Public Displays of Affection

[Adzma]

Hate it. Even hand holding, although that's largely because I'm so ronery. However, I can't change who I am and PDA shits me to no end.

 

[AngloDoom]

Hand holding is okay, but anything beyond that bothers me, because it shows that they think they are superior for being in a relationship and not single, and everyone else is an insignificant worm. At least they got the part about everyone else being insignificant worms right, but they don't accept that they are equally insignificant worms themselves.

To be honest, man, when I'm walking alongside a girl with my hand in hers, holding her waist, or with my arm around her shoulder the very last thing I'm thinking about is everyone else.

OT: I see nothing wrong with public displays of affection. When the action strays to sexual territory is when it gets awkward- but to be honest I still wouldn't care so much. I'll happily hold hands, hug, peck and kiss my girlfriend and I'll often put my arm around her waist while we walk because I think her curves are beautiful. However, I wouldn't start biting her neck in public and expect people not to get awkward.

EDIT -

I think full-on sexual acts in public don't fall into this debate half the time. People running off behind the bushes to have fun isn't intentionally done regardless of an audience - it's just horny and impatient people. If people want to and do have sex in front of an audience in the street it's illegal anyway.

 

[rokkolpo]

Love is in the air, Deal with it.

I'd say I don't like people French kissing in public, but I'd be a hypocrite.

 

[DefinitelyPsychotic]

The only place where I find PDAs a bit outlandish are at restaurants. "Come on people, I'm eating!"

 

[Vault101]

well I dont really care what other people do

but for ME no way...in fact even hand holding pissed me off (dude there's a time and place for it...this is NOT it)

 

[Eduku]

I don't see any reason to be remotely angry or annoyed with PDAs. Just seems angsty and bitter to me. I say if they want to, go for it, as long as it's not, er, illegal or anything.

 

[Meggiepants]

Asking them to stop seems a little ridiculous to me. I mean, I'm not being forced to stare at them. I do have the power to look away.

However, I do think overly physical PDAs are uncomfortable to watch. Mostly because I feel a bit like a voyeur when I see people doing this stuff, and voyeurism is not my thing.

 

[IamQ]

I generally go as far as making out and not very frequent quick gropes in public, if people don't like it they can avert their gaze, its not like complaining to me will actually get me to stop.

I never care. It's not like I am affected by them hugging, kissing or making out. I don't go all: "I saw a couple making out yesterday, didn't like it at all, and today when I woke up, I had leprosy. "

You Sir/Madam/Other have damn fine comedic taste.

Why thank you good Sir/Madam/Other.

 

[Phasmal]

Me and my boyfriend often cuddle in public if I'm cold or bored, but just cuddling, not face sucking or anything. And we always hold hands, I dont see any problem with it.
I've never really thought twice about it, me and my boyfriend are a couple, so we hold hands and hug. If you have a problem with it maybe you shouldnt be staring at strangers in public and get on with what you were doing.

Now everytime we cuddle I am going to think someone is watching... >.>

 

[Phasmal]

ugh double post sorry

 

[ShadowsofHope]

Honestly? Anything below outright fucking in public is fine with me (outside). I may have some jealously over seeing people intimate in public, but I'd be a hypocrite to decry them myself - considering I'd do it as well if I could get away with it. Although as soon as you get into public fucking, it starts to get.. awkward, to say the least (and also the only time I'll ever throw out a "Get a room" remark, really). Oddly enough, however, doing such in a restaurant or indoors invokes boundless amounts of irritation from me.

It's sad beating someone within an inch of their life in a back alley causes less "distress" to passerbyers in this society than seeing an odd boob or hip on a human being in public, not to mention media attention..

 

[cainx10a]

We're not inconsiderate, if we were disturbing anyone, we'd say "sorry" and move to another spot elsewhere. I have been "caught" before, and all I got was a smile and a thumbs-up.

You are completely inconsiderate. At the very least, you would be reminding me of what I can never have, and what everybody persists in making me feel like a freak for never being able to get. At the worst, you would actually nauseate me, and frankly, I don't like the taste of vomit at all. The idea of two other people engaging in sex actually makes me feel sick, and as such, you could be considered absolutely and entirely inconsiderate and perverted for engaging in sexual intercourse in public by my standards.

OT: I hold hands, kiss (on the cheek or mouth), cuddle, etc with my boyfriend in public, but we're aware of what is and isn't appropriate. IMO, people who can't handle it should move. Why shouldn't I be allowed to express love for someone in public (in an appropriate fashion) because it infringes in their delicate sensibilities?

Why should people still be allowed to persist in insisting that I'm a freak and a monster because I can't find anybody who would ever want to be at all intimate with me? I know I'm a freak. It doesn't make it hurt any less when people keep on going on about it.

I'm in the same boat or was that a raft as you Sir, but seriously, if you can't watch them cudding or w/e, move on. I personally can't wait for the advent of fembots ... the cyborg kind with tools to start WW3. I doubt these people even care you exist when they are doing their PDAs thingy, it's just 'them', the world around them can burn, but they will still be PDA-ing. Ain't that romantic? Kinda. A little bit.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

well it depends on the place and time. rolling through the park next to a playground while making out seems to be not alright (at least those puritan parents next to us seemed to have this opinion), but at in the shadows next to my favourite club at night i can do whatever two drunk adults are consensual to do. When some pervs cant look another way i expect at least applause (and maybe tips)afterwards




(captcha: "finger lickin good" naughty forum)

 

[TheScottishFella]

I couldn't care less. If they like each other, I ain't going to intervene. Of course to be fair I have heard people joining the mile high club on a plane bathroom that was behind me, which was kind of awkward.

 

[Cavatica]

Why not stay home on the couch and stream netflix? Are you just wanting to show off in front of an audience or what? I'm not sure it even bugs me, but I am honestly a bit confused about the whole thing.

I have been dating my current boyfriend for about five months. In those five months, I don't believe that we have yet completed a movie -- in any genre -- without stopping to swap all kinds of fluids.

That being the case, movie theaters are effectively an additional form of birth control.

Just sayin'.

XD Well, that does seem logical. You ever had a movie you ended up making out through the whole time, and afterwards were like "Crap, I really wanted to see that one!"

I don't really make out in movie theaters, honestly. I'm not freaked out by germs or anything, but there's just sort of this pervasive aura of... stickiness... that I don't find conducive to snogging.

At HOME, though, oh god. It's more like, "Damn, I actually wanted to see that movie. Could you hand me my underwear? I think it's behind the couch cushions."

 

[Verlander]

Nothing really wrong with hands and kissing, there is a point where it gets irritating though. But that's when you should look away - if you don't like it, don't watch. People should be able to do pretty much whatever in public, as long as it's not a sexual act.

I was at a Dream Theater concert on Sunday, and the couple next to me started fucking, and at one point were leaning on me. That pissed me off. Not the fucking, but the leaning.

I guess what I'm trying to say is shit only bothers me if it actually interferes with me. Or society as a whole. Which "PDA"'s don't.

How the hell do you get away with fucking at a gig?

Technically it was a festival. They were off their faces, quite close tot he front, and had been kissing hard and groping for ages, but it was ignorable. They they took it to the next step, which was irritating as hell

I was at a Dream Theater concert on Sunday, and the couple next to me started fucking, and at one point were leaning on me. That pissed me off. Not the fucking, but the leaning.

If a guy had done that to me I'd have punched him in the back of the fucking head! I got in a fight with a guy during Slipknot at Download '09 because he was fingering his girlfriend right next to me. There's some shit you just shouldn't have to put up with in public...

Download 09 was incredible though, I can see why some people got carried away

 

[TheLaofKazi]

I honestly don't care. People can do whatever they want affection-wise. If I have a problem with it, it's my problem, and I will simply keep walking, move on, and joke about what I just saw to my friends.

 

[someguyfromhell666]

Hand holding is okay, but anything beyond that bothers me, because it shows that they think they are superior for being in a relationship and not single, and everyone else is an insignificant worm. At least they got the part about everyone else being insignificant worms right, but they don't accept that they are equally insignificant worms themselves.

How does that mean that they think they are superior?

Sorry. I forgot to mention how more than once I have actually had to deal with a couple kissing and blocking my way. Particularly in the middle of a stairwell when I am trying to get to my next class (Yes, I am young).

 

[game-lover]

Why does it worry you so? If you happen to catch sight of a couple shagging will you suddenly go blind? More importantly, why the hell is sex and/or nudity considered "indecent" in the first place? It's a perfectly natural thing for two primates to engage in. I think all the weight it's afforded is ridiculous.
We're not inconsiderate, if we were disturbing anyone, we'd say "sorry" and move to another spot elsewhere. I have been "caught" before, and all I got was a smile and a thumbs-up.

I don't know. Sometimes I wonder. I certainly think it's possible that's for damn sure. But I mostly hope, I'll be able to keep it together so I can maybe do something assholish like record it and then spread it around.

Just because it's natural doesn't mean you gotta let the whole world know, though. And the way I see it, if you're gonna do such a thing in an area that you know for a fact is not private, you're tempting fate. And maybe asking for it.

Good for you that you got no consequences the first time that you were caught.

If you're out in a group and have a napkin and pen, rate 'em like the Olympics.

I... err... may have actually done that once. To this day I'll never know if Blowjob Couple was upset that we all watched, or upset that two of us only gave them a 5. But y'know, if you're doing something like that in public (and not behind a bush in the woods somewhere where it's vaguely reasonable to expect that people won't be), you can't really complain when you draw an audience.

And you are one of my new favorite people! I agree with this.

I think a bathroom is a place like that. You know full well people may be coming in and out to use the facilities when you pick the area. If you're not at least hiding in a stall, then people should just be able to assume that they can come and take a look at you.

 

[VaudevillianVeteran]

I think feeling each other up and sucking each other's faces is pretty much unacceptable. Holding hands, cuddling, kissing, I really don't see any problem with that. Nothing wrong with being affectionate but it's when they're all over each other...