So very angry

[tippy2k2]

I now have a damaged garbage can, a broken door handle, and a new hole in the wall...

Normally, I am the nicest person you will ever meet. I hesitate to say anything bad about anyone at anytime and give everyone the benefit of the doubt but for some strange reason, my world just goes red whenever I'm competing and get frustrated. This is the only situation where it ever comes out (shattered a broom-ball stick, put a dent in the fridge from playing FIFA, ALWAYS when competing).

It doesn't happen very often (MAYBE twice a year) and I can handle a lot of frustration but when it goes come out, it Hulks the fuck out.

So what I'd like to know is this:
Anyone have any serious anger-type issues in the past and more importantly (for me at least), do you have a good way to deal with it (no, punching something soft is not a good idea, punching is how I got into this mess)? Is something like anger management (maybe therapy) worth it to try to curb this kind of thing? Also, not competing is not really an option. You might as well tell a fish to start breathing air.

I feel like such an ass for having to even consider it but I'm just tired of this. I wonder if my landlord will mind me keeping this hole here to remind myself to calm the fuck down...

 

[Brown Cap]

Nah just excessive profanity and desire to punch things

 

[idodo35]

find something that you dont need and can destroy (maybie in the garbage) and tear it apart that usually helps me...

 

[Sis]

I just vent all of that in games or forums. Or stop thinking about what angered me. I don't really get so angry like that, so ... yeah, I've never really been so pissed.

 

[viranimus]

Yes. I have serious issues with anger. It is partly related to diabetes, high blood pressure, and natural biochemical imbalances with some possible fringe aspergers tendencies whereas I lack the patience to tolerate stupidity or ignorance and have to slow myself down to let other people catch up to where I am at.

My anger is diagnosed, and is going back into being treated.

And its so just under the surface that a simple dose of Benadryll can cause me to hulk out. I have been escorted out of a hospital by police because desipite telling nurses I could not take benedryll , I was put onto an IV of it which resulted in me ripping the IV out and tipping over gurneys in the hallway.

Honestly I utilize things like meditation so that I can let the irrational hatred I build up just purge out of myself and remind myself to A: not sweat the small stuff and B: its all small stuff.

Best of luck to you in coping with Brimleyism. Its a hard cross to bear.

 

[ClockworkPenguin]

Part of the problem may be that you bottle it up. Because you try and be reasonable all the time (a commendable goal) it could be that when you snap, everything is let loose.

It might help to have someone to talk to. Its amazing how often you find that things you didn't think were bothering you really where. I used to have 'hulk moments' when i was a kid, but nothing like that now.

The best advice i can give is to try and learn to recognise when you are getting angry. Then you can work out what's doing that and either take yourself out of the situation or find some resolution to it. Even something as simple as when you feel yourself getting angry, going and taking a break to make a cup of tea can help. It gives you a bit of breathing space and as a bonus, you have a cup of tea.

I hope this was helpful.

 

[Broady Brio]

I've realized that I unleash my anger on drivers in front of me. Not physically mind you, just literally shouting at them in my car. It is damn funny, seeing as I tend to quote Angry Cat Man.[footnote][/footnote]

 

[tippy2k2]

The best advice i can give is to try and learn to recognise when you are getting angry. Then you can work out what's doing that and either take yourself out of the situation or find some resolution to it. Even something as simple as when you feel yourself getting angry, going and taking a break to make a cup of tea can help. It gives you a bit of breathing space and as a bonus, you have a cup of tea.

I hope this was helpful.

See, this always felt like a good idea, I'm just too stupid to pull it off...(Hey, I just lost in FIFA and am getting unhappy with how I'm doing. Know what'll make me feel better? Try again!)

Maybe I just have to force myself into this idea...

Yes. I have serious issues with anger. It is partly related to diabetes, high blood pressure, and natural biochemical imbalances with some possible fringe aspergers tendencies whereas I lack the patience to tolerate stupidity or ignorance and have to slow myself down to let other people catch up to where I am at.

My anger is diagnosed, and is going back into being treated.

And its so just under the surface that a simple dose of Benadryll can cause me to hulk out. I have been escorted out of a hospital by police because desipite telling nurses I could not take benedryll , I was put onto an IV of it which resulted in me ripping the IV out and tipping over gurneys in the hallway.

Honestly I utilize things like meditation so that I can let the irrational hatred I build up just purge out of myself and remind myself to A: not sweat the small stuff and B: its all small stuff.

Best of luck to you in coping with Brimleyism. Its a hard cross to bear.

That would really suck. I have no medical reason for why I act like this sometimes, which is partly why I feel like such an ass when it happens. For me, there is no excuse for this kind of behavior...

Thanks for the suggestions everyone. While I appreciate the "Find something cheap to destroy" idea, I feel like that would just make it worse. I know when I hit something, I just want to hit something else...

 

[JesterRaiin]

Normally, I am the nicest person you will ever meet.

A very good soil for the AngerMax plant. ;]

Anyone have any serious anger-type issues in the past and more importantly (for me at least), do you have a good way to deal with it (no, punching something soft is not a good idea, punching is how I got into this mess)? Is something like anger management (maybe therapy) worth it to try to curb this kind of thing?

Whatever you'll try to do - you're risking an addiction.
Once people did the research on anger management - more precisely - "unventing" by swearing and cursing out loud. The results ? People who used this technique, became more obscene than before. So word of advice here. Be careful.

I guess the diversity works best. Try different approaches - go outside, ride a bike, play a violent video game, repeat some mantra, or simply try to stay calm despite everything (a new achievement : "Zen Master").

Also, consider not being that nice all the time. Say something impolite, do something stupid or irresponsible from time to time. Doen't hurt anyone, but simply invite the element of chaos to your life.
Think of yourself as a baloon. More anger you're stuffing inside - bigger probability (and effect) of your explosion. ;]

 

[tippy2k2]

Anyone have any serious anger-type issues in the past and more importantly (for me at least), do you have a good way to deal with it (no, punching something soft is not a good idea, punching is how I got into this mess)? Is something like anger management (maybe therapy) worth it to try to curb this kind of thing?

Once people did the research on anger management - more precisely - "unventing" by swearing and cursing out loud. The results ? People who used this technique, became more obscene than before. So word of advice here. Be careful.

Not to mention that swearing and punching things at home: Probably less bad (though not really good...)
Swearing and punching things while frustrated at work...yeah, hope you don't like your job cause you're not going to be there for long.

 

[JesterRaiin]

Swearing and punching things while frustrated at work...yeah, hope you don't like your job cause you're not going to be there for long.

That's exactly my point.
If there's anger inside, the ability to put it on the leash won't help you in long term. There's probability of developing not exactly most healthy impulse : to run away from the source of stress and do some "magic" tricks that'll help you regain control.
Living in society won't always allow you to simply excuse yourself and for example go to WC and scream there. Effect ? Anger*2. ;]

I find it easier to just release small amounts of emotions here and there rather than trying to control sudden anger. :]

 

[Zeldias]

I once lost my temper so bad I kicked my chair into the ceiling. This is a pretty heavy ass chair. Also nearly started pulling hair out once, which isn't good for dreadlocks (or any hair, I figure).

Usually what I try to do is stop, ensure I won't destroy anything, sit down somewhere quiet, and smoke a blunt listen to something like Miles Davis or the FFXII soundtrack or play my harmonicas. It's alright to be angry, but when that anger becomes destructive, it's problematic. And I'm like you, OP; I strive to be a nice, positive guy. I care for stray animals and don't want to hurt anybody; I've done stupid, violent shit in my youth, and want to become a much better person than I was. But certain things can trigger my temper and I go nuts.

I also often go outside or something and pace and talk myself through the whole thing. Or call someone to talk it through at them. Venting violently often turns into a habit and feeds the anger, I've found, so I try to head it off at the pass and do something else.

 

[sky14kemea]

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