Psychological effects from work environment?

[negimafan587]

Well i'm currently employed at a fast food restaurant and am seeing that i'm not very good at anything. Previous to working at said establishment i worked under an alpha male-ish man who thought only his way was the correct way and everything else was wrong. Anything i did was either not up to his standards or wasn't done quick enough. After several months of this he actually got me to cry.(I know sad right?) but he didn't see, It was after one of the toilets overflowed (nothing to do with me) I offered to mop it up, and he went on about how I was probably to dumb to do it. That was too far and I couldn't just laugh it off. Shortly after I quit now I've been working 6 months and seem to have found some psychological effects. I'm terrified of making the wrong choice and being to slow, and cant do anything without being 100% correct for fear of messing up. I think my managers think i'm a lost cause.Really i'm just wondering what the fuck I should do....

 

[requisitename]

You know, that's rough. I feel for you.

I know this is going to sound crazy, but if I were you, I'd tell my managers what's going on with you. It has been my experience that people are usually much more willing to work with you and accept your "weirdness" if they know what's going on. You don't have to go into detail about what made you quit, etc., just tell them something along the lines of, "Hey.. my last boss was a control freak and kind of a dick and now I'm worried that I won't do (or I'm not doing) a good enough job for YOU."

Other than that, it takes time for those feelings to subside. My step-father was like that - nothing I did was good enough, fast enough, right.. and I came out of it with one hell of a complex about fucking shit up. As I've gotten older, though, it's gotten better. I still have more anxiety than most people do about being "good enough," but it's not as bad as it once was.

Good luck.

 

[TheDooD]

I feel ya pain too my mom acts like this. She thinks the second I apply for a job I'm automatically gonna gets just cause. Then she gets pissed off and thinks I'm lying because I'm getting no instant replies. Then she talks down to me saying I'm slow, a retard and gay just because I stay online a majority of the time. I keep telling her that most jobs in the current area want managers not grunts and or they want 2-5 years experience minimum.

I normally lock up and get quiet when I'm pissed off mainly because when if and when I start yelling I'm loudest and the most commanding sounding in room. Once my mom pushed me unto yelling at her because I was tired of her shit and I saw she was legitimately frighten of me then. After that I pretty much learned it's pointless trying to present a point to her because she's way too ignorant to even listen to me all she'll do is yell and tell me the shut up.

At the OP; I know how it feels to be talked to like your shit I been through it most of my life Yet I see the light at things and don't like the bullshit really get to me anymore. Which is turn seems to REALLY pisses some people off that I'm always so calm.