Saying the 'L' Word To Your Other Half for the First Time
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I'd probably be in the same boat. A lot of painful emotional situations in my past relationships, has somewhat jaded me from ever really wanting to commit that far. Or rather, really damned skeptical about going that distance..
To be, telling someone romantically "I love you" is a pretty big leap, and people are naturally afraid of it. Can make or break, depending on the situation.
To be, telling someone romantically "I love you" is a pretty big leap, and people are naturally afraid of it. Can make or break, depending on the situation.
L word? you should always be upfront with your partner about being a lesbian
i believe it is a big deal. im old fashioned in many ways and i wouldnt say it to someone unless i was certain i would spend my life with them. i had a girlfriend who would get upset with me because she told me she loved me and i told her i wasnt ready to say it back. i didnt freak out when she said it, i just couldnt say i loved her too
i believe it is a big deal. im old fashioned in many ways and i wouldnt say it to someone unless i was certain i would spend my life with them. i had a girlfriend who would get upset with me because she told me she loved me and i told her i wasnt ready to say it back. i didnt freak out when she said it, i just couldnt say i loved her too
I'm glad I could provide the cheese for your pizza, haha.Dr. wonderful said:
Well, if you do find someone to love, do it, I'll hold you to it!
I tried not to say it too early, and I did anyway. Thankfully, she repeated it back, and no harm was done.
Although, to be fair I said "I'm in lesbians with you".
Although, to be fair I said "I'm in lesbians with you".
Oh, well... *cough*Asuka Soryu said:
that"i can't bring myself to say it" line is a load of bullshit, you either love someone or you don't, now there are degrees of love but that still counts as the "ON" state in this on/off analogy.
Mmm, its always circumstancial, when I was a young teenager, I remember telling a few girls, those three catch phrase words, a fair few actually. But if I look back, there's probably only been 1 or 2 that really counted, out of maybe a dozen or so people who I 'at the time' thought it were true for (that week anyway). So if you think it was, then it was, if not, then it wasn't, but regardless the sentiment behind the words 'should' always mean something, I think often it doesn't though.soren7550 said:
Ok, I'll be honest, the lesbians thing is getting old. Don't get me wrong, I love Scott Pilgrim but seeing it thread after thread kills the joke. It was a funny part in the movie but nowi t's just dead, really.
OT: Yes, I wasn't in a relationship with them and I said it. Herp derp, mark one up for my stupidity.
OT: Yes, I wasn't in a relationship with them and I said it. Herp derp, mark one up for my stupidity.
It was a big deal for me the first time, I was in high school and it was senior year. We were dating for a couple months by this point (I'm a nerd so she was my first gf). My school was doing a fundraiser where we could buy a rose and put a short message on it and it would be delivered to their locker. I had mine say I Love You.
When she got it I was with her at the time, and after reading the note she looked at me and said "I Love You too" and gave me a hug and kiss before we rushed off to our respective classes.
Almost 6 years later, as of August 15th, we are still together and engaged. I still love her, even more than back then.
Oh and she still has the rose pressed in one of her books.
When she got it I was with her at the time, and after reading the note she looked at me and said "I Love You too" and gave me a hug and kiss before we rushed off to our respective classes.
Almost 6 years later, as of August 15th, we are still together and engaged. I still love her, even more than back then.
Oh and she still has the rose pressed in one of her books.
Coupla years back, when I was in the final year of high school, I had a relationship which was a terrible idea in so many ways. I learned a lot from what I did wrong in it. One of them was the constant abuse of the L-word, by both of us, bear in mind that we were 15/16 at the time. I'm talking, about every 5-30 minutes in MSN conversations. Ugh. It gave us a great high at first, then just wore off and lost all meaning after a couple of weeks at most.
That relationship went south eventually, long after it should have. She's now dating an ex-friend of mine, "ex"-friend because of her. I'm sure they use the L-word plenty. Oh, and they've been talking about marriage, which is utterly retarded. She yet hasn't learned the lesson I did, clearly. Neither has he.
My current girlfriend, we've discussed this before now. It was incredibly sweet when she said "I really like you... and I'm thinking of a stronger word than that... but, it's probably not right." We both recognise that we're too young to really understand the concept of love, but in the meantime we've agreed on something to be stronger than like but less than love, so we just say lessthanthree. Infrequently, because I know all too well what'll happen if we slip into the cheap high. Ah well. With appropriate caution, we're going amazingly. ^_^
Young L-word, hey? It's so easy to mess up.
That relationship went south eventually, long after it should have. She's now dating an ex-friend of mine, "ex"-friend because of her. I'm sure they use the L-word plenty. Oh, and they've been talking about marriage, which is utterly retarded. She yet hasn't learned the lesson I did, clearly. Neither has he.
My current girlfriend, we've discussed this before now. It was incredibly sweet when she said "I really like you... and I'm thinking of a stronger word than that... but, it's probably not right." We both recognise that we're too young to really understand the concept of love, but in the meantime we've agreed on something to be stronger than like but less than love, so we just say lessthanthree. Infrequently, because I know all too well what'll happen if we slip into the cheap high. Ah well. With appropriate caution, we're going amazingly. ^_^
Young L-word, hey? It's so easy to mess up.
Not a whole of things out there really lives up to the hype they are cast in. We image many things that are suppose to be life changing and amazing but ends up sort of disappointing for lack of a better term. Fireworks don't shoot off and time doesn't stop just because you expressed your care towards another.
As far as I see it, life will go on regardless to how we expect it to be. If your relationship turns out alright and love is expressed on both sides, then good for you and your other. If fireworks don't fly, then it is only to be expected.
As far as I see it, life will go on regardless to how we expect it to be. If your relationship turns out alright and love is expressed on both sides, then good for you and your other. If fireworks don't fly, then it is only to be expected.
Nope, means nothing (to me). The thing is I actually mean it as I say it but once you've broken up you change so quickly! I guess I feel love easy, or I've never felt true love at all (depressing thought :-(soren7550 said:
EDIT: It's also never been a big deal or something I've kept track of with girls. Maybe they knew who said it first and stuff but I couldn't tell you who said it first in any of my past relationships.
When I first said it to my fiancé, I freaked out because I thought he would leave me over it. He wasn't my first or anything, but you always hear about how people are scared by the word and things like that...
He said it back though, then I confessed I was scared it would push him away, and he said it has no reason to push you away when you feel the same.
I was happy.
So we say it as some kind of punctuation mark, but it's always true and it always makes me happy ^_^
He said it back though, then I confessed I was scared it would push him away, and he said it has no reason to push you away when you feel the same.
I was happy.
So we say it as some kind of punctuation mark, but it's always true and it always makes me happy ^_^
It is all dependant on the person for people like me who generally keep people at a distance saying "I love you" is a HUGE thing, on the other side for an overly affectionate person its like nothing for them to say it.
The first time I said I was in lesbians... woo that takes me back.TheDarkEricDraven said:
OT: I use many different types of love, familial love, friend-love, and romantic love. They all have different meanings. When I first said I love you to my girlfriend, my current girlfriend being the only one to hear that from me, I really meant it. She means the world to me, I'm having fun and I definitely don't want to end it anytime soon.