- Sex/Gender Problems

[Astoria]

I just hate the generalisations that all guy are lying dicks who want to use you and all girls are manipulators who want to screw you over. Not everyone is a bad person and if that's the only people you find maybe the problem is you. Easily the worst part of being a girl is periods and child birth. Guys, imagine doing a really tough work out and then having your stomach feel like it's trying to crush itself. Not fun. And that's not even childbirth. As for guys I'm guessing its the pressure of having to be manly all the time.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Most of the girls I've talked too say they like a feminine side.

They do say that but there is a second part that always goes unmentioned.
They presume a guy to be uber manly by default and having a soft side when women so desire, or as one of my friends put it "we just expect a guy to always do the right thing in the exact right moment"... no pressure there

 

[Zeraiya]

What irritates me about being female is:

Just because I'm a girl I have to like the colour pink.

Because I play video games and FPSs I am 'weird'. (This is usually enforced by other women.)

If I call another woman 'hot' or notice how attractive another woman is I am immediately classified as a lesbian. (However I imagine this is the same, or worse, for you guys.)

Because I'm a girl I must always be wearing make-up and dressing up, even if I'm going to the shops.

I must like shopping.

If I think about sex I am abnormal and strange.

If I have sex or lose my virginity I am immediately a 'slut'. (Double standard much?)

 

[HeroKing89]

Expectations. All of them. Male expectations are quite literally absurd.

1. Have to make the first move in the relationship
2. have to be the "head of the house"
3. Have to be able to take care of the family
4. Has to be tough
5. Have to be dominate

This is just a small taste but a man has to prove his manliness with other men of a similar peer group or he isn't considered a man. I can not think of any time a woman had to prove her femininity to be accepted by other women... high school... maybe. Now obviously with anything these expectations have exceptions and within your own private relationship they tend tog o away but from a society at large kinda deal, if a man can't provide, or doesn't want to provide for his family he is seen as a failure as if the idea of a stay at home dad/husband was somehow the worst thing one can do.

 

[GeorgW]

First off I, much like most of you, loathe gender roles.
There are a lot of downsides to being a guy. Sexually, our orgasms are shorter and skill, stamina, size has bigger importance. Whenever I'm talking to a girl, even if I'm in a dedicated relationship with someone else, everyone automatically assumes I want to fuck her. I'm regarded as a chauvinistic pig that thinks women can't do anything for themselves if I open a door for a woman, and if I don't I'm considered an inconsiderate pig if I don't. Also, for some reason it's harder to make friends as a male, maybe it's cuz all the women think we want to fuck them. As for guys, I dunno, maybe the same?

If I could choose I'd be a female, mostly for the orgasms.

 

[EeveeElectro]

A few people think I'm a lesbian because I rarely wear feminine clothes and doll myself up.
It's just the fact I don't have many clothes or the money to buy more and my boyfriends wardrobe is huge, so I wear his clothes a lot.
Obviously, I hate periods and the thought of giving birth, all the...pain...eurgh o_o

Oh, and I hate how a woman's worth is measured with her attractiveness. I mean fuck all to some people because I'm not drop dead gorgeous.

 

[SilentCom]

The belief that boys must lose their virginity as quickly as possible while at the same time girls are expected to hold on to theirs for as long as possible. Conflict much?

I hate that belief. That's why I'm a 22 year old virgin male. Frankly, sex is kind of over-hyped.

 

[Erja_Perttu]

I hate that it is just naturally assumed I am a fucking horndog because I'm a dude.

When people find out I'm asexual, somehow that makes me not a man. Because men are just like that, supposedly. If you don't want to stick your wang in any warm, inviting hole that presents itself, you may as well just be a statue or something.

I have actually had people come up and say things to the effect of "why don't you just get castrated since your dick is basically useless." And then they sit and stare at me with inquisitive little dumbfuck eyes and a vapid smile like they didn't just say something completely fucking retarded.

I hate getting stigmatised because I'm asexual. People look at me like I'm wired wrong - a friend of mine is bisexual and there's no problems with her, but me? Hell, my friends wanted to confiscate my ovaries.

The amount of times I've been told I'll be alone forever, and to give up even thinking about getting into a long term relationship because it won't work without sex - hell, even my own mother sat me down and said, sweetie, I think you should just accept that a relationship just won't work for you.

I can have whatever I want. There's more than one asexual person in the world, and I'm sure that even if I don't find someone with the same inclinations as me I'll at least get myself some damn good friends - better than my current ones anyhow.

 

[The Artificially Prolonged]

1. Shaving. Hate it, but I don't feel clean if I go more than a day or two without shaving. Such a pain to go through every day. I tell women have it easy. [small]Joke. Please don't kill lady escapists[/small]
2. Being somehow able to crush my own genitals when getting out a chair. And by extension;
3. Getting hit in balls
4. Everything is my fault because I am a man.
5. "I shouldn't have to say, you should just know" *rage* Do women get told that men have special some special ESP mind reading ability, because we don't.

you'll be walking along a lonesome path and some random woman walking some distance in front of you will be obviously shitting herself for no other reason than the fact there's "a man" behind her. and you can't say anything or do anything to maybe put her at ease gawd no because she'd probably completely freak out if you even tried.

You could run up to her screaming "I'M NOT AN ATTACKER!"
But seriously I hate it being applied that just because I am walking the same way as someone a little way behind them, that I have nothing but evil intentions.

 

[Spoonius]

I hate how a woman's worth is measured with her attractiveness. I mean fuck all to some people because I'm not drop dead gorgeous.

I like talking to "average" girls. You're more likely to have a good conversation without a massive ego getting in the way.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I'd prefer to be a woman, mainly for aesthetic reasons. And more intense orgasms. Probably shallow, but what the heck. Being a guy is also okay, so I'm not going under the knife any time soon.

 

[Nickolai77]

This may have already been said, as i havn't read the last four pages but...

As a guy it really irks me that males are expected to make the first move on girls- i.e, do all the flirting, act like a confident macho hero-like figure and pluck up the courage to ask a girl out and such- basically, i have to pretend i'm something i'm not if i want a girlfriend, which sucks.

Also, wish male bodies were more aesthetically pleasing, that said at least we don't get periods.

 

[Username Redacted]

<- Male. I gotten extremely tired of people assuming that I'm going to help them move heavy objects.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

Because I play video games and FPSs I am 'weird'. (This is usually enforced by other women.)
If I call another woman 'hot' or notice how attractive another woman is I am immediately classified as a lesbian. (However I imagine this is the same, or worse, for you guys.)

I totally agree with the first point, although most of the girls that have criticised my love of gaming neglect the fact that The Sims is in fact a game.. which technically makes them hypocrites.

The second point I've not really experienced (myself and my friends are generally quite open about appreciating each other and other women) but I imagine it'd make my list of pet peeves if I'd been exposed to it more often than I have.

 

[KyuubiNoKitsune-Hime]

Being MTF transgendered I get a lot of the bad from both. Especially because I'm not even tempted to get a sex change.

Being told it's wrong for me to wear a skirt just because I was born with a penis.

Also having people flip out on me when they figure out I'm a male.

 

[Shakomaru]

Just because I'm a girl I have to like the colour pink.

Because I'm a girl I must always be wearing make-up and dressing up, even if I'm going to the shops.

Sorry for the editing... The thing is, there isn't anything wrong with Pink or any other color... But society isn't swayed easily and "genders having colors" will probably be around forever.
The second one I definitely agree with. If I wasn't so afraid of them, I'd ask my friends to go to school one day not wearing makeup just to see if it really makes a difference. Personally, I hate the stuff. It's always grease based or something and a pain to take off and put on. I'm a guy. But I do theatre so stage makeup is required.. I don't mind it too much, It's just annoying sometimes.