Right off the bat, I'll start by saying just 1 thing:
I know there are a lot of relationship threads going around, but I didn't want to de-rail them with my own problem. So I thought I'd start my own thread, sorry if I'm causing any problems by doing this. :S
So, problem -
About 12 days ago I started going out with this absolutely awesome girl. A gamer, almost as much as me (E.g. I had a LAN about a week ago, she came along and whole-heartedly joined in on the CoD, Footmen and Left4Dead games played). She played soccer at the high-school's academy (as did I - she stopped at the start of year 11, I stopped at the end of year 11). We're both in Year 12 this year at the same high-school, and she's in 3 of my classes.
We have the same interest in music, tv, movies, have the same ideas about most topics.
Most way's you look at it, we're very much alike, but we're not that couple that're always agreeing. E.g., if one of us does something silly, the other won't hesitate to point it out, and we'll both generally laugh it off anyway.
My problem is this (and sorry, the title is a little misleading - it's quite possibly just a personal problem):
I'm possibly the worst at 1-on-1 conversations. If we're doing something interesting we talk a lot, but when it comes to just hanging out...
There will always be a worrying amount of moments in our 1-on-1 convo where the conversation will just stop dead before one of us revives it. If luck is on my side, it won't be an "awkward" silence. But for the most part, it generally will be.
So I find myself in situations where I just want to be with her, but if we're not going somewhere where there will be people to talk to/activities to do, I'm inviting a couple more people along so that the conversation won't hit those silences.
Which in and of itself is pretty bad...
As a census, just wondering if this is just me here (we have only been going out just under 2 weeks, but we've known each other (by name mostly) since about year 9/10...), and if so, what can I do to keep the conversation going?
(I'm not expecting this topic to last long - the answer is probably something exceedingly simple. Sorry to all if it is :S )
I know there are a lot of relationship threads going around, but I didn't want to de-rail them with my own problem. So I thought I'd start my own thread, sorry if I'm causing any problems by doing this. :S
So, problem -
About 12 days ago I started going out with this absolutely awesome girl. A gamer, almost as much as me (E.g. I had a LAN about a week ago, she came along and whole-heartedly joined in on the CoD, Footmen and Left4Dead games played). She played soccer at the high-school's academy (as did I - she stopped at the start of year 11, I stopped at the end of year 11). We're both in Year 12 this year at the same high-school, and she's in 3 of my classes.
We have the same interest in music, tv, movies, have the same ideas about most topics.
Most way's you look at it, we're very much alike, but we're not that couple that're always agreeing. E.g., if one of us does something silly, the other won't hesitate to point it out, and we'll both generally laugh it off anyway.
My problem is this (and sorry, the title is a little misleading - it's quite possibly just a personal problem):
I'm possibly the worst at 1-on-1 conversations. If we're doing something interesting we talk a lot, but when it comes to just hanging out...
There will always be a worrying amount of moments in our 1-on-1 convo where the conversation will just stop dead before one of us revives it. If luck is on my side, it won't be an "awkward" silence. But for the most part, it generally will be.
So I find myself in situations where I just want to be with her, but if we're not going somewhere where there will be people to talk to/activities to do, I'm inviting a couple more people along so that the conversation won't hit those silences.
Which in and of itself is pretty bad...
As a census, just wondering if this is just me here (we have only been going out just under 2 weeks, but we've known each other (by name mostly) since about year 9/10...), and if so, what can I do to keep the conversation going?
(I'm not expecting this topic to last long - the answer is probably something exceedingly simple. Sorry to all if it is :S )