Poll: Would you date/marry a bimbo? (Or for women, the male equivalent)

[Burgers2013]

I've had one first date with and asked out by a few guys that fit the "physically attractive, but not the smartest guy around" area, and I found it really uncomfortable. I declined a follow up with the one date with the "male bimbo" and politely declined the other few outright.

Don't get me wrong, I actually liked these guys (some more than others), but I couldn't date them primarily because of my own personality. The one way I naturally tend to flirt/break the ice is with sarcastic banter. Apparently I'm not great at it because the above mentioned guys didn't exactly follow me, so my clever little jabs ended up coming off as mean-spirited mocking. When the guy doesn't get where I'm going, I feel mean and embarrassed. It's sort of hard to explain, but I couldn't ever date guys like that because I always felt I was talking down to or over their heads by accident. That's more of a flaw on my part because I wasn't able to be honest or straight-forward with my feelings when I was younger/single, nor was I able to adapt/tone down my sarcasm to actually fit the situation/people around me.

Of course, the guy I ended up marrying was very willing to participate in that kind of flirtation, so we hit it off really well. We'd also been friends for a year, so he was very familiar with (and shared in) my sarcastic sense of humor.

There's nothing wrong with a "male bimbo." Most of the ones I've encountered were complimentary and sweet (also part of the problem as I don't take compliments well). It's more of a personality difference that has never meshed well.

 

[Dizchu]

If she's a good person she's a good person, if she isn't then she isn't. Whatever label others may place on her don't really matter.

 

[The Enquirer]

The one way I naturally tend to flirt/break the ice is with sarcastic banter. Apparently I'm not great at it because the above mentioned guys didn't exactly follow me

I don't know if I'd say that's your fault. And there's different kinds of intelligence as well. They simply may not have been good at reading people or simply their upbringing. I know I've gamed with people from different parts of the world who, for the life of them, cannot grasp sarcasm because it isn't prevalent in their culture.

 

[mduncan50]

I'm an intellectual through and through; so, no, I could not date/marry a 'bimbo'. I can make friends with people less intelligent or less educated than me, but I can't reach the level of intimacy with them that's required for dating. I just can't relate well enough and the common interest aspect takes a nose dive pretty quick since most of my activities are done from an intellectual perspective.

Yeah, it sounds kind of pompous, but it is what is. I need a balanced relationship with an equal.

Yes, it sounds extremely pompous that you think because you are smarter than someone that they are not an equal to you.

 

[Evil Moo]

I don't know. Instinctively I feel like I would become bored with someone that I can't have an in-depth conversation with on topics that interest me. Low intelligence to me would inherently imply a lot of negative traits, such as a lack of curiosity about the world, low ambition (or a resignation that such ambitions are out of their reach, whether this is true or not), a lack of desire, or a belief that they are unable, to improve themselves mentally, that sort of thing. You can't just say someone is not intelligent, but great in every other way. I don't think one's level of intelligence is something inherent to an individual. It has implications on the rest of their personality. It is a big aspect of themselves that they, for whatever reason, have had either little interest in or opportunity to work on. Just as I'd expect someone who finds social activities very important to find me less attractive due to me being as socially competent as a shattered roof tile, it probably isn't unlikely that I will be less attracted to someone who doesn't value intellectual pursuits.

Then again, I have no experience in this. If someone fit the bimbo description and happened to be a fulfilling presence in my life, I don't see why I wouldn't give it a go in theory. Just consider me cynical about the success of such a relationship.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

I'll go as far as kill for her if she looks anything like that picture.

 

[flying_whimsy]

I'm an intellectual through and through; so, no, I could not date/marry a 'bimbo'. I can make friends with people less intelligent or less educated than me, but I can't reach the level of intimacy with them that's required for dating. I just can't relate well enough and the common interest aspect takes a nose dive pretty quick since most of my activities are done from an intellectual perspective.

Yeah, it sounds kind of pompous, but it is what is. I need a balanced relationship with an equal.

Yes, it sounds extremely pompous that you think because you are smarter than someone that they are not an equal to you.

That wasn't what I meant to imply, but I definitely see how that comes across. I was speaking strictly in romantic relationship terms in that I have a need for intellectual stimulation in a relationship or it's not going to work out. For friendships and everyday stuff, I don't actually care how smart someone is. Dating and marriage are a special kind of relationship, though.

 

[mduncan50]

Hmmm....so apparently agreeing with a poster about what they say about themselves is a bad thing, as I've received two warnings for this thread lol

 

[TheVampwizimp_v1legacy]

Hmmm....so apparently agreeing with a poster about what they say about themselves is a bad thing, as I've received two warnings for this thread lol

If it makes you feel any better, you did make me laugh out loud with that post.

 

[happyninja42]

Seeing as I've dated a few "bimbos" by your criteria, yes I would. So what? Why is it bad to be a bimbo? I found them sexually attractive, and I enjoyed their company for the most part. We wouldn't really hang out much, but they were casual sex partners, and we had fun. Why does there need to be more if that's all you are after? They were equally not really interested in a serious relationship, beyond the physical, and just enjoyed getting freaky with me.