Question about experiments in possible future relationship outcomes

[DarklordKyo]

Back when my ex and I were still dating, I suggested to her that she and I could live together for a couple of days during a break period (spring break, summer break, that sort of thing) as an experiment. The reason for the experiment would be to have a glimpse at a possible future where she and I were to marry. When she told her mom about it, her mom reacted...badly to say the least. Her mom claimed I was being disrespectful, and that I should try living on my own before I even think of something like that (even though it would only be for a few days, a week tops). My question is this, was she right? Was I being a disrespectful asshole to my ex girlfriend by suggesting it?

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Maybe her mother just doesn't like you?

But seconding, what Baffle said, living together a week isn't going to tell you much about how you'd be after living together for years, it will only tell you if you're able to stand each other for a week, which is something if you've seen each other enough, you might already know.

 

[DarklordKyo]

Maybe her mother just doesn't like you?

But seconding, what Baffle said, living together a week isn't going to tell you much about how you'd be after living together for years, it will only tell you if you're able to stand each other for a week, which is something if you've seen each other enough, you might already know.

To be fair, my ex once said that I'm a good kid, though a bit hard to understand. Was she being passive aggressive when she told my ex that?

 

[Nailzzz]

Sounds like her mother just didn't approve of you, or thought you were using this as a pretense to have an opportunity to have sex with her daughter for a few days. Don't concern yourself too much with how the parents of your significant others feel about you. In my experience their impression is usually wrong. I have had a lot of ex's that I was actually trying very hard to get them off drugs, and they had the parents that hated me the most assuming that I was a bad influence on their daughters.

I was a homeless teenager at one point and during that time I dated this one girl that I liked a lot and her parents shamed me into breaking up with her because I had nothing to offer her as far as a future. I wound up breaking her heart when I broke up with her. It is one of my biggest regrets.

 

[Batou667]

I don't understand the mother's reaction, but then again there's undoubtedly more to the story than you're telling us. In general I think living together for a trial period is a good idea. Still, she's your ex now, right? Why does it matter?

 

[DarklordKyo]

I don't understand the mother's reaction, but then again there's undoubtedly more to the story than you're telling us. In general I think living together for a trial period is a good idea. Still, she's your ex now, right? Why does it matter?

It really doesn't, I was mostly curious.