Saying goodbye.

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

I'm leaving home to go to uni on wednesday (going to manchester) and tonight was the last time i'm going to see all of the friends i've made over the last two years for quite some time.
Its been a night full o alcohol and tearful but manly goodbyes. Lots of hugging and everything.
I found it quite difficult saying goodebye to some of my friends, knowing that i may well never see them again and i'm still feeling somewhat emotional xD
So, how many of my fellow escapists are in a similar position?
Have you ever had to face a difficult goodbye?
If you have, how did you deal with it?

 

[oppp7]

Nah, I prepared by ignoring my friends over the summer(this sounds like a joke, but it's true. I'm an asshole).

My family, however, I miss, but I stay in contact. And you should too. Remember, Facebook exists for a reason.

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

Nah, I prepared by ignoring my friends over the summer(this sounds like a joke, but it's true. I'm an asshole).

My family, however, I miss, but I stay in contact. And you should too. Remember, Facebook exists for a reason.

facebook is good, but its no substitute for actually being there with people. Me and my friends had some awesome times together over the last few years, and i doubt i'll find another group as awesome xD

 

[Blue Musician]

I normally just say this:
"Goodbye."

I have alexithymia, so I have a really hard time to express my emotions with words, so I just always say simple things. Like goodbye.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I normally just say this:
"Goodbye."

I have alexithymia, so I have a really hard time to express my emotions with words, so I just always say simple things. Like goodbye.

I know what you mean, pal. *patpat*

I'm moving in about two weeks and dreading the goodbyes to be made... so I'm preparing both by distancing myself from the people I made friends with at work, and making a mix CD for my best friend to always remind her of me.

 

[Zirat]

I have never really had a problem with goodbyes. Im not really an emotional guy, and have been chewed out on that multiple times, but I have been in positions similar to yours.

Like when my sister moved out of the country with he charming husband, everyone was crying but me. And when a friend moved out to California when I was about 7 it was just an average day of playing, an especially long goodbye and I never saw or heard of him again.

So really, I wish you the best of luck in the upcoming problem and hopefuly you can still stay in touch

 

[Danielsmells]

Well I'm not too worried about moving for uni.
I'm about an hour and a half train journey away, and as much as I hate to say it, my uni friends are going to be far more boring than my friends back at home, so I know I'll be returning regularly.

 

[Benmonkey7]

Well I'm not an emotional person but it was difficult to say goodbye to my mom once her doctor said her cancer had gotten worse to the point it was terminal. So yeah

 

[Sleekgiant]

Have no friends to tell goodbye, hate my family.

It would not be hard for me to say goodbye.

 

[Eumersian]

I've been at university for a few weeks now, and it is hard not seeing those friends so much. I didn't actually say goodbye to them, but I kinda wish I did. That's why the first chance I got, I had a lunch with some of them Labor Day Weekend. The problem for me is that I'm not very outgoing, so for all of my new friends I've made so far, I don't hang out with them much. This only makes me miss other people more. Tough being an introverted dweeb.

I also never got a chance to say a real goodbye to my grandmother before she died last year. She had been in the hospital for something totally unrelated (she broke her hip), but something went wrong where she ended up in the ICU. When she was on all those machines practically comatose, my family, cousins and uncles included stood around and prayed. We told her that we would miss her, though she probably couldn't hear us. Then she was OK. She got moved to a regular room and seemed to be fine. We went to visit her conscious self on a whim, and then went down to lunch. That was when her heart decided to stop working. It's still weird, her not being around anymore, and not having been able to say goodbye to her living body. The cat really missed her the most though.

 

[Kortney]

I'm leaving home to go to uni on wednesday (going to manchester)

:O Same uni as me!

 

[Spacelord]

I was a guide for foreign exchange students last semester, starting February. Met so many awesome people I can now genuinely call best friends.

Then a few months ago their temporary tenures at the apartment building where everyone was staying had expired, people from all over the world spilled out of there with big bags and tears in their eyes. I remember waiting for them, waiving them goodbye as they rode off in taxis to take them to the airport.

And the temporary apartments were cleaned extensively by the crew that had been waiting for them to leave until a few hours later there was no evidence of them ever having been here.

Witnessing that was fucking soulcrushing.

 

[killcheese]

I hear ya, its my first year of college and all most of my friends i will never see again. I would try to give some advise but i feel i need the same you are seeking. So i will just say... Stay in there bro!

 

[BlumiereBleck]

Saying goodbye is the hardest part of a friendship.

 

[Alon Shechter]

"sometimes, the greatest act of courage is to say goodbye"

Who the ballsy testicles said that?

 

[someotherguy]

My plan for this is binge drink my way through it. It's worked in the past.

 

[milkkart]

I normally just say this:

Spoiler: The typical escapist

You're unlikely to get any advice not ripped wholesale from corny jrpg-power-of-friendship speeches 'round these parts. If reprieves from such places even do exist upon the internet...

Good luck in Manchester, though!
User was put on probation for this post.(3 days)

how the hell does that deserve probation? mods are fucking nuts.

 

[Krythe]

I normally just say this:

Spoiler: The typical escapist

You're unlikely to get any advice not ripped wholesale from corny jrpg-power-of-friendship speeches 'round these parts. If reprieves from such places even do exist upon the internet...

Good luck in Manchester, though!
User was put on probation for this post.(3 days)

how the hell does that deserve probation? mods are fucking nuts.

People react with disproportionate anger when you cut too close, I've found.

This isn't the worst either - first time I was kicked off the escapist, it was for calling out RPers as a socially inept mass.

The official reason was "Mod Sass".

 

[Last Bullet]

I did, though it was actually a friend who was leaving. The funny thing is, we all made this big deal about him leaving to Mexico to spend some time with his family before moving to Canada to go to school. Three weeks later he came back for two weeks. There were few "I'll miss you"s, pretty much a unanimous (half-joking) "Get out of my country."

 

[crudus]

I don't say goodbye. I just give about a weeks warning I am leaving. Once that week is up I just leave. No good byes or anything. I just disappear into the ether.