Repression vs acting(sexual)

[CODE-D]

Do you think it healthy for you to act on sexual desires or repress them.(such as feelings for teachers, fellow employees etc.) or would be healthier to repress them until absolutely sure that you cant hold them back and then deal with them/or give time to find out your feelings werent as strong?

 

[Zaik]

Which is exactly what making a forum post on the Escapist is.

It depends on your gender I guess. If you're a dude, it's like playing with a knife. You could just not do it and be totally safe and never in any danger whatsoever. But when you don't do that and go ahead and fool around with a sharp knife, sometimes you come out just fine. Sometimes you get a little cut. And sometimes you trip, fall, and cut a finger off, stab yourself in the head, whatever. It's fun, but in my opinion it's not really worth the danger. Say whatever you want to say about how reat it is or whatever, fact of the matter is, any woman that wants to can just skip their birth control once, and as soon as the sperm leaves your body, you have no legal recourse to prevent the child. Life = over.

As for women, I guess if you get caught sleeping around a lot you'll get called a whore? I dunno, you can pretty much do whatever you want these days, you guys have legal ownership of sex.

 

[ham and red bull]

It depends, nothing is ever that black or white. Sexual repression is a difficult subject to talk about, since there are some urges one should never even think about doing (pedophilia, bestiality, rape), due to the damage it can cause to third party participants.

Now when talking about a coworker or teacher, I honestly think it's okay to at least try. A lot of people develop feeling for teachers, due to puberty and the raging hormones, but most of the time something like that fades away after some time.

Coworkers is more difficult. Inappropriate sexual actions can cause a lot of damage, which can even go as far as to get you fired. But as I have stated before, one can always try, but know when to stop.

I have mentioned pedophilia, bestiality and rape, and those urges should NEVER get acted upon. It's disgusting and against the law, for a reason. If one ever feels such urges, they should immediately talk to a psychologist.

That's my take, act upon if no one is getting harmed, or at least try, but somethings should never be done.

 

[WanderingFool]

I guess better safe than sorry?

If not clear, im saying hold them in.

 

[Disaster Button]

While I don't think either are particularly healthy in every circumstance I tend to repress a lot of my sexuality.

 

[spartan231490]

Depends. Holding back emotions can be bad. Acting on them can be bad.

Best thing to do is talk to an uninvolved third party that you trust.

Mostly this^.
But I would like to point out that repression is a lot more than not acting on your emotions, it has more to do with denying that you have them in the first place. Not acting on your emotions is just self-control, and is usually not a bad thing.

 

[Tipsy Giant]

just have a wank at home while thinking about them, that is nice and legal

 

[Alon Shechter]

I don't have sexual desires, only when I want to.
That's right, I have full control over my genitals!
I AM A WIZARD!
But to the question, it depends on your relations with said person, I guess.
Holding them back would be a problem at times, but so will showing them.
It's a lose-lose situation!
Better run naked in the streets of Berlin!

 

[Mumonk]

Think with your head, not your dick and/or vagina.

 

[Rockchimp69]

Do you think it healthy for you to act on sexual desires or repress them.(such as feelings for teachers, fellow employees etc.) or would be healthier to repress them until absolutely sure that you cant hold them back and then deal with them/or give time to find out your feelings werent as strong?

I heard somewhere that the bottling up emotions thing is a myth and that the only thing you need to release is stress and tension by relaxing. As for sexual urges, it's healthy to have sex occasionally and a mental disorder to have sex to much.. So I guess it's just a case of finding the right balance.

Think with your head, not your dick and/or vagina.

Do people who say this think that you should be able to overrule your desires if necessary or do they think sex is bad in general?

 

[Erana]

Whether or not it is healthy, you better be taking responsibility for yourself.
Having poor self-control of your sex drive (and subsequently blaming the object of your desire for your actions) is BAD.

I'm asexual and without a sex drive, so I honestly can't empathize with the feeling, but it can do a lot of damage. I expect it would be like really wanting, say, a car that you can't afford and don't really need. If its not appropriate for you to go get that car, you just deal, right?

When the stars DO align, and its obviously alright to express one's feelings, then go for it!

 

[ReservoirAngel]

I depends both on gender and sexuality:

Straight Female: you're pretty much safe. no guy's ever been pissed off by a woman coming on to them, so try your luck.

Straight Male: slightly less safe. you could easily piss someone off and get in some shit because of it, but it's a toss-up subject - sometimes you'll be fine, other times you'll really piss some people off or scare them, or get in some kind of trouble.

Lesbian: This is a lot more tricky. since other lesbians are in a minority and there's NO certain way of telling another woman's sexuality outside of straight-up asking them (and that poses risks in and of itself), you'd be better off not acting on it.

Gay Male: MUCH more tricky than any other group of people. unlike straight women, straight men usually get pretty scared, annoyed or pissed off when a guy tries either coming onto them, or asking them their sexuality. so...be fucking cautious cause you might get your lights punched out.