should i?

[RaikuFA]

growing up, i was bullied. i was beaten by my peers in and out of school. i got in trouble for being attacked. in middle school, a teacher got involved by encouraging others to throw basketballs at my face and punch me during games. she kept on reminding me that bad stuff would happen to me if i told anyone. cut to the present and my therapist says i have borderline PTSD(nowhere near as bad as war veteran but i still have it). she told me i should contact the school about it and demand a apology and have the teacher fired. i have contacted the school twice and no response. i even said in the last mail that i will go to the press about it.

should i go to the press about it?

 

[RaikuFA]

i really have no evidence that i can think of...

any ideas on what could be considered evidence?

 

[DefunctTheory]

i really have no evidence that i can think of...

any ideas on what could be considered evidence?

Video or first person witnesses.

Honestly, without either one, you're going to get no where. It may be time to let go.

 

[Paksenarrion]

If that teacher still works there, go to the School Principal. This will be hard for you, since it sounds like not many who witnessed it is likely to help you corroborate your story.

Also, do not take justice into your own hands.
You will not feel better.
You will not make things right.

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

If that teacher still works there, go to the School Principal. This will be hard for you, since it sounds like not many who witnessed it is likely to help you corroborate your story.

Also, do not take justice into your own hands.
You will not feel better.
You will not make things right.

While I don't ENCOURAGE violence you should bring about justice in whatever way you see fit whether it be by law and order, going to the media and ruining their career or by "taking it into your own hands".

 

[DefunctTheory]

Spoiler: Bad Ideas

If that teacher still works there, go to the School Principal. This will be hard for you, since it sounds like not many who witnessed it is likely to help you corroborate your story.

Also, do not take justice into your own hands.
You will not feel better.
You will not make things right.

While I don't ENCOURAGE violence you should bring about justice in whatever way you see fit whether it be by law and order, going to the media and ruining their career or by "taking it into your own hands".

Under no circumstances should you use violence. Violence is, and always will be, a tactic used only as an immediate solution to an immediate problem.

DO NOT DO THIS.

Confront your demon's dude. It aint easy or enjoyable but if you don't conquer your past it will haunt you. Best of luck with righting the wrong.

Actually, I've read quite a few study's that found SOME people are better off forgetting the past and moving on.

Though, if it's fresh on your mind, I suppose this is harder then it seems.

 

[Erana]

Spoiler: Bad Ideas

If that teacher still works there, go to the School Principal. This will be hard for you, since it sounds like not many who witnessed it is likely to help you corroborate your story.

Also, do not take justice into your own hands.
You will not feel better.
You will not make things right.

While I don't ENCOURAGE violence you should bring about justice in whatever way you see fit whether it be by law and order, going to the media and ruining their career or by "taking it into your own hands".

Under no circumstances should you use violence. Violence is, and always will be, a tactic used only as an immediate solution to an immediate problem.

DO NOT DO THIS.

Confront your demon's dude. It aint easy or enjoyable but if you don't conquer your past it will haunt you. Best of luck with righting the wrong.

Actually, I've read quite a few study's that found SOME people are better off forgetting the past and moving on.

Though, if it's fresh on your mind, I suppose this is harder then it seems.

Yeah, this.
You just have to accept what happened happened and move on. Its difficult and takes a long time, but my mother always says, "The best revenge is to be happy in spite of 'em."

Just get out of there if you haven't already.

 

[SiskoBlue]

If you've been diagnosed with PTSD then all this advice about "move on, forget it" is misguided. PTSD is the collection of symptoms usually arising from TRYING to move on and forget it when in fact you CAN'T move on and forget it. So you must do something to change the status quo

Honestly, if it was me, I'd cause a huge stink about it but not with the press. You can't trust them and they're generally fear or hate mongerers who don't have your interests in mind. But I'd still do something because I guarantee that if she bullied you then she's bullying others. Think of the old quote "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing".

I worked in Child Protection for the Education Department in Australia for while. Depending on what country you're in there SHOULD be a Child Protection unit that deals with this stuff. This is the appropriate response, rather than causing a media storm. This is because the Child Protection unit should investigate discreetly and anonymously so you're not causing a huge fuss that's going cause more trouble for you. But if that teacher is terrifying students they'll find out and deal with it. If it was a private school then calling the school probably will make them claim up for fear of liability.

The important thing is for you to get closure. The main thing is to focus on the fact that you were a child. And this person was a person in a position of authority. They abused that authority greatly. You are not a child anymore and they have no authority over you. You are equals. It might be worthwhile confronting her (in a calm and reasonable manner) and realising she's a pretty worthless human being. Once you can see her as a weak person and stop turning her into a personal demon, something much greater than she actually is, you should get your perspective back.

It would also probably help taking some confrontation training and the like. Something to help you feel empowered when dealing with bullies. PTSD comes from the fear of feeling vulnerable again and if you can arm yourself with confidence as it were, you'll feel a lot better.

 

[Mcupobob]

I would Imagine if theres another kid who is just like you going through the same shit. If abuse is happing then if you could and can handle it at the time then it would be great to step in. Though If you have no evidence then all you can do is try and move on and work out your own life problems. Its sucks but, sometimes life likes to fuck you over.

 

[noxymoron19]

Everyone already covered everything I'm capable of saying. If all else fails, try dropping her a bag of flaming dog poo.

 

[tharglet]

I think that the idea of speaking to a regulatory authority, if possible, is a good one.
If the teacher is still around, there's a reasonable chance someone else is going through what you went through. If so, that'll provide the evidence you need.
Chances are, the other people in the school are perfectly aware of what's going on, and probably don't care. As others have said, the media is a very hit and miss affair - could work, or they could decide the story isn't interesting and not follow through.

 

[BonsaiK]

growing up, i was bullied. i was beaten by my peers in and out of school. i got in trouble for being attacked. in middle school, a teacher got involved by encouraging others to throw basketballs at my face and punch me during games. she kept on reminding me that bad stuff would happen to me if i told anyone. cut to the present and my therapist says i have borderline PTSD(nowhere near as bad as war veteran but i still have it). she told me i should contact the school about it and demand a apology and have the teacher fired. i have contacted the school twice and no response. i even said in the last mail that i will go to the press about it.

should i go to the press about it?

The press are assholes, I wouldn't go there under any circumstances. Instead, consider legal action.