So relationships...Why?
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Depends on the relationship to be honest. I've had terrible relationships that I would never want to go through again and I'm currently in one that I would give up anything to stay in. The person I'm in the relationship in completes me and I complete her. We connect on a level more than just the physical that nothing could compare to. Anyway thats just me though.creager91 said:
I personally see them as a waste of time. Time and time again I see people put themselves through all kinds of personal hell over things like, "Omg does this person like me?" "She did THIS the other day does that mean she hates me?" "I cry myself to sleep every night because I don't have the guts to ask her out and now she's dating that douchebag" blah blah blah etc etc
I mean honestly...people go through that and sometimes DO end up dating the person they want, only to have them cheat on them, abuse them, or dump them without warning or reason (Which women tend to do a lot) Thus they end up severely depressed for a long time, sometimes for years, ending up in a worse positing than they were before, sure that doesn't happen all the time, but why expose myself to that risk?
I mean honestly...people go through that and sometimes DO end up dating the person they want, only to have them cheat on them, abuse them, or dump them without warning or reason (Which women tend to do a lot) Thus they end up severely depressed for a long time, sometimes for years, ending up in a worse positing than they were before, sure that doesn't happen all the time, but why expose myself to that risk?
creager91 said:
oh, he's scottish, he was never anywhere near Japan. He ditched me becuase I had to do a yaer abroad there for uni.
Its had to say but I liked a girl and I dont know if she is the one, but the problem is that she is my best friend's sister that is 13 years old BUT hey im 16 so thats three years younger and I want to tell her that I like her but I dunno when and how and also how to tell my best friend....
If you balance your relationships well, you can have it so that having that someone special in your life won't impede upon your life and your freedom until you decide to get serious.
My girlfriend only adds to my life, and occasionally drains my wallet >>
My girlfriend only adds to my life, and occasionally drains my wallet >>
Thanks but now I need to say to her I like her, butI dunno if she's got the idea or if she likes me....creager91 said:
Well, I was more or less resigned to thinking that relationships are what other people do. I just didn't think about them, and if I did, it was more or less summed up with "eh, waste of time."
But now there's a possibility that a person I very, very much respect and like, would be up for it with me. To more or less paraphrase, neither of us wants to rush the things, since that always seems to go badly in the end, and I live pretty far away at the moment anyway. But I'll be moving closer in the not too distant future and neither of us would be opposed to the idea of something coming out of this in the end.
So I don't know, I guess the "why" is that when there's somebody worth it, it'd be, well, worth it. Or something.
So really, go for it. It might feel horrifying, and if it doesn't work out it will hurt, but it's worth the pain.
But now there's a possibility that a person I very, very much respect and like, would be up for it with me. To more or less paraphrase, neither of us wants to rush the things, since that always seems to go badly in the end, and I live pretty far away at the moment anyway. But I'll be moving closer in the not too distant future and neither of us would be opposed to the idea of something coming out of this in the end.
So I don't know, I guess the "why" is that when there's somebody worth it, it'd be, well, worth it. Or something.
Really, the only way to say it is, in the end, to say it. It's really terrifying, but that's them apples. So, either you tell her, or you give up on it and move on if you really can't. But if you think at all, in any way, that it'd be worth it to at least test the waters, then go for it. Feel brave, and do it before you'll have the chance to think about it. Either it's mutual, or it's not. If she also likes you, then that's that and you can be happy. If she cannot feel the same for you, then you'll still be certain.shaun1788 said:
So really, go for it. It might feel horrifying, and if it doesn't work out it will hurt, but it's worth the pain.
Describe the situation a little bit for me, like when youre over at their house how does she behave and when your alone with her and do you see her anywhere else? like at school maybe? how does she behave then? and when she has friends around hershaun1788 said: