Relationship Deal Breakers

[disgruntledgamer]

What's your deal breakers in a relationship. What are the things your Significant Other could do that would be unforgivable no matter how much you were in love with them.


1. Cheating - No excuses in my book, on top of which it's a health risk.

2. STDs/ Bad HPVs - I'm clean and intend to stay that way.

3. Listening to Justin Bieber - Self explanatory

4. Being too religious - I find religion to be an obsolete relic, mankind would be better off separating himself from these superstitious beliefs ASAP.

5. Massive weight gain - I may get flamed for this one but seriously if you don't care about your own health.....

6. Trying to Kill Me - You knife me it's over sorry.

7. Becoming too absorbed in MMOs - If it's all you want to do all day long you need to quit.

8. Stealing my stuff - Don't steal my stuff

9. Smoking - Big anti-smoker

Yours?

 

[370999]

1. Being very much anti-theist. I am religious so I think it wouldn't work if someone was very much against religion

2. Being very left wing. Same as above.

That's it, I would imagine.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

1. Being very much anti-theist. I am religious so I think it wouldn't work if someone was very much against religion

2. Being very left wing. Same as above.

That's it, I would imagine.

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

 

[Realitycrash]

Eh, I'll sign up on all the ones mentioned in the OP (except the Beiber one, I don't care what you listen to).
Here's one of my own:

1: Not having any issues.
No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

Y'know... not cheating in a relationship is one of those things that the vast majority of people would take as given in a good partner, so they'll mention stuff that not many other people will say... like aggressive spooning, or something random like that.

That said, I know there're quite a few polyamorous people around here, but I'm sure they'll make a point of it.

OT:

No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

Strangely... me too... my past relationships have been a laundry list of physical/psychological traumas... :/ Probably not healthy that, but apparently, I enjoy sticking it in the crazy (to quote 'loveFAQ')...

 

[Realitycrash]

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

Y'know... not cheating in a relationship is one of those things that the vast majority of people would take as given in a good partner, so they'll mention stuff that not many other people will say... like aggressive spooning, or something random like that.

That said, I know there're quite a few polyamorous people around here, but I'm sure they'll make a point of it.

OT:

No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

Strangely... me too... my past relationships have been a laundry list of physical/psychological traumas... :/ Probably not healthy that, but apparently, I enjoy sticking it in the crazy (to quote 'loveFAQ')...

I wouldn't call them "crazy". I would call them "relateable". I don't want a catatonic girl who can't get out of bed, or someone who needs serious medical help to manage her day to day life due to mental trauma. I don't want stalkers or loonies. I want someone who I know will understand me. And I am neither of those. I am just a tad emotionally damaged.

 

[370999]

1. Being very much anti-theist. I am religious so I think it wouldn't work if someone was very much against religion

2. Being very left wing. Same as above.

That's it, I would imagine.

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

I would take being faithful and attractive as a given, the base line. I thought we were talking about on top of the basic requirements, what are our personnal deal-breakers.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I like how trying to kill you comes after getting fat.


Cheating.
Trying to control me or thinking they can exert authority over me or my actions.
No confidence/clingy.
Probably political/religious views that were hugely different from my own. I'd like to think that it wouldn't matter but it would certainly cause fights.

I can't think of anything right now.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I'll skip out the obvious ones...

I think if a girl disapproved much of my interests. I'm not going to change myself to suit someone else usually (there are a few things that I would like to change about myself anyway, a partner could be the motivation I need), and if I had to stop doing things I loved then I would resent them for it.

Getting on with my friends is also a big thing, I've found in the past that I just don't have enough time in my life to spend with my friends, a partner, my family and do everything that I want to do. I'm very close with my friends, I am not going to ditch them for a girl. Also, my friends are very easy to get along with if you're a good sport, if a girl didn't get along with them it would be a pretty bad sign.

I'm almost curious as to what you consider the line between 'casual'/'addicted', to be honest, because there aren't all that many things out there that one can remain a 'casual' user of after starting, since you're not specifying anything specific here.

For example, I seriously doubt that someone could be a 'casual' user of heroin.

I'm guessing he means weed smokers, being the most common drug? There are quite a lot of drugs that you can take without becoming addicted to though.

 

[Harley Q]

Superiority-If someone treats you like you're constantly inferior then they need a swift kick.

 

[Zantos]

I think the top two are really what you'd expect out of a relationship. Sadly, sometimes it does need to be stated.

1 Cheating, yeah no brainer really.
2 Abusive, physical or emotional there is absolutely no reason to stand for that shit.

Aside from that, I suppose mine are fairly normal, just shit I've had to put up with that I'd rather not do again.

3 Overly clingy. I do like a girl who does care about me, but wanting to spend so much time together that you've practically moved in can get really damn annoying.

4 Not caring. I'm not expecting someone with infinite patience or the ability to solve all problems, but at least try to feign a passing interest in the major events of my life.

5 Overly sensitive. Of all the reasons you might have to get upset with me, not liking a film as much as you do isn't one of them.

6 My friends. I don't expect you to become besties with them, but actively forbidding me from seeing them is not on. If you ask me to choose between you and them it becomes a really easy choice. And telling me you don't want me hanging out with my female friends because you trust me but you don't trust them is not a thing.

 

[Generalissimo]

1. Being very much anti-theist. I am religious so I think it wouldn't work if someone was very much against religion

2. Being very left wing. Same as above.

That's it, I would imagine.

you'd hate me then

OT:

weight gain- take care of yourself, it's not too hard
intellectually slow- i don't want sex with you to be an act of bestiality.
religious- same reason as OP
bigoted- if you hold bigoted views, i'll drop you like a hot potato
pretending- don't fake personality traits you don't have, they'll bite you in the ass later.

might be more, but that's it for now.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Sorry, double post

 

[Calibanbutcher]

What's your deal breakers in a relationship. What are the things your Significant Other could do that would be unforgivable no matter how much you were in love with them.


3. Listening to Justin Bieber - Self explanatory


Yours?

Now I wouldn't call that a deal breaker, you can always try to educate your significant other or try to find bands you both enjoy.
Also, why would you want to date 13 year olds?

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

Y'know... not cheating in a relationship is one of those things that the vast majority of people would take as given in a good partner, so they'll mention stuff that not many other people will say... like aggressive spooning, or something random like that.

That said, I know there're quite a few polyamorous people around here, but I'm sure they'll make a point of it.

OT:

No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

Strangely... me too... my past relationships have been a laundry list of physical/psychological traumas... :/ Probably not healthy that, but apparently, I enjoy sticking it in the crazy (to quote 'loveFAQ')...

I wouldn't call them "crazy". I would call them "relateable". I don't want a catatonic girl who can't get out of bed, or someone who needs serious medical help to manage her day to day life due to mental trauma. I don't want stalkers or loonies. I want someone who I know will understand me. And I am neither of those. I am just a tad emotionally damaged.

First: I f'cking love your avatar.
F*CKING
LOVE
IT

Second:
Being with a girl with "issues" is what got me traumatized in several ways, which is why I would prefer a stable, emotionally intact partner next.

 

[lRookiel]

I'll let you know once I actually get in a relationship *Back to downloading awesomenauts*

 

[Juan Cantu]

What's your deal breakers in a relationship. What are the things your Significant Other could do that would be unforgivable no matter how much you were in love with them.


3. Listening to Justin Bieber - Self explanatory


Yours?

Now I wouldn't call that a deal breaker, you can always try to educate your significant other or try to find bands you both enjoy.
Also, why would you want to date 13 year olds?

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

Y'know... not cheating in a relationship is one of those things that the vast majority of people would take as given in a good partner, so they'll mention stuff that not many other people will say... like aggressive spooning, or something random like that.

That said, I know there're quite a few polyamorous people around here, but I'm sure they'll make a point of it.

OT:

No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

Strangely... me too... my past relationships have been a laundry list of physical/psychological traumas... :/ Probably not healthy that, but apparently, I enjoy sticking it in the crazy (to quote 'loveFAQ')...

I wouldn't call them "crazy". I would call them "relateable". I don't want a catatonic girl who can't get out of bed, or someone who needs serious medical help to manage her day to day life due to mental trauma. I don't want stalkers or loonies. I want someone who I know will understand me. And I am neither of those. I am just a tad emotionally damaged.

First: I f'cking love your avatar.
F*CKING
LOVE
IT

Second:
Being with a girl with "issues" is what got me traumatized in several ways, which is why I would prefer a stable, emotionally intact partner next.

I don't really think there is a single person emotionally intact, but people do tend to work different ways with the problems, probably "happy go lucky" person do have emotional problems behind some kind of masks buried down, deep down everyone has emotional baggage.

But I agree that there are certain people with issues that seem to want to make you go mad (personal experience) but you should find the ground where you can relate and tolerate (and love and respect) your partner's issues and either love him/her for those flaws or work together to make them better.

Or dont get in a relationship at all if you can´t.

OT: I also find dealbreakers on people that are waaaaay too religious, i dont really care about physics (exept for the extreme obviously) and something that really sets me off is people that i can't find a conversation with (nothing relatable)

I tend to judge people and I don't think thats too positive from me, but I don't like wasting time with people I know im not going to have a good time with.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

snip.

I don't really think there is a single person emotionally intact, but people do tend to work different ways with the problems, probably "happy go lucky" person do have emotional problems behind some kind of masks buried down, deep down everyone has emotional baggage.

But I agree that there are certain people with issues that seem to want to make you go mad (personal experience) but you should find the ground where you can relate and tolerate (and love and respect) your partner's issues and either love him/her for those flaws or work together to make them better.

Or dont get in a relationship at all if you can´t.

Then let me rephrase that.
I would prefer a partner with no serious mental issues, no serious emotional trauma and who does not abuse me emotionally.
Of course everyone has baggage, but I would really like someone who does not have an entire graveyard in her closet.

 

[game-lover]

I'm not sure. I mean there are the obvious ones.

Even with visiting this one site dedicated to helping couples reconcile after someone cheats... I'm still sure it's a deal breaker.

Anyway yeah. Obvious ones. So nothing new I can add, I don't believe.

 

[Realitycrash]

What's your deal breakers in a relationship. What are the things your Significant Other could do that would be unforgivable no matter how much you were in love with them.


3. Listening to Justin Bieber - Self explanatory


Yours?

Now I wouldn't call that a deal breaker, you can always try to educate your significant other or try to find bands you both enjoy.
Also, why would you want to date 13 year olds?

Really? You wouldn't care is she/he ran around with all your friends or behind you back?

Y'know... not cheating in a relationship is one of those things that the vast majority of people would take as given in a good partner, so they'll mention stuff that not many other people will say... like aggressive spooning, or something random like that.

That said, I know there're quite a few polyamorous people around here, but I'm sure they'll make a point of it.

OT:

No, seriously. I can't relate to you if you are a happy-go-lucky, everything-is-swell, my-parents-love-me, Ihave-no-disorders-and-life-is-just-peachy kind of girl.
If you have not experienced trauma, regret, pain or angst, and I can't tell that you are at last partly struggling (even though you still manage it very well), I can't relate.

Strangely... me too... my past relationships have been a laundry list of physical/psychological traumas... :/ Probably not healthy that, but apparently, I enjoy sticking it in the crazy (to quote 'loveFAQ')...

I wouldn't call them "crazy". I would call them "relateable". I don't want a catatonic girl who can't get out of bed, or someone who needs serious medical help to manage her day to day life due to mental trauma. I don't want stalkers or loonies. I want someone who I know will understand me. And I am neither of those. I am just a tad emotionally damaged.

First: I f'cking love your avatar.
F*CKING
LOVE
IT

Second:
Being with a girl with "issues" is what got me traumatized in several ways, which is why I would prefer a stable, emotionally intact partner next.

You know, I don't get to hear that nearly enough compared to how awesome they are.

Anyhow; I prefer a little trauma over a whole lot of boredom (which comes with anyone that is fully emotionally stable and "normal")