*sigh* Another relationship problem...

[Kenbo Slice]

Alright, well someone who I thought was my friend, and a very good friend of mine, just told me we can't hang out anymore because she thinks I'm gonna cheat on my girlfriend with her, which is complete fucking bullshit because I gave no indication of doing such thing. We used to be friends with benefits but after we stopped we were still hella cool, or so I thought . What shall I do?

 

[Wolfy01]

Sounds like she wants to bang you and doesn't think she can control herself, so she projects her own insecurities onto you.

*note*
I have no idea what to do in that situation, just thought I'd give my 2c

 

[SimuLord]

There's your problem. If you have a history with someone, the subject WILL come up again. The girl still wants you, your girlfriend would breathe a LOT easier if she didn't have to think "they used to have sex" every time you hang out with her...

and don't use the word "hella". It makes you sound like a complete fucktard. I have to hear that NorCal shit around Reno and it never fails to bug the shit out of me.

(sorry, personal berserk button.)

 

[The Stonker]

Alright, well someone who I thought was my friend, and a very good friend of mine, just told me we can't hang out anymore because she thinks I'm gonna cheat on my girlfriend with her, which is complete fucking bullshit because I gave no indication of doing such thing. We used to be friends with benefits but after we stopped we were still hella cool, or so I thought . What shall I do?

For one, then don't go on the escapist and ask for advice, you might get mixed answers which might hurt.
But what I would is.. That I would tell your friend to fuck off and that she doesn't deserve to be your friend.
You have to figure this one on your own my friend.

Btw. The word hella makes my brain boil.

 

[Squidwogdog]

Damn, that would make for a a good threesome. Jokes aside, act normally, she'll get over it. Also,I might add, your ex-friend with benefits sounds pretty arrogant that she thinks she is irresistable. Sorry if I have hit a sore spot or offended you in any way

 

[Naheal]

There's a lack of information here. Sounds like she was fairly attached to you before you got your current SO, so it's difficult to say that this sort of thing wasn't coming in the end.

"Friends with benefits" is an illusion. When you cross that line, people start becoming attached to one another. Chances are that she might have felt betrayed.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

There's a lack of information here. Sounds like she was fairly attached to you before you got your current SO, so it's difficult to say that this sort of thing wasn't coming in the end.

"Friends with benefits" is an illusion. When you cross that line, people start becoming attached to one another. Chances are that she might have felt betrayed.

Well she ended the friends with benefits thing and that was long before I got a girlfriend.

 

[justnotcricket]

Sounds like there's some other issue at work here? Perhaps it's just an excuse not to be around you because she has feelings for you but can't express them more constructively. Perhaps, in a roundabout way, she is trying to force you to make a choice between the two relationships? I think you need to sit down and have a chat - even if you can't get back to where you were, at least you might be able to shake some truths out of all the WTF.

 

[Naheal]

There's a lack of information here. Sounds like she was fairly attached to you before you got your current SO, so it's difficult to say that this sort of thing wasn't coming in the end.

"Friends with benefits" is an illusion. When you cross that line, people start becoming attached to one another. Chances are that she might have felt betrayed.

Well she ended the friends with benefits thing and that was long before I got a girlfriend.

Chances are that she wanted to be a bit more than just "Friends with benefits", but was upset that you hadn't made a move beyond that.

Alternatively, you might have been getting attached and she didn't want that, so she pushed you away. There really isn't enough information to give an actual opinion on the situation.

 

[Astoria]

Sounds to me like she's pretty up herself. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If she's actually your friend she'll apologise and still be your friend and if not you might be better off without her anyway.

What you shoulda done is right there and then laughed in her face and told her not to ever worry about that.
Woulda been a nice little slap in the face to kill her ego.

I like the way you think.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

There's a lack of information here. Sounds like she was fairly attached to you before you got your current SO, so it's difficult to say that this sort of thing wasn't coming in the end.

"Friends with benefits" is an illusion. When you cross that line, people start becoming attached to one another. Chances are that she might have felt betrayed.

Well she ended the friends with benefits thing and that was long before I got a girlfriend.

Chances are that she wanted to be a bit more than just "Friends with benefits", but was upset that you hadn't made a move beyond that.

Alternatively, you might have been getting attached and she didn't want that, so she pushed you away. There really isn't enough information to give an actual opinion on the situation.

I think she was more attached, because she was always asking me to hang out, and it's not like we had sex every time we hung out, most of the time we just chilled.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Don't know if troll.

If troll, then: cool story, bro.

If not troll, then: just take it as a compliment. Your friend is probably still attracted to you and is backing off out of respect to your gf. You have an awesome friend.

 

[Naheal]

There's a lack of information here. Sounds like she was fairly attached to you before you got your current SO, so it's difficult to say that this sort of thing wasn't coming in the end.

"Friends with benefits" is an illusion. When you cross that line, people start becoming attached to one another. Chances are that she might have felt betrayed.

Well she ended the friends with benefits thing and that was long before I got a girlfriend.

Chances are that she wanted to be a bit more than just "Friends with benefits", but was upset that you hadn't made a move beyond that.

Alternatively, you might have been getting attached and she didn't want that, so she pushed you away. There really isn't enough information to give an actual opinion on the situation.

I think she was more attached, because she was always asking me to hang out, and it's not like we had sex every time we hung out, most of the time we just chilled.

At this point, I hit a dead end, because I'm neither female nor emotional. However, if it were me in her shoes, I'd probably do the same thing as her, step back and get a grip on my emotions before I do something stupid. Give her some time and talk to her about it.