Relationship Advise

[mrhappy1489]

Hello fellow escapists, I come to you today a little embarrassed and jaded, but my options are running thin so I thought I would like to just get some advise on something. I have an incredibly difficult time asking anyone out. I know that's not unique, but I've never had the courage to do it once and I feel as if I'm limiting myself by not trying at all. I'm not sure exactly why, there have been plenty of girls over the years now, yet I've never followed up. Do any of you have some sort of advise on the subject, a method by which you have overcome it, or is it just like anything in life and I just have to grow a pair and stop being a pussy. Thoughts, suggestions?

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well it's like riding a bike, you can't learn to ride it until you start doing it, and there will be lots of bump and scrapes before you get there.
But mostly you need to work on your mouth flapping skills, talk to everyone you can so you get as comfortable as possible laying on meaningless drivel, this will be your most important ordinance in the dating life to come.

 

[Galletea]

Remember that you have nothing to lose. If you make a fool of yourself, so what?

Confidence is key, work on just talking to new people, friends of friends are a good place to start.
Once you become more at ease with new situations, then the asking part is much easier. It kind of comes with experience, but remember that getting burned or laughed at a few times is not the end of the world, if you mess up a few times, it doesn't matter, there will always be other opportunities.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Hello fellow escapists, I come to you today a little embarrassed and jaded, but my options are running thin so I thought I would like to just get some advise on something. I have an incredibly difficult time asking anyone out. I know that's not unique, but I've never had the courage to do it once and I feel as if I'm limiting myself by not trying at all. I'm not sure exactly why, there have been plenty of girls over the years now, yet I've never followed up. Do any of you have some sort of advise on the subject, a method by which you have overcome it, or is it just like anything in life and I just have to grow a pair and stop being a pussy. Thoughts, suggestions?

Well, the sting of asking someone out and being rejected can last months. Sometimes years.

The sting of living your whole life without ever having had a romantic relationship will last YOUR ENTIRE LIFE.

Choose the lesser of two evils.

And there's really no advice that will help make asking someone out less nerve wracking. But there are worse things in the world. Say you had to jump into a swimming pool full of spiders. That would be horrible. I bet asking a girl out doesn't seem so bad now, does it?

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

If it makes you feel better, don't be so formal. If there's a girl you like, just ask her if she wants to see a movie, in the same way you would ask one of your friends. That way it's not a DATE, it's just hanging out.

A lot of people are friends before moving to anything more serious, and if during that time, you realize she's really not interested in you, or your not interested in her. No harm done.

 

[Angie7F]

I agree. I don't think practice makes it any easier, but its Something you just have to go through.