cojo965 said:
Back when me and my brother watched Dragon Ball and its followups I really liked Goku. Now that I'm in my 20s and looking back on those days, it gets hard not to realize that he was kind of a colossal prick. His standard mode of behavior seemed to be: ditch family and responsibilities at the drop of a whim or failing that, put those responsibilities on his son. I mean, Christ, Vegeta may have been really obvious that he was also a dickhead but when a guy like him proves more responsible than the main protagonist something has gone wrong. For anyone who doesn't buy it, I distinctly remember Vegeta taking his daughter shopping in a bit I caught from GT that also showed that he bothered to get a drivers license despite clearly not needing one, two things I don't recall Goku ever doing (he spent most of his time dragging Gohan around not the other way around). In short, go to Hell Goku.
More recently I was thinking back on SuperJeenius' Lets Play of Persona 3: FES and I can't really like him/her either. Now let me preface this part with, I haven't personally played any of the Persona games for a number of reasons (wrong console, micromanaging seems a bit much, etc.) but I do like watching stuff from the games. Perhaps that's the wrong wording though, I should say that like watching stuff from Persona 4 because, retroactively, 3's main protagonist does something I didn't think possible, he/she manages to drag the rest of the cast down with him/her. This is mostly down to personal philosophy than anything, but I just cannot back some of the shit this character does. I find it hard to put into words myself but I hope someone can describe my feeling toward this bastard/*****.
What are some protagonists that you cannot support?
An important thing to understand is that Goku is very loosely based on a mythological character, the so called "Monkey King" who while generally good in the final equasion, is also known for his irresponsibility, mischief (often times accidental), and a degree of greed and gluttony... as well as ultimately winning in the end (for the right side) despite whatever odds he might be facing. All of these traits are present in Goku to some extent (I've read a few things about it, despite not being a DBZ fan). The point behind Goku is that it's his nature, and that's why he's not called on it more often, and what's more those who love him, or become his friends, might occasionally get angry with him for his traits, but ultimately grew to like or love him knowing his nature to some extent. This is one of the big reasons why Goku goes running off on scatter brained adventures, and puts "normal" responsibility on other people.
I think part of the message here is in some ways that you have to take the entire picture, and really some girls do fall for the whole "Rambling Man" thing, at the end of the day though you have to understand what your getting and that some people are not going to change, those same features you find endearing, can be annoying when taken to the level of an actual commitment. This is also somewhat mirrored in psychology where a lot of people have pointed out that the guys girls want to sleep with and have fun, are not the ones that they ultimately wind up wanting to marry and/or have kids with, and also that relationships where they try and make something work despite these kinds of personality traits tend to fall apart.
One also has to remember that there ARE things far more important than family, despite what some might argue, indeed family and those commitments can be seen as downright selfish in the big picture. Things like fighting for the general people, serving king and country, and in fiction saving the world/universe/multiverse all have to take priority. Remember that DBZ is also Japanese, where these sentiments have been taken to the extreme, and it's expected that one of the sacrifices a warrior/fighter like Goku is expected to make is in having a normal family life or environment. Your fighting, service, and training must come before everything... and sacrificing the relative selfishness of your own fantasy for that kind of perfection, those skills, and then using them for the greater good, is part of what you give up. In the case of Goku though, in going the whole "Monkey King" way, he's portrayed differently than the usual version which is the utterly emotionally repressed Samurai-type who shows no emotion under the most extreme situations, and might love his family, but is going to go serve his lord, fight for the country, or even run himself through with his own sword before their interests, and even put them to the sword as much as he loves them if honor or the greater good demands it. It's something a lot of Westerners can't inherently get behind. With Goku at least he's going to still put his other comittments first, but if his family is threatened he is going to try and have his cake and eat it too, as much as he can.... but in the end if it comes down to being a father/husband under routine conditions and wandering and refining his skills, the wandering and refinement must come first, and in his case it's his nature rather than a rational commitment. Get what I'm saying?
When it comes to Persona 3, I think your kind of missing part of the point of the game. The protagonist in that game actually doesn't seek out the situation he/she is in, and actually most of the other characters he "brings down" are all involved in it to begin with. What's more the entire theme of the game is that time is limited, and he even has death visiting his bedroom to sort of remind him of this fact (and also gently nudge him towards saving everyone, while also granting some of his own power). The point is about making the most of what time you have, and being fantasy the game actually puts a very direct, magically themed time limit into place. When you consider what the protagonist of that game is dealing with (which on some levels makes it a horror game) I think he was actually fairly upbeat considering the circumstances. Also don't forget the intended symbolism in connection with the message in terms of all the characters unlocking their powers by shooting themselves in the head with a gunlike object.... that wasn't done specifically to get a rise out of people, it's sort of a statement connected to the game premise and the inevitability of death, combined with the self sacrifice everyone is involved in for the benefit of the world.
That said, I will say that I find a lot of more recent "tainted" heroes and protagonists harder to relate with rather than the ones I grew up with. I also tend to wind up thinking in opposite terms from you when family is involved, whenever I see someone going to epic lengths to save their family/children I can empathize up until the point where they start making decisions that hurt other people and their families without any kind of other greater principle involved, and then we're supposed to say empathize with the fact that some mother or father let a dozen people die because it was "to save their kids" or whatever. I understand the emotional aspects of it, but overall I just can't accept that
as being a heroic act or an explanation that redeems other actions.
To extend the above to an extent, let's look at Goku again. Like it or not Goku is one of the few beings that can actually step up and fight at the level needed to protect his world, while it has other protectors besides him, he almost always winds up playing a key role, even if it's just to slow down some enemy a bit while another character eventually finishes things. As irresponsible as he is, entire planets full of people continue to exist and live because he wanders around, trains, above everything, and ultimately keeps pace with the latest threats. If he was to stay home and be a good dad, trillions of people would die, heck all of reality might literally be destroyed. It represents some truly borked priorities to say that he should stay home and raise his kids, and let everyone else die, which is where such arguments ultimately go. What's more him not acting like he does would ultimately mean he, his wife, and kids
would also likely die as well. Now granted, a lot of the DBZ "rogues gallery" does exist because of Goku, but not all
of it, and when your dealing with guys who blow up planets for lulz all it takes is one of these guys to not be
stopped in the end.
In the scope of fiction and comics this issue has been addressed in the past, with question like "what if this character retired and decided to raise a family", and as a general rule it almost never works out well for anyone, including them. Oftentimes ending with the hero having to give it all up and come back out to fight anyway, oftentimes with the death of their family caused by them stopping their heroics being a part of it.
But then again, understand we're talking within fiction, not within real life. The closest thing that applies to ordinary people is probably things like the military, police, or fire and rescue. The commitment those jobs involve and the constant risk, which come at the expense of friends and family in many cases, along with the constant risk of death, is one of the reasons why those jobs are so well respected, and giving all of that up, or putting pressure on it (causing high divorce rates and the like) is one of the reasons those people are considered to be heroic and generally fairly well respected. Granted some dude whose a cop isn't saving the universe, but when he intervenes on your behalf with all that training and experience, your damn happy he's there. Ditto if some fireman takes out a wall so you can escape a burning building or whatever.