Poll: You're a virgin, would you rather your first time be with another virgin or someone with experience?

[alandavidson]

A simple question really: You're a virgin, and for some random-ass reason you've had bestowed upon you a great power, the power to choose whether you lose your virginity to some other virgin, or an experienced individual. They are identical in every other way.

Wait, we can't choose who we lose our virginity to if we haven't been granted a great power? I thought that was a big part of "growing up".

I just assumed it was a really, really lame superpower that precisely mimics a normal feature of life.

Quick! We need to alert the studios that "Virginman" needs to be made.

Wait... I think I watched that last week.

 

[Smiley Face]

I can see why some people might prefer one over the other, both seem to have minor advantages - for the virgin, it seems more special, you're sharing something, there's less pressure, and for the experienced, they know what they're doing and it's less likely things will go horribly wrong.

Personally, I don't think that any difference between tese hypothetical situations would be all that significant. Both sides of the tradeoff seem to be very, very minor, paling in importance to more important questions on the situation. Ultimately, it doesn't matter to me, I'd be just as fine either way.

 

[dobahci]

Whenever I ask for help (teaching), the flow chart goes like this:

First comes the smug condescending tone.

Second comes the drawn out lectures that treat you like a child.

Third then comes the torrent of absolute crap and passive aggressive insults.

Fourth They finish, and I walk away learning never to do that again.

So that's why I learned never ask for help, ever. Because it goes right down the same path every single time.

If that's true in general, then... well, that's rather unfortunate. I've met people who were like that, and I don't have a high tolerance for them. But not everyone is like that.

I mean, everyone's experiences are bound to be different, but there's a good reason why a (potential) sexual partner would NOT act that way: they would be ruining it for themselves. They want to have a great time having sex, too, and that's not going to be served by them being condescending and insulting you.

And I think, in a working relationship in general, if there is trust, then at some point they're going to lean on you, and at some other point you're going to lean on them. You support each other, and help each other. When one person is weak, the other is strong, so you can complement each other in that way. If you refuse to allow anyone to help you, then it means you don't trust them, which is only going to be a barrier to any normal relationship sooner or later.

And if you do get that reaction from someone when asking them for help, it doesn't necessarily mean that you were wrong to ask. It just means that particular person was an asshole, and maybe you should find someone else more worthy of your trust in the future.

 

[bojackx]

A virgin, I suppose. Less chance of STDs and such.

Well I did say they were identical in all other ways, so if the experienced person had STDs, then the virgin would too, which I mean would be pretty rare.

 

[Crazy_Dude]

Don't care just need to get laid.