Poll: Would you raise another person's child?

[vento 231]

Inspired by the thread were the persons spouse cheated or something, any who:
Say you were going on your 3rd date with a very attractive person and you are getting along great and have several things in common, but on this date and you found out he/she had 6 kids ages 1-16, all of which are well behaved, but do have problems (nothing major) and have not seen the other parent in a very long time and do not receive any sort of payment from the other biological parent, and live with your date, would you continue to date this person?
I would as long as I got along with the children, or at least try it out for a while.

 

[s0denone]

6 kids?
No way.
Had she had one, or maybe two... Maybe I'd consider it.

I'm not in a place in my life where I want, or need, children in my life. That fact that they're not my own wouldn't help at all.

My answer is "No".

 

[Girl With One Eye]

No, I want someone who is going to have children with me. I don't want to raise someone elses kids.

 

[NeutralDrow]

That seems like a large amount of kids. I'd certainly have no problem with helping raise them, but I might wonder what exactly she's been doing...besides the obvious, of course.

 

[Gralian]

I don't want kids, period. Nor do i want anything to do with kids.

It depends - if i'd known this woman for a long time and i felt as though i was in love with her, properly in love with her, then i might. But not if it was just some girl i was "dating". Though i wouldn't be a dick about it, i'd kindly explain to her that i'm not looking for a 'family' in a relationship.

 

[Furious Styles]

not 6, hell no!

one or two maybe, depending on whether they were good kids or not

 

[Radeonx]

No, because at the most, I want 2-3 kids. And I wouldn't help raise them, even if she only had 1 or 2, because they aren't mine.

 

[Infinatex]

6 kids? 1 would be enough to put me off (even if that 1 didn't live with them).

 

[AmrasCalmacil]

I don't think I'd raise even my own kids, what chance have six of someone else's got?

 

[Harkonnen64]

Depends on some very strong circumstances. Like if my brother or sister died and a nephew/niece, I would look after him/her/them, but only if I was doing well enough financially to support them; otherwise, I would suggest another relative.

 

[iLikeHippos]

I wouldn't want to raise someone else children unless their parents or other relatives were dead/gone permanently.

It's THEIR children. Not mine! I would NEVER let MY kids get raised by some girlfriend I've gone on dates with.

No exception there.

 

[Mr.Mattress]

I would if I had to, but I wouldn't if I don't have to.

 

[s0denone]

Depends on some very strong circumstances. Like if my brother or sister died and a nephew/niece, I would look after him/her/them, but only if I was doing well enough financially to support them; otherwise, I would suggest another relative.

I'm sorry... What!?.

Please read the OP next time, mate, it isn't even that long:

Say you were going on your 3rd date with a very attractive person and you are getting along great and have several things in common, but on this date and you found out he/she had 6 kids ages 1-16, all of which are well behaved, but do have problems (nothing major) and have not seen the other parent in a very long time and do not receive any sort of payment from the other biological parent, and live with your date, would you continue to date this person?

In other words that is a specific scenario, not some random occurrence of death in the family.

I think we'd all help out to the best of our abilities in such a situation, so I don't think that would be a good question for a thread like this

 

[Blue Musician]

Not sure, but I never wanted kids.

 

[Jark212]

Not likely, I must pass on my seed, and SIX KIDS THAT'S INSANE!!!

 

[Jedoro]

6 kids?
No way.
Had she had one, or maybe two... Maybe I'd consider it.

QFT

I don't make enough to help support six kids AND stay in college.

 

[HerrBobo]

Inspired by the thread were the persons spouse cheated or something, any who:
Say you were going on your 3rd date with a very attractive person and you are getting along great and have several things in common, but on this date and you found out he/she had 6 kids ages 1-16, all of which are well behaved, but do have problems (nothing major) and have not seen the other parent in a very long time and do not receive any sort of payment from the other biological parent, and live with your date, would you continue to date this person?
I would as long as I got along with the children, or at least try it out for a while.

I have been involved with3 single mothers. All of them were lovely. The kid did not bother me.

 

[manic_depressive13]

What kind of a jerk waits until the third date to tell you they have kids. you'd think it's the kind of thing you'd want to know before you started dating them. Other than that, I just don't want six kids, regardless of who they belong to. It wouldn't bother me that they're not mine, just that there's too many of them. Not to mention I don't like people who want/ have (lots of) kids anyway, which immediately tells me we're not compatible.

Having said that, if I do decide to have children in the future, I intend to adopt. I just don't like the circumstance presented in the example.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I'd like to raise my OWN children thank you very much. Call me old fashioned, but that's how I feel

 

[Scizophrenic Llama]

I'd prefer a woman of which I could have my own children with, but it would really depend. I might be willing to have a relationship with somebody who has a single child, not six.