...

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

...shit. I'll have to phrase that differently then...

Well, it's complicated. I may just have a really, really, really low sex drive, I'm not sure. Can you be asexual if you have fetishes?

You know, I'm actually not sure.
The AVEN wiki claims some asexual people masturbate for release. Not being one of said people, I never actually understood what they masturbated to.

Asexuality is primarily a lack of desire for the act of sex. You can be attracted to people or what have you, if usually in a sort of platonic way, so I don't see why having any weird kinks would make you non-asexual.

I know this guy at my school, he doesn't really like sex. Even if were watching movies in our class that has mild nudity, he'll cover his eyes or look away. Maybe asexual people don't like nudity.

On the contrary, I think nudity can be quite beautiful Michelangelo's David for instance.

Though I will admit, in scenes with sexuality I sometimes become uncomfortable, usually I'm indifferent, or in the case of Watchmen, I had to force myself not to laugh out loud in the theater...

It's pretty contingent though, depends entirely on the person. Asexuals are as diverse as any other human.

 

[mega48man]

hold on a second, i forgot what asexual meant. is that like bisexual as in sexual preference or they have parts they shouldn't have?

Quoth the Wiki:[sub][sub][sub][sub][sub]Nevermore[/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub][/sub]

Asexuality (sometimes refered to as nonsexuality), in its broadest sense, is the lack of sexual attraction or the lack of interest in and desire for sex. Sometimes, it is considered a lack of a sexual orientation

thank you antitonic. guess that means my ex is asexual, or void of deep emotions for her BF what so ever.

 

[Lord_Nemesis]

I believe sex is a big and vital part of a rleationship. It's not a foundation, definetly not but vital none the less. It's the physical expression of phnysical attraction which in my book is pretty big in any reltionship. As much as people may go on about personality and good humour etc, we do not look across at a prospective partner and think, "Hmm, I bet he/she is a really good listener." Or something along that line. We look across and think something like "Damn, her/his, eyes/lips/body/hair is amazing." It's that initial physical attrcation that connects us, the other stuff comes after and it is important just not the primary importance.

So in answer, probably not. I mean my and my current girlfriend waited like 6 months before having sex but I could tell she was a sexual being and the passion was there and I knew that antcipation would just increase the pleasure. She is a really brilliant girl but it would not have worked for a week if we didn't have the sexual chemistry and physical lust/pull towards each other from the start.

 

[blankedboy]

I guess so. I have some asexual sprees myself.

 

[Gasaraki]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

You don't mention why they wouldn't be able to have sex. sorry but /thread.

They'd be capable, but they would have absolutely no sex drive. Maybe you could convince them to but it probably wouldn't happen. so not "/thread"

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

Are you from SRK?

I don't even know what that is...

 

[DP155ToneZone]

I always feel a little bad for asexual people. They're missing out on so much.

On the other hand they don't know what they miss so I suppose it's not that bad.

Couldn't agree more.

And to all the people who are looking down on others for wanting sex in their lives, let me say this: have you actually considered what sex is?

Beyond the porn and Hollywood bullshit, could you think of anything more intimate? Any other way to get closer to someone so wholly or spiritually?

I know a lot of folk don't see sex that way, but if you're in a loving relationship that sort of sex changes you, and changes your parternship.

 

[Peteron]

Seems kind of boring if you ask me. If she has no sexual attraction towards me whatsoever kind of ruins the purpose of a relationship. I mean, if she is really hot might give it a go.

 

[LittleChone]

If it WAS the right person for me, than yes.

Although I'd probably spend the rest of my days testing them as to whether or not they were attracted to me.

 

[Belated]

Sorry but no can do. For some people, sex is important in love. And I'm one such person. If I have to be loyal to just one partner, it's gotta be someone up for some bed-time. Not to mention affection. Affection is definitely an important component in love. And the easiest type of affection to show your partner is the physical kind. Kissing, hugging, inappropriate hand placement...

 

[hyzaku]

Sure, as long as the person is fun to be with I really don't care about their orientation anyway. If an asexual person wanted a serious relationship with me I would certainly be down for it. Sexual thoughts are fairly low on my priorities when I'm with people anyway. I'm already fine handling any urges solo so nothing would really change there. Sure I'd like to have sex but I honestly don't care whether I do or not. If I'm going to be with someone long term I'd rather be with someone I enjoy being with than someone I like to have sex with. I can have plenty of fun going out to a park, playing games together, or just talking with someone I like. To have someone I enjoy simply spending time with and that I enjoy interacting and conversing with is my ideal relationship. Sex comes and goes, but at the end of the road when I'm over 60 I really doubt I'd regret hooking up with someone I can have fun conversations with instead of that person I would have liked to have sex with when I was younger.

 

[jayzz911]

uhm just out of curiosity
How many of the people in this thread that claim to be asexual. (not saying your not)
Are not virgins , have been in a meaning relationship for 6+ months and are 18+?

 

[pearcinator]

...but they are asexual...they dont wanna date anyway.

 

[Zenn3k]

No way.

Sex is something I'd need to do with my romantic interest...otherwise its just a friendship.

 

[MasterWhatever]

It all depends. But then again in this generation sex is over rated.

 

[Zanderinfal]

Well, it depends. I want sex like a lot of people do, but in if someone doesn't feel sexual feelings, that I feel a lot for, then it wouldn't matter.

Maybe, maybe not. Just depends if the person if nice and understanding, like how any relationship should be like.

 

[Lizmichi]

I would honestly. Sex isn't all that matters in a relationship. I won't not date someone due to them not wanting to have sex. That's rather selfish in my book.

 

[Mcupobob]

A lot of asexuals on here. Guess they have more free time or something.

OT: I don't think so. It would be more like being good friends rather than a romantic partner ship. I believe romantic relationships start at attraction and desire then build upon that. Though I'm not sure if even Asexuality is a real thing. Though I can't tell how people feel about what the want(or not want) to knob is.

Anywho thats my two dimes and a nickel there.

 

[Lucifron]

I enjoy sex way too much for that to work in the long term, so no.

 

[Lucifron]

I would honestly. Sex isn't all that matters in a relationship. I won't not date someone due to them not wanting to have sex. That's rather selfish in my book.

Was your post just strangely worded, or did you just say that you should sympathy-date asexual people on their terms because it's selfish to wish to satisfy one of your strongest biological needs?

 

[Firia]

Nope. Any person I meet is going to have to enjoy sex like I do. Sex doesn't need to be a corner stone of our relationship, but if we get along well enough to where I'd be willing, then we'd better both be willing.