So there's this guy...

[Hallow'sEve]

[ [ Would you kindly click the link, and then comment? I accidently put this in the wrong forum ] ]

It's embarrassing and futile to discuss personal problems over the internet, so...

So for a while I've been lending money to a guy (a friend, and I use that word tentatively) I met at college. We get along enough, but he's yet to pay me back, and it's been more than a month. He owes me, roughly, $125 but I don't see him paying it back. He either won't answer my texts, busy, or "out of money". He said he was gonna pay me back since he was able to go to the ATM the other day but he never did, and refused to meet with me even though we were on the same bus (he was on the phone with his girlfriend).

The question is, should I just let it go or try and get what's mine?

It's really hard for me because after realizing he's been using me for the semester I'd much prefer revenge than money. But since I'm not eager to spend life behind bars, I'll settle for money. I am a proud person, I admit it. Knowing that he manipulated me is more insulting, and I'd give him another $125 just to never see him again, the money doesn't matter.
Only recently when I explained the situation to his roommate (which I felt obligated, because I'd been knocking on his door for a few days now looking for my friend that wasn't there) did he call me back. He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.
I don't care about getting beat up, we've already been in a few fights (although drunk at the time). But the idea of him trying to use intimidation to shut me up even further just adds insult to injury.

TL;DR:
A douchebag won't pay me back my $125, to fight or flight?

 

[El Poncho]

Tie him to a chair beat the shit out of him until you get your money.

You can't let him get away with that amount of money...although the chair thing might be a bit much

 

[ThaBenMan]

I say fight, man. $125 is quite a lot of money, in my opinion. What I think you should do is tell everyone you can about how he owes you money, piss him off and provoke him into a fight with you. And then beat his ass down - that should be pretty satisfying.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[SmilingKitsune]

Though it's easy for me to say it, and may well be a lot harder to actually do, I say don't let it go.
He owes you money, he should pay it back. If the threatening continues I might sugesst reporting him, even if that might seem a bit drastic.
He seems like an bastard, he shouldn't be allowed to walk over you.

 

[El Poncho]

I say fight, man. $125 is quite a lot of money, in my opinion. What I think you should do is tell everyone you can about how he owes you money..

This as well, the more people you have on your side then he won't be able to lay a finger on you, then you might not have to fight, but if it comes to it:

piss him off and provoke him into a fight with you. And then beat his ass down - that should be pretty satisfying.

 

[TaboriHK]

Tell him that you've reached your limit and that the friendship can't continue until this is addressed. Thankfully it's not a large amount of money, but it sounds like the guy is kind of a tool and you should cut ties anyway. If you get into a fight, you could find yourself with legal and/or medical troubles. Over this loser? Not worth it.

 

[Hallow'sEve]

The answer to your question more probably lies in the new Advice Forum than in Off-Topic Discussion [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/index/538-Advice-Forum].

ooooh! Fancy!
I'll move it there now, thanks.

provoke him into a fight with you. And then beat his ass down - that should be pretty satisfying.

I would if he didn't have a much bigger build than I did, used to box, football, etc.
However if he keeps pissing me off...

 

[movienut]

In general I never lend anything that I can't afford to lose. You might have to consider this a lesson learned and let it go. Avoid the guy in the future he is clearly a jerk. I am sorry you lost your money.

 

[Angryman101]

Since I'm fairly large and good in a fight, I would advise you to not back down and tell everyone he knows how much money he owes you. Say it in front of the class you two share. "This guy refuses to pay back the $125 dollars he owes me, do you all think that's fair? No, you don't, because he's being an asshole." If he picks a fight with you after that, some classmates might help you. I know I would.
This advice is less pertinent if you're scrawny and he's beefy, however. Even so, I would advise you not to drop it so you can have pride in yourself for being a real man about it and refusing to back down. I doubt legal troubles would occur as long as you do not start the fight and do not beat on him too badly if you happen to win.

 

[Crazy_Dude]

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[PeePantz]

It sounds like fighting will not be beneficial for you and you'll end up bloody, broke, and embarrassed. Start a smear campaign. Put out fliers with his name and picture on it stating he's a thief and to be wary of him. You could go even further but this might become worse if authorities get involved. Turn him into a laughingstock. You probably won't get your money back, but it will be satisfying knowing that you took him down a peg.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Ring him up again, record conversation, visit police.

Bam, done.

 

[astrav1]

Always fight.