Relationship help?

[RamirezDoEverything]

I know this is about the umpteenth thread about relationships and most of you hate them and if you do, please leave the thread for those who might offer some insight.

This girl I was madly in love with her and still am in love with her. she started going out with a guy who just graduated while we (her and I) are going into to sophomore year, I have nothing against him (in fact i ran track and xc with him), he's a great guy and i have nothing wrong with him. But like I said, I am madly in love with her, we still text and talk and are good frineds (after a year of dating), ive even told her that I still have feelings for her and she hinted that she still has feelings for me. I can't get her out of my head, I can't find a new girl (I know most of you will say I will), I just want her back.

But what can I do? Im not the type of person that acts like a blantant asshole to get my way, and as I've said I respect and am friends with her new boyfriend and wish nothing bad upon him. please escapist, help out a hormone crazed teenager.

 

[Marter]

I suggest just waiting it out. Continue being friends with her for the time being. There is a good chance that her current relationship will not last, and when it does, comfort her. That can be the first step towards getting her back.

Good luck!

 

[Czargent Sane]

if you love her, and you know she will be happy with the other guy, then leave it be. if you know she wont be happy without you, pursue the relationship.

 

[Shapsters]

*sigh* Post here: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=36#6466273

Thats the best advice you are going to get, Bonsai is the master of relationships.

 

[Insanum]

Your young, Dont worry about it too much, And tell her how you feel.

Also:

<url=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161>The relationhsip thread.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Yay! I finally get to use this!

You should contact [user]BonsaiK[/user] he's pretty much the resident relationship guru round here.

OT: It'll probably be over within a couple months. Gotta love High School romance.

 

[Blights]

In all honesty, if you think she feels the same way about you, you should talk to the guy about it. But only if you know he can take it, if you think it will fuck him up, back off and get it out of your mind. Or, you can wait how the relationship plays out, if they break up, there you go, if not, feel happy for them and move on.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

I'm kinda in the same boat there buddy and I'm currently just waiting it out cause the guy my-ex is with now is a bit of a narcissistic ass so i know he'll eventually fuck himself.

 

[Pariah87]

Best help I can offer is to go to this thread. http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=23. Guy knows what he's talking about and I'm sure he'll be able to give you some decent advise.

Wow, first time I've been ninja'd...twice no less.

 

[MONSTERheart]

next time the school is gathered in an assembly whatever, pull a McFly and impress the crowd with your rad impromptu guitar skills. Then single her out from the audience and everyone will dawwww.

 

[RamirezDoEverything]

Thanks to everyone who posted the relationship advice thread and help, I posted on the thread and am waiting on response.

Thanks again!

 

[manaman]

Sounds like she moved on with her life and you have yet to do so.

Also 15 (possibly still 14) and 18? Eh, happens I guess, still odd.

Sounds like the girl has issues that you are ignoring because you are infatuated with her. It also sounds like the "hinting" she has feelings for you bit was your imagination. Really, you probably took something along the lines of "I like you to, so I really want this friend thing to work" as a hint rather then the statement it was. That statement being more along the lines of "I don't care for you in that way anymore, but I like clinging onto past relationships because it fills some void in my life that I don't even know I have yet."

You can continue being friends with the girl, but you should probably work on moving on and getting over this infatuation - usually you have to get some distance to do that. Leaving the two of them alone is a good idea as well.

 

[AkJay]

The way I see it, you had your chance, and for whatever reason, you two broke up.
My best advice is to put her out of your head, no matter how bad it may sound. Cut all communication with her. You had your chance, I'm sorry to say.

 

[esperandote]

If you already told her you have feelings for her then there isn't much more you can do except wait and let her decide. Good luck.

 

[Necator15]

The best thing you could do is give her some space. Take some time and re-evaluate your infatuation. You two tried dating, it didn't work out, it happens. Give it a month or two, put her out of your mind, and lose the idea that she still secretly has feelings for you. It sounds terrible, but you're fifteen man, you'll get over it.

 

[Thaius]

I suggest you wait. She deserves better than someone who will try to get her despite her already being in a relationship: if you want a relationship with her, do it honorably. Trust me, in this case, getting what you want in a way that isn't appreciated will not turn out well. You want something that will work out for the long run, and gaining it through disrespect and deceit will not get you that.

 

[swolf]

All right, what you may see as her "showing interest in the future" may just be her unoriginal and stupid way of trying to let you off easy, stringing you along for the confidence boost that you give her by continuing to show interest, and/or keeping you in reserve so she doesn't have to worry about being single. Listen, none of those are good and they are likely the case. I've been there, done that, not fun.

Hear me out on this second point: If she (Girl B) is going to "move on", then you should too. I would recommend that you do date another girl (known as Girl B), even if you don't make that in to a serious relationship. Girls/women secretly love competition and hate each other. Girl A seeing you with this new Girl B will likely raise her interest in you because she will see that you actually are worth her time, otherwise, why would this Girl A be with you? I'm not saying to build up a relationship with Girl B and break her heart in an effort to get Girl A. Either let her know what the deal is from the start or be quite cautious with how much you develop that relationship. Also, you may find actual interest in Girl B...side note: wasn't that a plot from "American Pie"? Oh well, it worked.

I hope that helped. Let me know how things work out.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Yay! I finally get to use this!

You should contact [user]BonsaiK[/user] he's pretty much the resident relationship guru round here.

OT: It'll probably be over within a couple months. Gotta love High School romance.

Wow Pimpy that is full of win there
I approve

 

[Pimppeter2]

Wow Pimpy that is full of win there
I approve

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