Should I dump my girlfriend?

[Ben Legend]

God, what is wrong with you people nowadays. Go and talk to her and explain how you feel. If she can't understand, or is unwilling to try and change, that when you should be on here looking for advice, not now.

Anyway, good luck.

 

[Shepard's Shadow]

If you have to ask the question....

Quick Clarification: Yes, you should.

 

[the_green_dragon]

Your call, I'm not even sure why you're asking this on a gaming website tho, cause I think you will get a biased answer.

Personally, I would dump her ass but thats cause I have no problem getting girls to go out with me. (check my badges! It says so)

 

[similar.squirrel]

Are you sure you can get another one?

 

[tehweave]

Not to offend here, but if you're seeking advice from an internet forum of mostly gamers (and approximately 70% of the population is male) then maybe you should think long and hard about whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.

My advice? If she keeps this up it's obvious that she doesn't care that much about hanging out with you. Part of me wants to say "Stick with it, you're waaaaaay overreacting" which you are, but at the same time, you shouldn't stay in a relationship with someone if they don't care about you.

I know this may sound bad, but I'm really fucking cynical when it comes to relationships.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Dude, think... Maybe she's just not that into you man... she obviously shows you very little respect, and loyalty is obviously not too strong there, might be how you're treating her, you're tryin to give too much man, women don't like asskissers, if you think all you're worth is to kiss her ass and let her walk all over you, then maybe she sees you as not worth the time...

So yeah dump her ass, work on yourself and get someone who wants you...

 

[CobraX]

So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

Dump Her.Do It.

 

[Adzma]

Straight up dump. That's my two cents. Relationships are meant to be an equal outing after all.

 

[Astoria]

I wouldn't dump her but it seems like you two need a serious talk. If she continues to do this after asking her not to then maybe consider dumping her but not until you've talked.

 

[kingkongmfg]

Just clone her and keep the spare in your closest.

 

[Shirokurou]

Confront her about this and see her reaction.

 

[Sampler]

Dude you're at the best point in a relationship now - you've made the emotional detachment, the relationships over BUT she doesn't know that yet and now you can push it for everything you've ever wanted to ask for but we're too scared.

Threesome with her sister? Up the gary glitter? Her sister up the gary?

I kid, sorta, you'd have to be a real jackass to pull that shit..
_>

 

[Leadfinger]

"when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely." Because you are really into her and want to be with her. That's how a partner is supposed to act. Plus she should be jumping your bones. Anyway, if she's not providing this, she's just not that into you.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Maybe you should consider talking to her instead of the internet, dude.

 

[s0p0g]

Why do you think we can answer this for you? Which of us could have even a mild amount of genuine knowledge of the situation? All we have here is one anecdote told from your perspective. You need to understand what you want, and you also need to understand things from her perspective. You're the only person in a position to do this, not us, not your mom, no one but you.

You talk to her about your feelings, not in a whiney lonely puppy way, but as a human being, tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels, try to understand where she's coming from and try your best to communicate where you're coming from. That takes courage, but until you do it, you can't really know what you should do. Only then should you make a decision, not us.

as this is pretty much what i was going to say, i will just sign this.

you are asking for a remote diagnosis, and a therapy, based on your (finite and) subjective perspective. the best and most honest advice we can give, i think, is that we cannot give any advice besides that you should have a serious talk with her.
all i can add is: please do not have this talk when you're about to explode; it will only get ugly then, but not constructive at all.
i hope you come to a mutually beneficial conclusion.

 

[Andothul]

Talk to her first dude. First step to a long lasting relationship is communication.

Don't just dump her without trying to work it out.

 

[mechanixis]

How does your mother know that your GF has done this many times yet you don't?

poor memory

I'm getting the impression this isn't a very serious relationship.

 

[barbzilla]

Honest opinion is you need to evaluate your relationship. If you feel she is worth it, then confront her and tell her that she needs to take the relationship seriously or you are gone. Make sure to explain the problems that you can't live with (don't bring up all the small shit she has done). If she tries to work on it, and you can tell a difference then give her a chance to come through for you as she probably cares. If you don't think the relationship is worth the trouble you shouldn't even ask the question and just do it.

 

[Tdc2182]

First off, how old are you?

This is far from a big deal. If she was hanging out with some ex (like me) without telling you, yes you have a reason to be upset.

If you are seriously considering breaking up with her for something this miniscule, then you have no business being in a relationship in the first place.

Trust me, I know how annoying it is to take a backseat to other people in a relationship. It's how my last one ended. But yet again, this is far from a big deal.

 

[Tdc2182]

Not to offend here, but if you're seeking advice from an internet forum of mostly gamers (and approximately 70% of the population is male) then maybe you should think long and hard about whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.

I beg to differ. My last relationship took place because of advice on this forum (no matter how fucked it ended with, but to no fault of the escapist. She was kinda a whore.)