Haha, once again I find myself here asking for advice. I don't want to spam the message boards, but I'm just very... anxious about this dating procedure. I'm confident in person, but all these "games" and "rules" and what not... just so confusing and frustrating some times!
Anyways... I need a bit of advice. I went out on a date with someone that I met online. We'd been taking for... almost a month now really. Things went really well; I may have played it a bit conservatively but she still seemed very interested in seeing me again. Problem is, I don't want to blow my chances at getting to that point by being overly smothering or needy...
So, I called her the next day, got her v-mail, and left her a message about how much fun I had, nothing too serious. Then we got to texting back and forth. So now, its 3 days later, and I'm just getting worried I might be a bit too intense so I'm dialing it back a bit.
My question is this. I definitely want to see her again, preferably this weekend, and it seems like she'd be down with doing that too. What I want to know is how should I approach this? I had a couple of ideas...
My first was to not text her back tomorrow, since I was the last one to send a message, and then get back to her Wednesday and ask her out via text. Kind of lame, but I don't want to come off as overbearing and always needing to talk. TO be honest, I'd love to keep messaging her, but so many people and sites say to keep it distant for a while... not sure why since I'm not very good at these games...
My other idea was to text her tomorrow and tell her that I'm gonna be busy all day, so if she tries to get a hold of me I'll be busy, but that I'll call her Wednesday night. Not sure if I should include a bit about "maybe we can plan something for this weekend then?", as that might be a bit too needy too. At the same time though, it definitely shows that I'm interested, so I'm conflicted. Does having something to look forward to make her more excited to talk to me after a period of just not talking, or is it better to just be spontaneous?
So how should I go about doing this? I really don't want to mess this up...any thoughts on my plans, be they criticism or not, or some other alternative would be extremely appreciated.
Anyways... I need a bit of advice. I went out on a date with someone that I met online. We'd been taking for... almost a month now really. Things went really well; I may have played it a bit conservatively but she still seemed very interested in seeing me again. Problem is, I don't want to blow my chances at getting to that point by being overly smothering or needy...
So, I called her the next day, got her v-mail, and left her a message about how much fun I had, nothing too serious. Then we got to texting back and forth. So now, its 3 days later, and I'm just getting worried I might be a bit too intense so I'm dialing it back a bit.
My question is this. I definitely want to see her again, preferably this weekend, and it seems like she'd be down with doing that too. What I want to know is how should I approach this? I had a couple of ideas...
My first was to not text her back tomorrow, since I was the last one to send a message, and then get back to her Wednesday and ask her out via text. Kind of lame, but I don't want to come off as overbearing and always needing to talk. TO be honest, I'd love to keep messaging her, but so many people and sites say to keep it distant for a while... not sure why since I'm not very good at these games...
My other idea was to text her tomorrow and tell her that I'm gonna be busy all day, so if she tries to get a hold of me I'll be busy, but that I'll call her Wednesday night. Not sure if I should include a bit about "maybe we can plan something for this weekend then?", as that might be a bit too needy too. At the same time though, it definitely shows that I'm interested, so I'm conflicted. Does having something to look forward to make her more excited to talk to me after a period of just not talking, or is it better to just be spontaneous?
So how should I go about doing this? I really don't want to mess this up...any thoughts on my plans, be they criticism or not, or some other alternative would be extremely appreciated.