bobleponge said:
carnex said:
The problem comes from the connotation of the word. If you say that someone sucks you stated opinion that he is no good, and context will say what's he not good at. Like if you say that someone sucks while he sings in karaoke bar, everyone will conclude that that person sings badly or at least you think so.
But if you say that one is "sexist" you slapped on that person socially unacceptable characteristic that marks him.
So there is huge difference.
What if that guy in the karaoke bar starts changing the words to the song in way that implies women are only good for having sex with and cooking? Can we call him sexist then? Or are we not allowed to because it might hurt his feelings, nevermind the women listening in the audience?
You can't objectively prove something is sexist. There's no scientific method for proving sexism. Everything isn't math. It's a criticism, just like "this sucks" or "this is offensive to me as a gamer." I say call a spade a spade.
The silly thing is, it seems like we agree on the issue (there aren't many good representations of women in games, and when there are they are usually scantily clad for no reason), but you have an angry knee-jerk reaction if anyone uses the words "sexism" or "feminism."
We differ on several more impostant facts, like the fact that I constatly present facts VS you presenting feelings, and my support of artist's freedom from censorship.
But, anyway, I don't "knee-jerk" at the mention of feminism, whatever that phrase means here (seriously, I never know what words mean on internet, people use them out of their normal meaning all the time). Feminism is an ideology that in core holds belief that there are injustices towards women embodied in their social constructs of "Patriarchy", "Rape Culture" and "Pay Gap" which were, as far as I'm concerned, proven as false in developed western world using facts of our daily lives. If those constructs are wrong then they are harmful to my sex and therefore I see it as something that I have to oppose.
As I pointed out, I'm all against censorship. Not that there is content that I would prefer not to have to see, there is a lot of it. My nation was demonized for a long time and there are still lingering injustices concerning that. Never the less, however it hurt to see "war criminal" that massacres thousands on a whim in game be of my nationality in popular game, it's a matter of artistic freedom. As I said before, in my opinion artist or author if you prefer has a DUTY to ignore social norms and wisdoms if those are going to limit or change work based on his vision.
Also, I often say "Own your own sexuality". In my view, there is nothing wrong with overly sexually charged representations of character. And I mean that in terms of all sexes. Those cannot influence anyone to perceive members of some sex as anything different than they are except in some extreme and borderline cases, and you can?t really restrict one medium due to those extreme and borderline cases.
There for I subscribe to the idea that any person that has problem with overly sexually charged representations of sexes in games has some other issues that this, rather benign act triggers. Much of it is banal like out upbringing making us queasy of seeing naked or semi-naked bodies out of their usual, sterilizing context. So, it's not actually character's or artist?s fault, it's actually our projection on that character. Just like me and that "war criminal". If you are comfortable with your own sexual being you are much less likely to feel othered and harmed by sexual or any other representation of any group you see yourself fit in. If you are confident in your own convictions, nothing so simple can shake them. I might be wrong, but I'm yet to be proven wrong.
And what about if he sings that song? If I don?t know that person I might conclude many things, but at the same time I do know that person liking a song does not mean he agrees with lyrics. I never did any art of violence against woman except twisting arm of one when she tried to hit me over and over (first few times I just caught and moved her arm away) and I really think that violence against anyone is bad (And I'm sexist in the fact that I did occasionally settle thing with fists with another man but that was a long time ago, ended in my teen years). Yet I can enjoy music that have really controversial lyrics. From ultra-feminist ones to woman-hating ones. It's music and there is more than words to it, plus as with any artistic endeavor, there is a lot of hyperbole involved. For example I really like song "Shotgun Shell" by Elvis Hitler even if I don't agree with it's message or with lifestyle of author.
Yea, you can be spurred to question him of choice, but also you can?t simply attribute something socially damning to him based on so little evidence. There is really beautiful stained glass in Vienna depicting slave labor and forced conversion to Christianity in Mexico (also Emperor Maximilian as successor to past ?great leaders? of that country). But the fact that you like that stained glass does not make you racist or fundamentalist.
And, yes, I?m attached to views of everything through scientific view, it?s what I was thought all my life and what I found to be only really objective and useful view in the long run. At the same time I lived through the toxicity of complacency to feelings of one particular group or person and have first person experience how counter-productive that is.