quasi-long distance relationship

[Cyfu]

So I just got together with a girl I met this summer and it's really great. There is, however, a small problem.
I live in like 40km south of Trondheim(Norway) and she lives in Ålesund. That's quite a distance especially when I'm 17 and can't get my drivers license until I'm 18(and then there's actually getting the money to pay for the drivers license and actually buying a car, which is pretty damn expensive because I live in fucking Norway)and the bus is kind of expensive and it takes 6 fucking hours with bus to get to Ålesund. I mean, it's worth it but god, that's a long time. Plane is kinda of expensive too, but not so much more expensive than bus and it's only 40min with plane + about an hour drive from the airport to her house.

Anyways, I don't have the money to get to see her as much as I'd like and I'm wondering if any of you have some advice to help me get this to work. I know long- distance relationships are hard, but I really want this to work.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Skype and regular phone calls.
Particularly Skype.

 

[manic_depressive13]

You make it sound like you are the one who will have to do all the travelling. Why don't you take turns? That will make it easier on your wallet.

Although personally I think 17 is a bit young to be trying a long distance relationship. I'm not saying it's impossible, but you need a lot of maturity and patience to make it work. Are you certain that both of you have that?

 

[Cyfu]

Skype and regular phone calls.
Particularly Skype.

We got that covered xD. I have talked with her everyday, I'm not with her, on skype since we got together.
EDIT: and we talked A LOT before we got together as well xD. I think it was almost everyday.. so, yeah.

You make it sound like you are the one who will have to do all the travelling. Why don't you take turns? That will make it easier on your wallet.

Although personally I think 17 is a bit young to be trying a long distance relationship. I'm not saying it's impossible, but you need a lot of maturity and patience to make it work. Are you certain that both of you have that?

Yeah, I think we will be taking turns visiting each other.
and I do consider myself mature and she is too, so that won't be a problem.

Would it be viable for her to meet you half way? That way it's a bit more fair. If not, maybe she can come visit you? You shouldn't have to shoulder all of the visits on your end, because that's not fair. Short of that, Skype works really well. Get a webcam/headset and keep in touch with her that way until you can work out a plan of action to see her. If you have a job, try and save up for visits or a car. Long Distance is expensive and it can take a lot of maturity to make it work, especially if you don't possess able means to see your partner. Just hang in there and do what you can now, while identifying your options for the future as time goes on.

I hope this helps!

Thanks! every advice is appreciated.

 

[Padwolf]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship myself, my boyfriend is in America and I'm in England. Skype is important, highly important. Also find things you can do together on the internet, there are a lot. Play games, even find an MMO you two like or something else if she doesn't like gaming. or if not watch movies on youtube together (there are quite a few free ones) each of you load it up at the same time while on skype video call, or just watching together. Take turns to travel to eachother, or meet halfway like has been said already. Long distance relationships are not easy, and as Aylaine said, they take a lot of maturity. Keep eachother updated on everything in your lives, even the little things, communication is the most important thing. It will take a lot of patience. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. Sadly we've never been able to meet up, we see eachother on skype everyday though. I hope that helps!

 

[Galletea]

It seems like you pretty much have it covered. Travelling is hard work but it will be worth it in the end.
If you do find that you struggle to find things to talk about then you can do as Padwolf suggests and watch something at the same time, to share something simple can reignite conversation pretty well. It is going to take hard work, but it can work out, you just have to keep at it.