Do you date outside your race? If so how often?
Hot is hot.
How do you view racial preferences as whole? (in society)
For my society? I think people use the term preference incorrectly. There is a difference between something not being your preference and not liking something. I like both spinach and kale. I prefer spinach out of the two but if the kale's all that is there(and if it is prepared well) then I'll eat it. I like collard greens, but mustard greens are too bitter. I would never eat mustard greens, and not because I've never tried them. Dosen't matter how they are prepared, I don't like them.
My understanding of this issue may come from my experience as a Black straight woman in America. But sometimes when a man says he doesn't prefer a race of women he commonly means that he doesn't like them. Guess some figure since the word preference is softer it will make them look better by using it. But he just doesn't like them, just like I don't like mustard greens. I think I've come to dislike the lack of honesty more than anything else. Just say it out right.
Sometimes, unlike my dislike of mustard greens, that dislike comes from lack of knowledge. It's weird, but it's happened so many times to me that by now I can recognize the signs. Attraction isn't all visual. If they saw me in a picture they wouldn't be attracted to me at all. I am pretty sure of that because I'm not striking for a Black woman in American culture. Meaning that I don't have light skin, light eyes, or "good" hair. I wouldn't call myself ugly. Just that I fit the stereotypical look for a black woman. However, after a good conversation they find themselve attracted to me. We'd have similar values or just good chemistry or whatever. And like a dingus they'ed ruin things by admitting that they'd never been attracted to a Black girl before asking me out.
I can always tell without them saying so, but something about them not being socially aware enough to not say so kills my willingness to let it slide. I don't think they realize that by saying so they sound as if they are speaking to a magical creature instead of a woman. It's worse when the admission is followed up by an explanation of how unlike other black women I am...Which is a sure sign that they haven't had too many real conversations with Black women at all. Which is where the unconscious racism comes in. Cuz no shit we aren't all loud, angry and ghetto. Yes this sometimes happens with Black men...which is worse because they commonly have Black women in their life. So I know i've dodged a bullet on that one. They should know better but are letting their own negative experiences cloud their judgment. They might even be the issue. What's the saying? If you run into an asshole in the morning you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.
The other group, the group that is like my dislike of mustard greens. I swear they could be faced with the most stunning examples from around the globe but it wouldn't make them budge. They like what they like and that's fair enough I guess.
Do you find yourself attracted or not attracted to certain race or races?
Not races more skintones. I tend to prefer men with darker skin tones. But hot is hot so I have no issues with lighter skinned men.
Can you describe why you might have these preferences/dislikes?
Nope
Do you think your mind has changed about any of this from the past or is subject to change in the future?
My personal preferences haven't changed but how I've understood others has.
Hot is hot.
How do you view racial preferences as whole? (in society)
For my society? I think people use the term preference incorrectly. There is a difference between something not being your preference and not liking something. I like both spinach and kale. I prefer spinach out of the two but if the kale's all that is there(and if it is prepared well) then I'll eat it. I like collard greens, but mustard greens are too bitter. I would never eat mustard greens, and not because I've never tried them. Dosen't matter how they are prepared, I don't like them.
My understanding of this issue may come from my experience as a Black straight woman in America. But sometimes when a man says he doesn't prefer a race of women he commonly means that he doesn't like them. Guess some figure since the word preference is softer it will make them look better by using it. But he just doesn't like them, just like I don't like mustard greens. I think I've come to dislike the lack of honesty more than anything else. Just say it out right.
Sometimes, unlike my dislike of mustard greens, that dislike comes from lack of knowledge. It's weird, but it's happened so many times to me that by now I can recognize the signs. Attraction isn't all visual. If they saw me in a picture they wouldn't be attracted to me at all. I am pretty sure of that because I'm not striking for a Black woman in American culture. Meaning that I don't have light skin, light eyes, or "good" hair. I wouldn't call myself ugly. Just that I fit the stereotypical look for a black woman. However, after a good conversation they find themselve attracted to me. We'd have similar values or just good chemistry or whatever. And like a dingus they'ed ruin things by admitting that they'd never been attracted to a Black girl before asking me out.
I can always tell without them saying so, but something about them not being socially aware enough to not say so kills my willingness to let it slide. I don't think they realize that by saying so they sound as if they are speaking to a magical creature instead of a woman. It's worse when the admission is followed up by an explanation of how unlike other black women I am...Which is a sure sign that they haven't had too many real conversations with Black women at all. Which is where the unconscious racism comes in. Cuz no shit we aren't all loud, angry and ghetto. Yes this sometimes happens with Black men...which is worse because they commonly have Black women in their life. So I know i've dodged a bullet on that one. They should know better but are letting their own negative experiences cloud their judgment. They might even be the issue. What's the saying? If you run into an asshole in the morning you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.
The other group, the group that is like my dislike of mustard greens. I swear they could be faced with the most stunning examples from around the globe but it wouldn't make them budge. They like what they like and that's fair enough I guess.
Do you find yourself attracted or not attracted to certain race or races?
Not races more skintones. I tend to prefer men with darker skin tones. But hot is hot so I have no issues with lighter skinned men.
Can you describe why you might have these preferences/dislikes?
Nope
Do you think your mind has changed about any of this from the past or is subject to change in the future?
My personal preferences haven't changed but how I've understood others has.
