Relationship Help?

[con70solo]

Alright, so me and my finace have been together for almost 3 years and recently i have been gamming alot more then i know i should and im starting to cut down. she has been going out all weekend long the past few weekends and it has been really taking a toll on me. when we have a talk about these problems see said oh i will change and show you more attention but then 10 mins later she says she still is going to go out all weekend. i was just wonder if anyone had any suggestions i don't want to end what we have cause i love her with all my heart and i know she loves me back it, i just don't know how much more i can put up with before its too much.

 

[Legion]

Compromise, and make plans. Spend a weekend without any games at all and suggest doing something together with just the two of you.

 

[Samcanuck]

I don't know man. I feel for you as a guy who has had a struggle or two in the past. Kinda hard not to think that your girl is going to start movng away or meet someone new. But I have no suggestion for you, expect talk to her about whats on your mind...and try and find some middle ground to meet her. And if not, shit, taking a break from the relationship might do you both a world of good. Find out what either of you wants though first. Thats what me and my fiance did a few years back (took a break)...and it did actually strengthen our relationship (after a butt load of heart ache). Good luck friend, hope the best.

 

[Camembert]

Yes, I think you already know what you have to do. You have to talk to each other, and agree that you both want to sort things out. Maybe you could go out with her occasionally? Perhaps you could try cutting gaming to one day a week (hard, I know) and that could be the one night she goes out. I sometimes have troubles with my partner because of my excessive gaming, and it isn't very clever. I can easily spend a whole day, from morning until night, RPGing but I won't really be able to enjoy it if I know that I've been doing it a lot lately at the cost of my relationship.

Also, her going out for whole weekends does not sound good. Are you sure she is not losing interest? Take her out for dinner a bit and show her that you aren't just some loser whose life is his console/PC.

If she cannot stick to her side of the compromise, and continues to do what she knows makes you unhappy, then you may have to end things because she is obviously not committed enough to try to make things work.

Edit: Try not to sound too whinging or clingy either, when you talk to her. Right turn-off, I can tell you.

 

[con70solo]

thanks for the advice guys