- Sex/Gender Problems

[BabySinclair]

The worst part about being male is also wanting to be female and having to explain to people what "bigender" or "androgyne" means.

Don't bother, take the anthropologist's approach to the subject; gender isn't fixed and everyone assigns their gender fluidly during the course of the day. Gender isn't Male or Female but what gender roles a person observers and which ones they ignore from the giant grey pool of male, female, and special case societal expectations. Sex = Male/Female/Intersexed. Gender = "Whatever I damn well please at the time." It makes life so much easier, why people use the psychologist's definition of gender (Male-Female duality) is beyond me.


As for being a male (Sex), kind of just roll with it so can't complain too much. Not gay myself but yeah, people need to get over that as being different.

 

[Chemical Alia]

Personally? I just want to be considered a person before a woman.
Why do people care so much about the fact that I bleed every month and have been told by society to want to be pretty?

Please don't toss me in the pigeon-hole of "female" and think you know a single thing about me.

Same here, well said. The period thing is a negligible factor of my life, too. Rarely any symptoms and no noticeable hormonal differences that so many people assume to be a fate worse than death.

 

[Stew Coard]

I don't know, yeah sure it's not nice to expect stuff from people based on their sex and their are some pretty ugly stereotypes, but you have to admit there are certain biological factors that create generalities. Like men being more aggressive, not unanimously true, but generally true.
And some people get to worked up about gender roles. A nursery in Sweden specially color code everything, and make kids play so that nothing encourages gender roles, and every book in there has a moral lesson about accepting homosexuality. So while Sweden is worried about whether their child watches as much My Little Pony as Bob the Builder, I think I'll worry about whether my child has integrity, responsibility and life skills. If you give a boy a barbie to play with at a young uninfluenced open minded age he will bend it over and use it as a gun. True story.

 

[Liudeius]

I don't have so much of a problem with stereotypes imposed on my gender, I just ignore them.

What does bother me is that 80% of the high school/college population is so overtly sexual. It's already difficult enough to find a good relationship without everyone else only caring about sex.

 

[The Lesbian Flower]

I hate HATE being expected to automatically love and coo over babies at the first sight of them. I fucking hate babies with a passion. I also hate having periods, childbirth, and the notion that when I find someone I love, I will want to have their baby.

On the other hand, I can have 5 orgasms in under 5 minutes.
I suppose it all balances out.

 

[Retal19]

FOOOOOOOTBAAAAAAALLLLLL.
It's starting to really piss me off. Top Tip: A Good Way to break the ice is to just say 'Hey, I'm , you?', not grunt 'So who do yer support?', because all males obviously love football. I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to say 'I don't support anyone. I find Football to be a Stupid, Pointless, overly-glorified Past-time and do not want any part in it.'

Also this thing about 'Going with someone' and 'Shifting Someone' and Heading out to Clubs. It's really, really horrid to me. I don't WANT to shove my tongue down a Stranger's throat in the Toilet or Alley of some Club. Is it so wrong to want some sort of relationship at Fifteen? Nothing major, but something substantial at least? Apparently so. 'Ye'll shove yer tongue down a stranger's throat and ye'll like it because yer fifteen an' that's all ye can get.'

That second one is really more just generally here in Ireland in retrospect, sorry. =| Leaving it in anyway.

 

[Brandon237]

That because i'm male i must be a fighter. I can fight but I'd choose against it.

Oh this so much. I am a pacifist. Sure I dream constantly about brutally murdering Bob Mugabe and the like, but when it comes down to it I can't hurt very much without feeling guilty. In karate I don't get angry when I fight. Ever. I am not aggressive, I don't insult unnecessarily, and I really don't want to injure anyone. If it isn't an ant, wasp or venomous arachnid, I see no reason for conflict.

And I don't like sport, that gets some looks. I don't watch it or play it, apparently I am not a human male...

 

[Blow_Pop]

the only thing that still bothers me is the amount of sexism in the workplace. Yeah technically it is illegal but it is so overlooked and understated now it is hard to prove. Like the catch-22 I am stuck in. I need 4 months on the job experience to get my ASE certifications to become a mechanic so i can work on cars which I love doing. Or well a grease monkey is more appropriate. However I'm told by EVERY shop out here that I have to have the certifications to work ANYWHERE in the shop even just answering the phones. However if I were male I wouldn't be having this problem. However it isn't enough to prove sexism in the eyes of the law.

 

[dark-mortality]

A LOT of girls expect men to make the first move. What if we don't want to make the first move? Some of us are pretty shy, and could need some help opening up... Plus, you girls are so mysterious. How are we supposed to know that you like us? That you bat your eyelashes? Need more than that, sorry.

 

[Lady Larunai]

My issue is that people are still believing in all the stupid stereotype of what makes a man or a woman, what they should do in situations down to what colors that should like and what foods they should eat, who should earn more and all that other crap

there are no real flaws in either gender other than the mind set and restrictions they choose to believe

 

[Biosophilogical]

Well, I'll start off by saying that I like being able to pee standing up. That's just nice. There isn't all that much I dislike about being male, though that's probably because being at university exposes me to a wide variety of people from every/most gender-sex combinations, which means that while there are 'manly men', 'gym junkies', and 'weekend clubbers', there are also 'sissy guys', 'empathetic guys', 'gamer guys', 'socially awkward guys', 'hilariously crazy and abnormal guys', etc. That's not even starting on the girls.

I'd imagine that in a few years time, when I leave university, I'll be in a much smaller and concentrated demographic, and whatever group I end up lumped with will annoy me to no end simply because they are so gender-restricted.

 

[Metaik]

I'm quite surprised no male has mentioned getting hit in the bollocks*, as that is top of my list followed a close second by the assumption that I'm trying to get into the pants of any woman I talk to.

* If someone has already mentioned this I apologise for my oversight

 

[Mr Thin]

Having to shave my face every day is a pain in the ass. Other than that, I'm alright with being a guy.

 

[Phasmal]

To be honest, the sexism in the gaming community still gets to me.
I like voice chatting in games, but I dont like the automatic `OMGGIRL!` and then the mixed reactions of either harrassment, people asking me out, or the white-knight syndrome (`If someone gives you trouble just come to me!`. Yeah thanks fella, cause I couldn't deal with it, what with my ovaries and all).
And there are some guys that just cant get past it (a certain guy I know in particular) and thus treats a girl who games like a dog who learnt to talk.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

Most annoying thing about being a guy? You can't be friendly towards a member of the opposite sex without all your friends (and sometimes all of her friends) assuming you are "grafting" her (yes, that's the new slang). If you like talking to a girl it obviously must be some kind of subtle ploy to end up in her bed, because you couldn't possibly just enjoy their company. No no no no no. Because you see, you're a guy, and it's a well known fact that whenever a guy looks at a girl all they see is a pair of tits on a stick. /sarcasm

Oh, that and being kicked in the balls. That one's no fun either.

 

[Death God]

Males: The most annoying thing about being a guy is that everyone expects you to be like some kind of Rambo-muscled, power-housed, strong man. The minute you show a kinder side it is an immediate, "He's gay. He likes reading instead of sport and watches 'chick-flicks', so he must be gay," and personally, that gets real old and real annoying.

Females: Girls who want equality but yet deny when a guy want to play volleyball or gets mad when a guy doesn't hold the door for them or doesn't pull out their seat. I, being the gentleman I am, already do all that but I is beyond annoying when girls say a guy can't do something but a girl can and still ask for equality. If they want equality, you get equality 100% or not at all.

 

[TheDooD]

Most annoying thing about being a guy? You can't be friendly towards a member of the opposite sex without all your friends (and sometimes all of her friends) assuming you are "grafting" her (yes, that's the new slang). If you like talking to a girl it obviously must be some kind of subtle ploy to end up in her bed, because you couldn't possibly just enjoy their company. No no no no no. Because you see, you're a guy, and it's a well known fact that whenever a guy looks at a girl all they see is a pair of tits on a stick. /sarcasm

Oh, that and being kicked in the balls. That one's no fun either.

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I have no idea how many times when I tried to introduce myself to women they got angry. It's like what the hell did I do to ruin your day. Yet when I don't act interested you're suddenly into me. I been confused about this shit for years.

 

[grimgor42]

I recognize that gender roles are obsolete, yet I know that I like dating girls who aren't taller than me. I guess I'm just a chauvinistic male pig.

 

[HellsingerAngel]

...or the white-knight syndrome (`If someone gives you trouble just come to me!`. Yeah thanks fella, cause I couldn't deal with it, what with my ovaries and all.)

This. I really hate this.

Not the fact that people are white knights to me (that'd be a bit unwanted) but the fact that if I treat a girl nicely by opening doors or helping her over puddles, I'm apparently an asshole for being too archaic and not letting them express their independance. But what happens when I don't? I'm considered an asshole for being a bum and not helping them out and letting them do everything themselves!

Seriously girls, pro tip: those guys do shit for you because they attracted to women. It has nothing to do with the fact that they want sex (though they aren't mutually exclusive) because guys in steady, happy relationships still treat women "better" than they would men. It isn't because you're weak, because we all know women have the ability to open doors and walk over puddles and frag some jerkface in Halo. It's because that's just what we do. It's like how girls tend to want to look that much nicer when a guy they like the look of is around. It's just something we do as social creatures and it's not to offend, but to be a kind geature towards something we personally like. Take it for what it's meant to be: a compliment!

 

[Something Amyss]

Women are told from a very young age that their bits are dirty, and wrong. Later on in life, they're told that being sexual in any sort of manner is wrong, and they're bad people for even thinking it.

And, at the same time, if they don't perform like a pornstar on their first go, there's something wrong with them.