Poll: Your True Gender [Expanded]
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\Corpse XxX said:
Then She is not a shemale... that is a derogitory term and is usually only applied to the porn industry. She is a male to female transsexual like myself.
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Um... I'm a bisexual girl?
I can be attracted to both sexes, but have never really desired to be anything other than the gender I am.
Mind you, when I was 10 and my strict parents banned me from playing soccer because it was "unfeminine", I wanted to be a boy. Just because it seemed like so much more fun! Now, I think I'm in rebellion a little bit. I'm learning to ride a motorbike, I box and my favorite activities include gaming and caring for my dogs.
None of which I was allowed to do as a child. Because "nice girls don't do those things".
I can be attracted to both sexes, but have never really desired to be anything other than the gender I am.
Mind you, when I was 10 and my strict parents banned me from playing soccer because it was "unfeminine", I wanted to be a boy. Just because it seemed like so much more fun! Now, I think I'm in rebellion a little bit. I'm learning to ride a motorbike, I box and my favorite activities include gaming and caring for my dogs.
None of which I was allowed to do as a child. Because "nice girls don't do those things".
I want to ask why the Escapist has so many awesome gender/sexuality threads...? I'm obvy new here...
I'm guessing it's because a safe space has been established. It's amazing what happens when there's safe space! *hugs*
OT: I'm genderqueer aka "other." It seems obvious to me that sexuality, gender, race and all of those other strict divisive categories are actually spectra (see Kinsey scale or Kate Bornstein's Gender Workbook). My biological sex is stable but my gender is ever-changing... as so many of these posts imply, gender can be a state of mind, a collections of interests and activities, a "look" even! But for others gender is stable and vitally important, specifically bringing physical sex in line with "soul" gender. I led a workshop once re: sex and gender. It's amazing how ignorant and petulant the people in that course were (people who were already at a conference about gender flexibility!) vs. the relatively sane (and funny) responses here on the often violent phobia-riddled interwebs.
Thanks, Escapist & Ellen of Kitten!
I'm guessing it's because a safe space has been established. It's amazing what happens when there's safe space! *hugs*
OT: I'm genderqueer aka "other." It seems obvious to me that sexuality, gender, race and all of those other strict divisive categories are actually spectra (see Kinsey scale or Kate Bornstein's Gender Workbook). My biological sex is stable but my gender is ever-changing... as so many of these posts imply, gender can be a state of mind, a collections of interests and activities, a "look" even! But for others gender is stable and vitally important, specifically bringing physical sex in line with "soul" gender. I led a workshop once re: sex and gender. It's amazing how ignorant and petulant the people in that course were (people who were already at a conference about gender flexibility!) vs. the relatively sane (and funny) responses here on the often violent phobia-riddled interwebs.
Thanks, Escapist & Ellen of Kitten!
I'm sorry but the word you seem to be hunting for there is Intersex.Zeeky_Santos said:
I have NEVER met another transsexual or intersexed individual in my life that appreciates that term being used to describe them.
Your facts are wrong, I'm sorry.
Shemale is a derogitory term for pre operative transsexuals. It is mainly used in the porn industry and by people who are ignorant to the proper acceptable terms.
-Tabs<3-
Yeah.. Something like that, im not really sure about the correct linguistical terms to describe him/her.. But evidently you doDaedalus1942 said:
Easier to call him by her new girl name, to each his/her own i guess..
Not to speak for you Deadelus but as a gender activist I figured I'd step in a bit to maybe clarify: "Shemale" is *considered* derogatory within the transsexual community. Same as hermaphrodite is usually offensive to the intersex community. I think it's obvious that you're not intending offense, so if you are hoping to speak about members of the trans community without *sounding* derogatory (again, it's clear that's not your intention) members of the trans community prefer the term trans, transsexual, transgender or whichever term applies. Being free to define ones self if a huge part of these communities and showing respect for that quest is a great way to show respect for the community and people within it!Zeeky_Santos said:
PS: I know from long experience that sharing detailed information about their genitalia is something most members of the trans community are VERY tired of doing. Focusing on self/personality vs. genitals/breasts can be another great way to support your trans pals!
