Quick Relationship Advice

[hyperhammy]

In my italian class is this girl that I've talked to quite alotand she seems to like me too, so since I didn't have her number I wrote a mail over facebook wishing her happy birthday and if she'd like to meet sometime. It's vacation here so I haven't seen her in 2 weeks. Now she hasn't written back yet which might cause an akward moment in class. Should I talk to her and see if she'd like to meet or ignore her? =S

 

[SturmDolch]

Talk to her and act like you didn't say anything. Check her body language and responses to you talking to her. She might just not use facebook, especially on vacation. I know I wouldn't. And I definitely wouldn't go out with someone that asked me over facebook. The only way to redeem yourself is to ask her out in person. Don't be impersonal. If you want this to develop into something, you have to take initiative and not whimp out and hide behind technology.

Sorry for sounding mean but it annoys me when people ask others out with tech.

 

[Sleekgiant]

You're gonna have to come out with it and ask her directly, "Wanna go hang out sometime".
Then you will get a yes or no, but a yes does not mean she's automatically gonna be interested in you.

 

[hyperhammy]

Yeah okay, thanks for your critical reply. I thought about doing the same thing. I wanted to ask her out before vacation but I didn't get the chance. I'll talk to her tomorrow.

 

[Liberaliter]

Talk to her, get to know her and ask her to casually hang out. Should be fine.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Yeah okay, thanks for your critical reply. I thought about doing the same thing. I wanted to ask her out before vacation but I didn't get the chance. I'll talk to her tomorrow.

Well hope all goes well for you tomorrow, next time you need advice go to this link
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=30

Or just PM [user]BonsaiK[/user], he is the experienced Escapist when it comes to relationships.

 

[Deleted]

In my italian class is this girl that I've talked to quite alotand she seems to like me too, so since I didn't have her number I wrote a mail over facebook wishing her happy birthday and if she'd like to meet sometime. It's vacation here so I haven't seen her in 2 weeks. Now she hasn't written back yet which might cause an akward moment in class. Should I talk to her and see if she'd like to meet or ignore her? =S

Just let it go, if she doesn't respond it means
a) she didn't read it
b) she doesn't want to
c) she will ask you when school starts.

All those options involve you doing nothing so just sit tight and wait for me to tell you phase 2 of the master plan.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Just continue talking to her. You don't have to ask her out, it was just a friendly gesture to get to know each other more. Don't rush into things for the sake of "realsionship NAO!" mentality.

Where's our little fury black cat relationship warrior when we need him?

 

[Sleekgiant]

Just continue talking to her. You don't have to ask her out, it was just a friendly gesture to get to know each other more. Don't rush into things for the sake of "realsionship NAO!" mentality.

Where's our little fury black cat relationship warrior when we need him?

Sorry I just linked him to BosaiK's thread so you have been ninja'd

 

[BlumiereBleck]

TALK...TO...HER!

 

[Psychophante]

Stop being a pussy and just ask her out.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Just continue talking to her. You don't have to ask her out, it was just a friendly gesture to get to know each other more. Don't rush into things for the sake of "realsionship NAO!" mentality.

Where's our little fury black cat relationship warrior when we need him?

Sorry I just linked him to BosaiK's thread so you have been ninja'd

*Stabs in face*

Damn ninja's

*Swashbuckles*

 

[dochmbi]

Same rule that applies to poker applies to relationships: If you want to win, don't be afraid to lose. In other words, don't be too timid because you don't want to lose her.

 

[Galletea]

Talk to her and act like you didn't say anything. Check her body language and responses to you talking to her. She might just not use facebook, especially on vacation. I know I wouldn't. And I definitely wouldn't go out with someone that asked me over facebook. The only way to redeem yourself is to ask her out in person. Don't be impersonal. If you want this to develop into something, you have to take initiative and not whimp out and hide behind technology.

Sorry for sounding mean but it annoys me when people ask others out with tech.

This seems the best approach. It isn't a good idea to just go for it. You have to gauge how she is reacting to you, if things are a touch awkward then asking her out there and then won't help. In bocca del lupo.

 

[hyperhammy]

Okay guys quick update. I talked to her and asked her if she wants to go see a movie. She just said maybe. My past experience tells me that's a solid no. Well thanks for the tips guys.

 

[De Ronneman]

Okay guys quick update. I talked to her and asked her if she wants to go see a movie. She just said maybe. My past experience tells me that's a solid no. Well thanks for the tips guys.

Too bad, but maybe maybe is just maybe?

You've gone and blown the question at her allready, but maybe you should've started in something more informal, y'know, with more people there?

Good luck to ya, maybe she'll come back for you in a while, since maybe is not always a direct "no".

 

[likalaruku]

Meh, my advice to everyone about relationships is to always try to avoid being in them & to remember that your closest frinds can't be trusted with borrowing your stuff.

 

[BonsaiK]

Okay guys quick update. I talked to her and asked her if she wants to go see a movie. She just said maybe. My past experience tells me that's a solid no. Well thanks for the tips guys.

I've discussed your issue in the Relationship Problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=30#5760684