So i have this problem...

[ottenni]

Wait did you say you went to lakes entrance? Not as in Lakes Entrance in Gippsland?

Edit: And if its weight you want to lose, try just walking for and hour a day. Thats a good easy way to go, but other than that good work on the workout.

yes in gibsland

Holy crap i'm not the only Gippsland person here!

Cant say i saw that coming.

 

[bluemistake2]

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One question I've always had, why are guys scared to talk to girls? I had a guy who liked me and was too scared to talk to me to he just stood behind me panting. It was disturbing and I told him off the next day. The easiest way to start a conversation is to find a similar interest. If you see her reading a book tell her you like to read and ask her what it's about.

because men are afraid of looking like idiots instead of impressing someone they want to be with (or thats just me)

 

[SnakeF]

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One question I've always had, why are guys scared to talk to girls? I had a guy who liked me and was too scared to talk to me to he just stood behind me panting. It was disturbing and I told him off the next day. The easiest way to start a conversation is to find a similar interest. If you see her reading a book tell her you like to read and ask her what it's about.

It's all to do with self confidence issues, alot of guys really seem to have them. At least the guys on here do.

 

[bluemistake2]

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One question I've always had, why are guys scared to talk to girls? I had a guy who liked me and was too scared to talk to me to he just stood behind me panting. It was disturbing and I told him off the next day. The easiest way to start a conversation is to find a similar interest. If you see her reading a book tell her you like to read and ask her what it's about.

It's all to do with self confidence issues, alot of guys really seem to have them. At least the guys on here do.

like i said earlier i dont think i have self confidence issues this i think is a psycological issue...that or i think things through way to much on another note does anyone know how to solve psycological issues?

 

[KdS_22]

If you want to add some good cardio to your workout and you live near a pool or something, might I suggest some swimming? Start off by easing yourself into it then gradually increase your distance and speed. I had an overweight friend who enjoyed swimming much more than running because he felt more comfortable in the water (dunno why) and he lost a ton of weight! I also immensely enjoy swimming myself

For the second part, just talk to her man, either she'll accept you or she won't. If not, then maybe you should direct your interest at other girls out there.

swimming wouldn;t be a problem if i actually lived anywhere near a swimming pool used to do loads of it entered competitions... then games came along and ****ed shit up
also for just moving on im not really the kind to do that i just keep on tying and trying no matter what

Well if you really really don't wanna give up on the first try then make her laugh. I made an edit to my earlier post in which I said that girls will be more receptive to a guy who can make them laugh (in my experience). So just be yourself and try to stay light-hearted about it. Being overly serious can turn some girls off to you.

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

Doing a heavy weight lifting regime can have various effects. If slimming down without too much muscle is what you're after, make sure you don't do heavy weights, stick to low weight high rep exercises which will help burn off fat and leave you with a lighter frame and a little toning. In 2 months the differences should be noticeable if you really stick with it, and it will almost certainly be enough to give you a little more confidence in yourself.

As for the second question, I think Bonsaik said the best you could hope for. Talk to her as a human being don't put a big wall around her in your mind that makes you feel like you can't approach her. Just attempt a normal conversation, show interest in her day or what she's doing, she will appreciate it. If you get a friendly response, she is at least interested in being your friend. I wouldn't suggest the paper drop technique that was suggested earlier..

 

[bluemistake2]

Doing a heavy weight lifting regime can have various effects. If slimming down without too much muscle is what you're after, make sure you don't do heavy weights, stick to low weight high rep exercises which will help burn off fat and leave you with a lighter frame and a little toning. In 2 months the differences should be noticeable if you really stick with it, and it will almost certainly be enough to give you a little more confidence in yourself.

As for the second question, I think Bonsaik said the best you could hope for. Talk to her as a human being don't put a big wall around her in your mind that makes you feel like you can't approach her. Just attempt a normal conversation, show interest in her day or what she's doing, she will appreciate it. If you get a friendly response, she is at least interested in being your friend. I wouldn't suggest the paper drop technique that was suggested earlier..

i would try to talk to her exept the opurtinity NEVER seems to come up like litterally never had even had one chance to open a conversation as for being funny and such im just...i dont know why when i think about doing it my mind seems to come to an full stop and i cant think its a pain in the ass really...

 

[bluemistake2]

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[Anoctris in drunk mode]
Life's too short to beat around the bush.

Go up to her when she's not busy and say "Hey, I really like you and would like to take you out to a movie or something."

If she responds/awesome = Awesome.

If not - take a can of harden-up from the fridge and move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

BTW- don't exercise for a chick - do it for yourself, nothing beats a boost to self-confidence like being strong enough to beat down 5 guys without breaking a sweat.

not exercising for a chick been doing this before that just figured that i might be able to work it in my favor also... as much as i hate to admit it never really been in a relationship
and besides that my dad and my best friend used to make fun of me for hanging out with this chick i knew and as a 7 year old at the time this programmed itself into my mind and i gotta find some way to overcome this

I'm not an Atheist, but think of it this way. If there's no heaven/hell etc, how long will you be dead?(Answer=Eternity) There's no harm in giving it an honest shot. And like others have said, if it doesn't work out there will always be other chances.

Hard'n'Fast Rules for Relationships:
- Don't do anything you wouldn't like done to you
- Listening is good; caring is better
- Communication: Get it right and it's all downhill

As to your 'Dad' and 'Best' friend making fun of you... fuck 'em.

No disrespect intended, but what kind of a father makes fun of their son? I can understand if he was trying to be funny.. but still, poor moves on his part - seems like he helped create a neurosis in you and that's unforgivable in my book.

as far as i remember it was more in a comical way and not even intended in any kind of harm my mind simply couldn't process it properly so i ended like this

 

[bluemistake2]

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[Anoctris in drunk mode]
Life's too short to beat around the bush.

Go up to her when she's not busy and say "Hey, I really like you and would like to take you out to a movie or something."

If she responds/awesome = Awesome.

If not - take a can of harden-up from the fridge and move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

BTW- don't exercise for a chick - do it for yourself, nothing beats a boost to self-confidence like being strong enough to beat down 5 guys without breaking a sweat.

not exercising for a chick been doing this before that just figured that i might be able to work it in my favor also... as much as i hate to admit it never really been in a relationship
and besides that my dad and my best friend used to make fun of me for hanging out with this chick i knew and as a 7 year old at the time this programmed itself into my mind and i gotta find some way to overcome this

I'm not an Atheist, but think of it this way. If there's no heaven/hell etc, how long will you be dead?(Answer=Eternity) There's no harm in giving it an honest shot. And like others have said, if it doesn't work out there will always be other chances.

Hard'n'Fast Rules for Relationships:
- Don't do anything you wouldn't like done to you
- Listening is good; caring is better
- Communication: Get it right and it's all downhill

As to your 'Dad' and 'Best' friend making fun of you... fuck 'em.

No disrespect intended, but what kind of a father makes fun of their son? I can understand if he was trying to be funny.. but still, poor moves on his part - seems like he helped create a neurosis in you and that's unforgivable in my book.

as far as i remember it was more in a comical way and not even intended in any kind of harm my mind simply couldn't process it properly so i ended like this

Fair enuff mate.

Give it a go, ask her. What's the worse she can do? Laugh at you? Say no? If she does, screw it, look elsewhere and laugh at what she missed out on.

As far as I know every second every day is a grain of sand lost against the inevitable. Why wait?

because of 2 things the first is that i dont want to fuck this up because i havn't felt about someone like this in years (bout 4 years)
and the other i got this reputation that i've had for a while basicly this "badass" person cause i got in a fight with like 5 people (they were all about a year younger then me and comeplete idiots who had no idea what they were doing) and sometimes it comes up in conversations and turns into a really akward thing
and i dont think she likes this kinda person and is gonna resent me for itt

 

[drummond13]

One thing that most girls I know find hot is avatar pictures that aren't gifs. I can barely read this stuff with that picture constantly moving in my peripheral vision.

Talking to girls, like most things, is something you get better at the more you practice it. For some people it seems to come naturally, but for most of us it takes work. It takes talking to a lot of girls and falling flat on our faces a lot of times and generally feeling like an ass sometimes. But in the end, it's possible to gain a lot of confidence and become quite good at it.

All you can do is, like one person said earlier, find something you have in common and a reason to bring it up in conversation. Find a way to break the ice and open a dialogue. It generally goes easier from there or goes nowhere. And remember, just because you really like this girl and think she's the one for you doesn't mean you two actually have chemistry together. The conversation may go absolutely nowhere and it may not even be your fault. Whatever happens, think of the whole thing as a learning experience.

And getting into fights with kids younger than you does not make you "badass" in any way whatsoever. I seriously hope you're not still doing that.

 

[DSEZ]

Dude, I came up with the best idea a few days ago.

Write your number on a piece of paper and fold it in half. When she walks by, go "Oh! you droped this" and give her the paper, then turn and quickly walk away.

She'll call you if she's got a sense of humour. If she doesn't, why are you interested in her -_-

thats actually pretty good im gonna use that

OT:idk about the weight cause it depends on your body type for me i can lose 3-8 pounds in a few hours if i needed too(not pukeing just normal working out)
and for number 2 i have no idea every girlfriend ive had was introduced to me by a friend or just started talking to me first