Sexuality / Being uptight

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Irony's Acolyte

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1.1) I guess I would rather not but...
1.2) that's because I'd rather not share my bed with anyone else if I had too. Unless we were going to be "sleeping" together. But otherwise I like sleeping in my own bed, cus I'm generally not that much of a touchy-feely guy. But if I had to, I'd sleep in the same bed with either sex if necessary.
2) Yeah, I'd say so. I don't get overly embarrassed if someone brings up sex in a conversation.
3) I don't think I've really ever been in a situation where someone being uptight would make a difference. If I was though I'd act one of two ways. If I respected them and their uptight ways, then I'd refrain from saying anything that might make them uncomfortable. If I thought them being uptight was silly, I'd go all out and try to get them as uncomfortable as possible.
 

Serenegoose

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1: I'd happily share my bed with anybody I was comfortable with as a friend, or even acquaintance, if circumstance required it. I sleep like a log anyway, so they'd not disturb me.

2: I find it easy to talk about sex and sexuality. It's not sacred to me, so what have I got to be afraid of?

3: I act no differently around uptight people than I do around anybody else. Why would their opinions affect me unless they were trying to foist them on me?
 

Ham_authority95

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1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?

If they're just spending the night or whatever, I suppose.


[2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?

Only if the person in question is a partner and/or a close friend. I try to not poster my sex life all in peoples' faces like my friends do.

3) How do you act around up-tight people?

I just don't talk about sex with them. "Up-tight" people can usually be interesting in other ways, so I wouldn't need to bring up sex to spark a conversation.
 

Not-here-anymore

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1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?

Have done, many times. It's cheaper to do so in a lot of places, or at least requires fewer rooms. Hell, I've shared a bed with a gay guy on occasion, although he did assure me that he didn't find me attractive beforehand.
And then he stole all the covers, the bastard. 'Twas cold that week for me.


2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
...yes? Student - it gets talked about a lot. Though usually in general terms - I'm not really one for going into detail about my sex life (or lack thereof)

3) How do you act around up-tight people?
Much the same as I act around anyone else - I try to avoid major offence, whilst inflicting little jabs in joke form the whole time.
 

darth gditch

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1. Yes, have had to do so before and will probably do so again. Not a big fan of anyone in my bed-I am a very restless sleeper and tend to run into things/people.
2. Yes, but it's personal. I view sex as a very personal and private thing. It's something very intimate to me that involves a lot of trust. I'm not gonna tell just anyone about my sex life, or lack thereof. But I can talk about it without embarrassment. Except maybe with my parents, family ect. Still a little weird in my book. *shrug
3. Meh, I don't know very many. I'm the most up-tight of my friends. And for the most part unless I feel strongly one way or another, I respect other people's opinions/mores so I won't talk about sex.
 

Spacelord

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1. Sure, I guess. But no snoring.
2. That depends, obviously.
3. You mean people that have sexual hangups? Well usually I just talk about stuff other than sex I guess (that still leaves plenty of conversation material)
 

Blindswordmaster

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1)As long as it's a big fucking bed.
2)Kind of, I mean I make jokes about porn with my friends, so yeah, I'm pretty open about sex.
3)Depends on the person. If they polity ask me to change the subject, then I will. If they call me a heathen, time for the pedophilia/necrophilia/really fucked up sex jokes; and boy do I have a lot.
 

joshuaayt

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1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?

Well, my bed is a single, but I understand the point of the question.

If I'm in a situation that necessitates the sharing of a bed, I will not sleep, because it means that either I am at a friend's house, or they are at mine. I cannot sleep in such circumstances (Unless I have a reason for being tired already), due to severe trust problems. I have no qualms about being in the same bed as someone, though- it's no different to sitting next to them.

1.2) If no, what bothers you about it?

N/A

2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?

Yes, but no one appreciates it, so I don't.

3) How do you act around up-tight people?

I try to correct their erroneous opinions. Yes, I am stating that not all opinions are equal, because they are not. I'd end that with an "That's just my opinion, OK?", to stop people arguing with me, but that would look foolish.
Remember, if I know that they are uptight, they are clearly in some way infringing on my rights to act the way I do, as I am not one to pry. I don't just stroll up to people and tell them to shape up.
 

Shapsters

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1.1) Ya I've done it before, as long as we don't wake up spooning it doesn't really matter
2) Me and my friends always talk abotu sex in fact its the only thing we ever talk about... mind you none of us are actually participating in it but we all wish we were.
3) I just don't talk about stuff if they don't want to, I know who is and who isn't comfortable about talking about such things so I watch who I'm around.
 

Jaime_Wolf

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1) Yes. But I'm also gay...I guess I would also share my bed with a woman? That's the closest parallel I can really draw.
2) If contextually appropriate, I don't mind talking about it at all.
3) I don't change much at all. If they have a problem with me somehow, I just reign it in a little with them. I don't think it's an issue of compromising my identity - politeness and social adaptation are part of my identity.

Also, I'm guessing that girl was fairly young ("creepy" is a strange word to use there - if she had strong convictions from religion or some such, I'd expect a stronger word, otherwise I'd just expect her not to care). Either way, I'm also guessing you're NOT American by the way you mentioned that and it should probably be noted that (at least young) American's are not, by and large, the prudes significant portions of Europe seem to think we are.
 

CoverYourHead

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1. I'm bi, so I'm more than comfortable with others, though I feel guys are hesitant. Y'know, homophobia and what-not.
2. Yep! Not disturbed by it in the least.
3. Try to be respectful, unless they're judging me, in which case I make it my mission to make them as awkward as possible.
 

Isolda Sage

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1.1 I m strait, but I would and I have shared a bed with other women. I would rather sleep on a
bed than the floor or a couch. It really is no big deal to me. I have even slept next to my
gay female friends. That has only been a problem once when a not so close friend decided
she need to feel me up. That was annoying.
1.2 N/A
2. I am not a very open person in general, but among the people I trust I am completely
comfortable talking about my sexuality. Some would say too comfortable.
3. I find uptight people annoying. I usually avoid them, but if in the right mood, I may be
inclined to mess with them.
 

Tasachan

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1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
This might be different because I'm a girl, but I've shared a bed with several of my friends. (In a non-sexual way) sometimes more than 2 of us in the same bed.
2) If no, what bothers you about it?
2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
NO. I get embarrassed really easily. I can't even say the word sex to most people. I'm not so bad on forums, but real life? nuh-uh.
3) How do you act around up-tight people?
Hmn? I don't really know.
 

keve4433

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1.Sure why not?
2.N/A
3.Do it all the time with just about anyone. Actually made a pretty good masturbation joke with my mother of all people.
4.I just talk about other things but if they attack me I will retaliate.
 

Xojins

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1.1) Yep. Nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
2) Yes
3) I think it's funny how uptight they are so it just makes me more relaxed.
 

snow

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We Americans are pretty uptight when it comes to sexuality It's what we're programmed to think as you can see with our laws and history when it comes to that sort of thing. It's quite sad.

1. If I had to, then yeah I won't have a problem with it. I've done it in the past and if you really think about it, you're going to be unconscious anyway so what's the difference? My only problem would be if the other person woke me up, but that's regardless of gender.

3. Sex is sex. There is nothing really special about it. It just happens to be idolized more or less depending on what kind of society you live in, for example, here in America it just happens to be the big score because of how it is viewed in our society.

I usually don't talk about it because, being American myself I run the risk of running into those that are uptight or idolize it and I figure I'd save myself the headache, unless of course it is brought up by some one else then sure, I'll talk about anything really.

4. I don't act any different, why should I let some one who is uptight about something change the way I would act. If we're talking about some one being uptight in terms of sexuality, chances are they won't bring up the topic in the first place so once again I save myself the trouble by not doing so either. Though if they did, then conversation ahoy, maybe then I will get a read on why they are uptight in the first place.
 

kickyourass

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Let's take the questions one at a time

hyperhammy said:
1.1) Would you share your bed with a person of the same sex?
So long as he keeps his pants on I don't think I'd have any problem with it

2) Can you openly talk about sex or sexuality?
With most people yes

3) How do you act around up-tight people?
Depends entirely on what you mean by up-tight.
 

CarpathianMuffin

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1. I see absolutely no problem with sleeping in the same bed as another male.
2. I can, though I prefer not to. I don't have any qualms about it, there's just better things to talk about.
3. Around uptight people, I just act as I usually do. Leaves more than a few uncomfortable.
 

Naleh

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1) No... simply because I like my space.
2) Sorta.
I'd go into detail and explain what I mean by that, but I'm not comfortable doing so. <.<
3) How do you mean up-tight? If you mean uncomfortable to be talking about sexuality, well, I just said I am one of those people, so I'm not going to conflict with them at all. If you mean sexually conservative, anti-homosexuality etc., then I'm likely to get into an argument with them.
 

Nouw

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1.I don't care and ever will. As long as he has some clothes on...
2.Depends on who it is.
3.I try and respect them, but if they make the first move, they'll be sleeping on the floor! Of course this is when I have to be around them in situations like that. But in life I just try and respect their views. Or I sometimes fire the first shot.