Poll: Would you have sex as an act of kindness?

[TallanKhan]

As I'm currently mired in the longest dry spell of my life I'm torn between the idea that I might just be grateful a woman with a pulse actually wanted to have sex with me (regardless of her physical appearance) and wondering uncomfortably if at some point around the start of this year whether I might actually have become one of the ugly people you reference.

In answer to the question, I'm not sure. My first instinct was no, but working under the assumption this theoretical person is someone I know (if they are specifically choosing me then presumably we know each other) then it might depend on what I thought of them as a person. If I considered them a friend (just not in that way) or I thought they were a genuinely nice person and this was the one thing that would make them happy then I think maybe I would.

 

[Evil Moo]

No. I imagine it would be a painfully awkward event for all involved. It would likely be incredibly obvious that I wasn't really into it, destroying this person's delusional fantasy and leaving them with only disappointment.

This is coming from someone who is almost certainly in perpetual virgin territory. To be honest, if I could easily remove all sex drive from myself, I feel I would be in a far more convenient situation. One less cultural/biological pressure to worry about.

 

[Zhukov]

Nooo... no, I don't think so.

If asked why not I'd probably answer something along the lines of, "I feel that having sex while gritting my teeth and closing my eyes would be disrespectful to all involved." Which would be more or less the truth.

Besides, I can only imagine that sex with someone I am not attracted to on any level would be utterly unsatisfying for both parties.

 

[Chaos Isaac]

I can't have sex with someone i'm not intellectually attracted too.

I mean, i'd probably try but it'd be a bland 5-10 minutes of uncomfortable grunting.

 

[Ihateregistering1]

"If there was a monstrously ugly individual out there whose Make A Wish was to have sex with YOU specifically, and it would just...make their whole life. You'd be their one sexual encounter before they died. Would you do it?"

In a heartbeat, and to be honest I'm sort of shocked at how many people said they wouldn't.

I mean, really (to all the people who said no) you wouldn't endure 15-30 minutes of unpleasantness to quite literally fulfill someone's final dying wish? This person isn't asking you to donate a kidney or chop off your arm, they're asking you to have sex with them, once, and that would let them die happy.

As for the guys saying "well I wouldn't be able to physically do it", it's called Viagra.

As for "well I don't think they'd like it, so let's not". Seriously? This is their ONE wish, don't you think it'd at least be worth a shot? Imagine if a kid's dying wish was to meet JJ Watt, and JJ said "yeah I'm not gonna meet that kid, he probably wouldn't really like me and I probably wouldn't like him". Would you say "oh yeah, good point!" or would you say he's the worst person on the planet? I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume most people would say the latter.

 

[beastro]

That;s not kindness, that's pity of the worst sort.

No one deserves that.

 

[BanicRhys]

I refuse to answer the question because the idea of someone wanting to have sex with me over anyone else is so utterly ridiculous.

Which, I guess, is a kind of answer so my entire post is pretty pointless.

 

[BathorysGraveland2]

I actually don't know. I've got pretty low standards when it comes to attraction and sex, but someone that is completely and utterly unattractive to me? MONSTROUS!!!? I really don't know man. I'm not morally adverse to it by any means but just... maybe if I was completely hammered on alcohol I could, possibly, do it. But even then it's a stretch.

I really don't know dude.

 

[FPLOON]

Well, despite being undecided right now, I will say this:

The hornier I get in this [rhetorical] situation, the more I'll say "Yes" without thinking even once...

Other than that, one's attractiveness has become something of an irrelevance to me the more I do think about sex/relationships...

 

[manic_depressive13]

Sure, I could conceivably pity fuck someone. If they're a good person who I like as a friend, but I'm simply not attracted to, I might bite the bullet. Depends on how sorry I feel for them.

 

[Basement Cat]

It's called "A mercy fuck".

I've done it. With a girl I reaaaaalllllyyyy wasn't attracted to.

A lady once threw me a mercy fuck. It was nice of her. We both enjoyed it.

Ta!

 

[Someone Depressing]

Sex is an icky subject for me because I'm very culturally English, so any mention of it is enough for my monocle to fly off accompanied with a little "oh my".

So no, I wouldn't have sex with someone out of kindness. I probably wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't find attractive at all.

Again, that good ol' English gymnophobia talking. And what pride I have, or at least I pretend to have to keep me from an emotional breakdown.

 

[maidenm]

Are we talking just ugly or are we talking disgusting? Like, bad looks but skin still feels like skin should or is there stuff like... mucus involved? I... kinda have a fetish for ugly people.

But then again, I'm much to insecure to have sex with anyone I'm not connected with on a personal level so I guess mr. ugly is out of luck anyway unless there's a buttload of chemestry there.

 

[Tsun Tzu]

As much as my inner "nice" person would like to say yes...I really don't know if I could.

Unless I were really, really, really, really, really, really drunk, so, therefore;

Pro for Drunk: I wouldn't really care.

Con for Drunk: I may throw up on said person. And not entirely due to the drunk part.

But... I guess it depends on what type of sexual encounter we're talking about here. Am I expected to make this a loving, tender experience? Or am I just supposed to close my eyes, pray to whatever god I do or don't believe in, and commence with noncommital, pained thrusting? Do I just kind of lie back and accept it, while desperately trying to avoid thinking about the bloated, wart covered thighs converging on my man bits?

What? I need answers, OP.

I'll be hurking in the other room for a bit.

 

[klaynexas3]

I'd want neither way, to be the one giving a fuck nor the one given a fuck. Never had sex, and my first person is not going to be someone that is only doing it out of pity, nor someone that I don't find attractive in the slightest. It doesn't have to be someone I'm in love with, just someone that finds me attractive, and I her, and we fuck. Simple as that.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

No I'm in the camp that you don't need to have sex to lead a happy and fulfilled life.
I know this was supposed to be a joke topic, but I failed.

Besides I don't think they'd want to sleep with someone who was doing it out of pity.

 

[Thaluikhain]

No. At least not a total stranger.

I'm a man, so it's not physically possible for me to have sex with an unattractive person. For decensy-related reasons, I'll let you figure out what I mean on your own.

You have a very narrow definition of "sex" and are allergic to Viagra?