Poll: Would you hook up with/date a trans person?

[KyuubiNoKitsune-Hime]

Nope. I like women, as in biological women. As in vaginas and the lot. You hear all the stories about straight guys getting all pissed off when they've hooked up with a girl that actually turned out to be a guy. That's my biggest issue with this whole debate. Trans seem to think it's completely fine to be deceptive like that? (Yes it is deception, no matter what way you wish to spin it)

Hey it's only partially the fault of any trans person, especially because a lot of times to us it comes off as a non-issue in the day to day scheme thing of things. That often means that it's something we don't consider, meaning that if it doesn't come up we might not mention it at all, simply because we didn't think about it. You can't put all the blame on us trans people, if you have suspicions it's perfectly okay to ask if someone is trans, or not. Especially because it's considered really bad amongst trans people to intentionally "trap" straight cis males who might have a problem with it. So if you don't find out until it's too late, it might because it never stuck the person you're going out with that it might be an issue. Stop putting malice into things where there more than likely is none.

As a trans person... I have no problem with dating another trans person. I'm also pansexual, so someone being male, female, FtM, or MtF doesn't matter to me for sex, so long as I like the person for who they are.

 

[likalaruku]

Sure, many feminine men look good, masculine women are exciting, intersex people are intriguing. I have my own sense of aesthetics.

I'm a Genderfluid on a good day & Antigender on a bad day. For me, the question is would a transgender person want to date someone like me, who wants to eradicate the concept of gender beyond how your junk looks & how you pee, or would they embrace it?

 

[FPLOON]

In terms of dating, of course I would date a trans person... Granted, I've never asked anyone out on a date, per se, but I digress... However, in terns of hooking up, unless they're the one initiating the hook up in question, I wouldn't want to try to hook up with anyone trans or not... I'd rather date than hook up, anyway...

Other than that, I'm not sure if any form of "technicality" would be necessary if we're already hitting it off in the personality department... If that leads to becoming more than just friends, then so be it...

 

[Ihateregistering1]

Nope, largely because I want kids, and I'm sort of past the "hooking up" part of my life. I'm also not a fan of fake boobs.

If science came along and found a way to convert someone's Y chromosome into an X, and give them a uterus and eggs, and make it so they would adopt biologically female characteristics without any surgical or hormonal assistance? Hmm, maybe.

...if you have suspicions it's perfectly okay to ask if someone is trans, or not.

Ok, gonna strongly disagree with you on this one. Seriously, tell any guy to go up to the next woman he meets and ask her whether she was born male or female, and let me know how it turns out for them.

 

[Shadow flame master]

No. I'm not attracted to them at all. While I'm sure that they are nice people, I am not going to date/hook-up with them. I'll spar with them or have an intellectual debate (please don't, I'm not good at debating) but not date them.

 

[KyuubiNoKitsune-Hime]

...if you have suspicions it's perfectly okay to ask if someone is trans, or not.

Ok, gonna strongly disagree with you on this one. Seriously, tell any guy to go up to the next woman he meets and ask her whether she was born male or female, and let me know how it turns out for them.

Well I was speaking specifically in the case if someone has suspicions, so thanks for taking a small part of my post out of context. As things go there are ways to tell if someone is trans. The leg spacing on biological men is different from biological women. So that could be used to spur the question in that case.

 

[KyuubiNoKitsune-Hime]

I still think it's a shitty thing to do. There's tons of proof on the straight guy freaking out or what not. Whether it being in a relationship or casual sense. You know it's an issue, you know people have a big problem with it. Just be upfront. Either they'll be cool with it, not be interested and in the extreme they get violent or really aggressive. Well, would you want to be involved with someone who reacts that way? It's never going to be a simple utopia where everything goes down smoothly. Not unless it was in some Trans specific bar/club.

Yes, also, even amongst trans people you'll find that we find it a shitty thing to do to people. It's a lie of omission, the question is weather, or not it's intentional. Grant people the benefit of the doubt here. I've had dates where I've failed to mention I'm trans to the other person, not intentionally, I wasn't trying to mislead them. I'm generally reserved about the potential of sex until I really know someone anyways, so trans-panic has never really been an issue for me that way. Anyone I get into bed with already knows I'm trans. It's one of those things, I can't be blamed for not telling someone about my biology, especially when being my self is a normal thing to me. Actually it saved me a few times, as I've dated people who just started a line of conversation where they told me they were vehemently anti-trans.

I understand the position of people who find out the bad way and I sympathize. On the other hand you have to understand that it's not something that a trans person is just going to blurt out for various reasons. It's likely not to cross the trans persons mind that them being trans might ruin romantic options, because they're probably not thinking about that.

Also there is an element of victim blaming when people get defended for beating, or killing a trans person, because they found out in the worst possible way. More often than not it's an honest mistake. The one thing I object to is anyone having sex on the first date, that's risky behaviour, and really isn't justifiable at any rate. Like how do you know for sure that person doesn't have an STI.

 

[chuckman1]

No, doing something that sounds like it would require some amount of effort. Also Alex Jones told me that trans people have super cooties, and nobody wants super cooties.

Don't you know they're part of the gay agenda and the globalist zionist islamist lizard jewish banker conspiracy that got obama the socialist elected Ah Alex Jones what an interesting figure for the people to put their trust in to. BUY MY WATER FILTER THE GOVT WATER IS COMMIE MIND CONTROL.

Idk I just think trans people are sexy, it's like genitals that can seem disgusting on a guy are somehow cute to me on them, and the post op ones can be pretty great to. Hopefully one day I can be part of the jewish islamic gay lizard consspiracy of bankers and try something with a trans girl

 

[KyuubiNoKitsune-Hime]

I've never had it happen to me, and I don't doubt a lot of the time it's an honest mistake.

It's a shitty grey area for all involved. It should be open to both sides, but it's rude to ask and sometimes too confronting for the trans person to openly say it straight away. Hell my biggest issue in clubs these days is gay guys who don't take "No, I'm straight" as an answer anyway. The venues me and my mates frequent are mostly straight people all around.

That's really disturbing, and those sort of gay men are disgusting, not in the least because the way they're acting kinda outs them as sluts. Then again I've been to numerous gay bars with some gay friends, I've found most of them I'm not considered "dating material"... But that's beside the point. The point I'm making is that it seems a majority of gay bars have rules about this, if someone declines you because they're straight, then you're expected to respect that. If you fail to respect that, you'll get bounced right out of the joint, and probably banned for life. So that's probably why you see so many pushy ones at non-gay centric clubs.

Then again I've been to more than a few gay bars that had some sort of a "convert a hetro" night. These clubs are not the ones where they have the rules against harassing straight men, also. So you find all kinds. The can't take no for an answer kind are of course around in the straight world too.

 

[Death_Cometh]

If I find someone attractive I don't see what difference it makes if they used to be another gender. I might not be into a pre-op MtF but post-op wouldn't bother me plus no accidental pregnancies.

If you meet a beautiful, smart, funny, nice caring person that you are attracted to and who is attracted to you, why would you let something that isn't really a thing any more or may not be in the future bother you. Considering how rare it is to find someone that is worth dating why would you let someone being transsexual or transgender stop you.

Just my thoughts.

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

Yep ... I'll be fucked by anything. Well, anything human, or a machine.

I'm way more into BDSM though ... I'm way more into the non-penetrative sexual stuff, or at least a heavier emphasis on non-penetrative sexual activities over the act of simple penetrative sex.

Totally invested in corset piercing, chains, ice, fish hooks, electrical shocks, etc. Hate cigarette burning, ditto spitting (kind of gross). Also, body painting. Not really sexual... kind of sensual? It's hard to explain. And like everything else, way more better with a mountain of blow.

Oh, trans here ... genderqueer specifically.

 

[Evil Smurf]

Yeah, I'm attracted to attractive people. I'm also really easy.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

Sure, don't see why not. Obviously as long as we like each other but that goes for anybody, not just Trans people.

If you mean "hook up" in terms of a one night stand/casual sex then I'm not really interested in doing that with anyone.

 

[infohippie]

I already do, and she's lovely.

 

[Darth Rosenberg]

So many vanillas here, it seems... Yes to both. Couldn't really give a stuff about procreation (and having a family these days can be done in a variety of ways anyway), and oldskool gender norms/identities are a little dull. If the person's worth it, and I think they're desirable, that's all that matters.

 

[Casual Shinji]

The thing is that I find extreme plastic surgery a huge turn off, whether it's a woman just getting work done or a man becoming a woman. If it was a man magically turned into a woman by a genie or something, I wouldn't have a problem. They could still have the manliest voice and I wouldn't care. But if I can tell things have been severly sliced and diced and shifted around, it gives me the heebie jeebies.

Though Lord knows why a trans person would wanna date me.

 

[L. Declis]

Afraid not.

I'm very much live and let live, but I'm not gay enough to date a woman who looks like a man, and a woman with a penis has too much penis for me, and cannot bear children and so we could never have a family.

 

[StormShaun]

Both for no unfortunately.
Mostly due to preference. I grew up in a all-boys school, and I/my personality just decided I wanted a cute girl back then.
This was in the age where I didn't know much about the world, so I grew into a adult that just likes vanilla girls.

I won't be offended if you hit on me, complimented me, or whatever.
I've shot declined a bisexual before, but I certainly did thank him for complimenting me, because that is always nice.

Still, I'm fine with my current preference.
The biggest problem, I'm still single ... Eh, I'm fine with that. Sure glad that I am patent though.

 

[Thaluikhain]

I don't see why it should be a problem.

Though, I sometimes wonder how many straight guys would date a trans woman, but only if she didn't have a bigger penis than him. OTOH, if you are comparing sizes, things have gone pretty far already.

 

[Baron von Blitztank]

I've no qualms with transgendered people, but they don't change the angle of my dangle.