Poll: Would you have sex as an act of kindness?

[Use_Imagination_here]

That sounds like it would be really awkward and unpleasant for everyone involved.

Also, I don't see how that's not just emotional manipulation which is a pretty big no no when it comes to sex. Basically just abusing their position of terminal illness to manipulate someone into bed.

 

[carnex]

What can I say, I was on both ends of "pitty fuck" but not with "lightspeed ugly"

Now would I try to do? If I deem person as someone who has inner beauty I would.

It's entirely different matter would I be able to physically perform. I'm not picky by any stretch of imagination (been with both skeletons and whales, and I do mean loving relationships) but ugly face is a serious turnoff for me. If I could imagine someone or something else and succeed in self-delusion, then why not.

 

[The White Hunter]

lightspeed ugly evokes 300+ pounds in weight and covered in warts with a face like a pig.

so um...

no.

just no.


I would be violently sick.

 

[visiblenoise]

It's a shameless, uncompromising "no" from me...to the point where I'd question those who wouldn't say no as well. But I'm not very charitable to begin with, anyway.

 

[DementedSheep]

I love how this topic brings out the hilarity of how sex is seen as not important but it totally is. As someone who thought Maslow made a bit of a brain fart putting sex as a basic need I will say my piece.
I could live to the age of 80 without sticking my dick in a welcoming orifice. Can't pull that off with food or water if so teach me.
The whole idea of pity sex if we want to call it that is weird to me not staunch for or against but it would be random circumstance to me.

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Now sheep you make that sound like prostitution is not illegal and could cause time for this group of people. Besides the stigma and shame of visiting a sex worker, prostitute, escort or whatever you want to use carries equal if not more weight in my opinion than pity sex.

Well...here in NZ it actually isn't illegal. You can hire a prostitute so long as it's from a registered brothel not off the street.

 

[Riot3000]

I love how this topic brings out the hilarity of how sex is seen as not important but it totally is. As someone who thought Maslow made a bit of a brain fart putting sex as a basic need I will say my piece.
I could live to the age of 80 without sticking my dick in a welcoming orifice. Can't pull that off with food or water if so teach me.
The whole idea of pity sex if we want to call it that is weird to me not staunch for or against but it would be random circumstance to me.

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Now sheep you make that sound like prostitution is not illegal and could cause time for this group of people. Besides the stigma and shame of visiting a sex worker, prostitute, escort or whatever you want to use carries equal if not more weight in my opinion than pity sex.

Well...here in NZ it actually isn't illegal. You can hire a prostitute so long as it from a registered brothel not off the street.

I figured you might of been from NZ or Canada but in Murica and other countries are a little SOL.

Now the discussion about prostitution is its own monster to tackle some other time or never in my experience.

 

[wearesoneutralthatithurts]

I dont find people ugly per outer/body alone and an 'ugly' body wouldnt be a turnoff per se...
there would be problem if they are unhealthy, alcoholic, no teeth, bad breath and wounds or other soggy stuff.
Attractivity isnt only Bout looks, i fucked people that were miles away off my ideal wanking list- fat prople, an extremely thin man with big scars that were somewhat disabled, my SO of seven jears is fat-and i am not into fat people.
I am into character. So if that peson is a nice one, healthy in regards to STI and hygienic and scts like a person (and not in the "you-will-save-my-life-when-i-can-dip-my-dick-into-ya/perform-intens-lesbian/bi/pan-sex, please save me/save my life I NEEEEEED YOUR TWAT AS REASON TO LIVE.-that shit is scary.)

So. It depends. I dont fuck people with an ugly character, sore wounds and STD that cant be prevented through condom. Style of cloth dont count, they come off anyway.
Also.. prostitution? Its both a case of 'I usually wouldnt do it and wont get any/only a small amount of fun out of it, but I do it nonetheless(for sympathy/money)

It isnt about trve feelings anyway, so i'd take money should that person have any. If not I'd need to know them-bc as I said I dont fuck people with ugly character-and I define my ugly..

 

[aba1]

I am amazed at all the no's to be honest. Somebody is on their death bed and their dying request is to lose their virginity to you I am not so heartless as to deny them their final request.

 

[maneyan]

Firstly I'll mention that some of the ugliest people I know have managed to find someone they hold very dear. Louis CK is a misanthrope who builds his humor on being as bleak in his outlook on life as he can. I would take what he says with a pinch of salt. Secondly no way. For me sex is something to be shared between two loving people, I feel personally that casual sex cheapens the act, the ultimate expression of affection and love being reduced to glorified mutual masturbation. So no, I wouldn't have pity-sex, nor would I ask for it.

CAPTCHA: fuddy-duddy

Wow... thanks...

 

[wearesoneutralthatithurts]

.@aba1
Ok and after that person how many more?

It will come down to the question of: whats more important than my wellbeinv and stuff. I wouldnt run a marathon rven if that the last wish of sb.
As i said-attractiveness isnt that important for me, but i wouldnt fuck an ugly nazi or terrorist or shit. Also wont fuck soldiers, people who work for NSA, BND or similar orgs or people who slaughter or do illegal shit/organized stuff.

 

[BarkBarker]

It is not a kindness if I don't want to embrace them and see them as a lover, you want a cold, emotionally detached fuck you can get that shit ANYWHERE, I can't consider doing it with someone I don't feel that bond with even if they wished it as their last desire. There is a whole host of variables I need to consider, like why me? Why a make a wish foundation approach rather than just a heart to heart? I know its just a hypothetical off a comedians stand up, but the hypothetical has too much I don't know for me to answer without feeling there is something I missed.

 

[CrystalViolet]

No, I couldn't and wouldn't want to do it. I'm in no way prudish, I've had sex with men and women of varying levels of attractiveness but I needed to actually be attracted to them.

Besides if we're just talking sex there *will* always be someone for you even if you're some sort of grotesque squid monster. That person might be another grotesque squid monster or they're just into freaky shit. The internet is a wonderful place. If you really want to be sexually charitable you could always set up an online dating sight for human squid monsters. That way you could help them get laid and not have to let them put their horrific penis in you.

Would you do it? Would you selflessly abandon your comfort and endure a potentially traumatic coupling to make someone else happy? Or would you be like..."Nah", and go get some Thai food at the mall instead?

Would *you* do it, OP? And let me ask you a further question. Would you offer the same charity to a member of the gender you're not attracted to (assuming you're not pansexual or something)? So, if you're a hetero male would you fuck a man as an act of kindness?

 

[CrystalViolet]

For me sex is something to be shared between two loving people, I feel personally that casual sex cheapens the act, the ultimate expression of affection and love being reduced to glorified mutual masturbation.

I respect your opinion on this but I honestly cannot understand this perspective. To me, sex and love are two different things with a lot of overlap. The purely physical act between two people in emotionally neutral sex cannot be compared to masturbation because there's so much more pleasure another person can bring to you than you can yourself. You could tell me that the casual sex I have is vapid and empty, but I can't hear you over how much I'm enjoying this casual sex.

*snip*

That was actually a really great post! It's not a perspective I share but I still think it's a really cool way of looking at the situation

 

[Itdoesthatsometimes]

What kind of dying wish is that. I know you find me unattractive, but before I die I want your fuckables. This is the request of someone unattractive both inside and out. Hitler wants his mouth around my cock, sorry guy not into butt ugly sociopaths.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

NWould *you* do it, OP? And let me ask you a further question. Would you offer the same charity to a member of the gender you're not attracted to (assuming you're not pansexual or something)? So, if you're a hetero male would you fuck a man as an act of kindness?

Holy shit, this is an old thread. What's it doing here?

As to your question...ehhhhh...probably not. Don't misunderstand the tone of the thread. I wasn't moralizing at people. I thought the question...and the comedy bit that inspired it...was amusing.

EDIT: Ahhh, it was Not The Bees. She shames us all with her magnanimous answer.

 

[maneyan]

For me sex is something to be shared between two loving people, I feel personally that casual sex cheapens the act, the ultimate expression of affection and love being reduced to glorified mutual masturbation.

I respect your opinion on this but I honestly cannot understand this perspective. To me, sex and love are two different things with a lot of overlap. The purely physical act between two people in emotionally neutral sex cannot be compared to masturbation because there's so much more pleasure another person can bring to you than you can yourself. You could tell me that the casual sex I have is vapid and empty, but I can't hear you over how much I'm enjoying this casual sex.

Good for you. The fantastic thing with "to me" is that it lets me talk about how I personally feel it without anyone else entering the picture. Bang as much as you please, just use protection.

 

[CrystalViolet]

Good for you. The fantastic thing with "to me" is that it lets me talk about how I personally feel it without anyone else entering the picture. Bang as much as you please, just use protection.

Of course, I was just being flippant. As I said, I do respect your point of view, I just wanted to express mine with a bit of humour.

As for the protection, don't worry, if you clothes your eyes during sex you can't get pregnant.

 

[Colour Scientist]

As for the protection, don't worry, if you clothes your eyes during sex you can't get pregnant.

They make clothes for eyes now? I can't keep up with modern fashions!

[sub][sub]I'm not trying to be mean. :3[/sub][/sub]

 

[CrystalViolet]

If the girl is on top she can't get pregnant either. Gravity.

Oh gosh, can't breath, too much laughing!!!

They make clothes for eyes now? I can't keep up with modern fashions!

[sub][sub]I'm not trying to be mean. :3[/sub][/sub]

I'll ninja edit my post and everyone will think you're a crazy person!

 

[Colour Scientist]

I'll ninja edit my post and everyone will think you're a crazy person!

Joke's on you, everyone already thinks I'm a crazy person!