I can't imagine so many young men wasting their best years in a celibate state by choice, so you can easily conclude for the vast majority a sexual partner is unattainable. So, 28% of 20-29 yr old men reported not having had sex the previous year(and even that is probably underreported) but only 8% of women. Even if you argue women are similarly pre-occupied by wanting to have sex as men, that difference still has to come from somewhere.
My take is that in a time like tinder and other dating apps the market forces of supply and demand are unleashed, with men being in high supply but low demand and women in short supply but high demand. That might sound paradoxical but isn't really. If you consider, on average, women find 30% of men attractive and men atleast 70% of women it's obvious who lose out: the sausage. You could conclude, a relative few is highly active while a much larger amount get zero matches and jerk to increasingly degenerate porn or post on angry incel forums. Or become male feminist.
But, but, I hear you say if women find only 30% of men attractive and 30% of men are celibate that still leaves 40% of men in the 20-29 age range. Well, these are the people you see at Walmart or who meet at LARP events. My theory is that these 30% of men who are involuntarily celibate aren't even the ugliest or most awkward, but that simply due to supply and demand being highly in favor of women those men higher on the attraction scale are dating the women that would otherwise have dated the 30% celibates. And the reason for this is that technology enabled the cherry picking for the 30% of men women find attractive(who are obviously now also feeling the pressure of increased competition hence lowering their standards) leaving the 30% of 'losers' out in the cold.
I think it's a trend we also see reflected in the decline of fertility rates. Similarly as in a ruthlessly capitalistic society the middle-class is being erased so is the middle-attractive male in the dating market. I don't think this will change, so eventually this demographic will simply be erased from the gene pool.
I think in 50 years society will look something like this: many old people, many overweight/special needs/'spectrum' people and a small group of highly attractive 'uber' people that dominate media, entertainment and the cultural domain.
Thoughts? Ideas? Or is my theory bonkers?
https://www.sciencealert.com/the-percentage-of-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-a-record-high
My take is that in a time like tinder and other dating apps the market forces of supply and demand are unleashed, with men being in high supply but low demand and women in short supply but high demand. That might sound paradoxical but isn't really. If you consider, on average, women find 30% of men attractive and men atleast 70% of women it's obvious who lose out: the sausage. You could conclude, a relative few is highly active while a much larger amount get zero matches and jerk to increasingly degenerate porn or post on angry incel forums. Or become male feminist.
But, but, I hear you say if women find only 30% of men attractive and 30% of men are celibate that still leaves 40% of men in the 20-29 age range. Well, these are the people you see at Walmart or who meet at LARP events. My theory is that these 30% of men who are involuntarily celibate aren't even the ugliest or most awkward, but that simply due to supply and demand being highly in favor of women those men higher on the attraction scale are dating the women that would otherwise have dated the 30% celibates. And the reason for this is that technology enabled the cherry picking for the 30% of men women find attractive(who are obviously now also feeling the pressure of increased competition hence lowering their standards) leaving the 30% of 'losers' out in the cold.
I think it's a trend we also see reflected in the decline of fertility rates. Similarly as in a ruthlessly capitalistic society the middle-class is being erased so is the middle-attractive male in the dating market. I don't think this will change, so eventually this demographic will simply be erased from the gene pool.
I think in 50 years society will look something like this: many old people, many overweight/special needs/'spectrum' people and a small group of highly attractive 'uber' people that dominate media, entertainment and the cultural domain.
Thoughts? Ideas? Or is my theory bonkers?
https://www.sciencealert.com/the-percentage-of-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-a-record-high
