So, what about this idea? (Relationship help sorta)

[Chancie]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me (some of you may remember that thread, and I really appreciate all the help I got on it!). Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

 

[Naheal]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

Okay, I need a guy's opinion on something.

See, there's this guy in one of my classes and I really think he has a small thing for me. Nothing big, I know that much, since we never really get the chance to talk to each other. Well, long story short, I'd really like to get to know him too. Only problem is that I tend to be really shy with that kind of a thing, I have yet to work up the nerve to just march up to him and talk to him.

Well, I'm going to be dropping the class too, so I won't see him again anyway. I always walk past him on my way out the door, so I was thinking of maybe slipping him a small piece of paper with my phone number with a small little message. I figure it's simple enough and gets the message across.

Or does this seem like the worst idea ever? :/ It seems okay to me, but I dunno how a guy would take it.

Also, any tips on a clever little message? I just keep coming up with really simple stuff like "call me" and that's just...really simple.

I appreciate it, guys.

I think you should go for it. That's a pretty sweet idea. If a girl did that to me I wouldn't hesitate to call her. *sigh* My girlfriend's not romantic like that sadly enough.

 

[Thaius]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

 

[Swaki]

a note would be a bad idea, unless you are somewhat young, and i wont just say you should get over your shyness, i know its not that easy, and if you too are a guy, i know all about how fucking hard it can be, but as you may have heard, it gets better.

if you are a girl, well straight guys are clearly stupid, so you have that working for you, i will suggest that while you are still in the same class try and do something school related just so that talking together becomes normal and not so awkward, you can even do the classic number sharing "you know, incase we need to talk together about school, you know?", i know it can be hard, but you need to be able to talk with him, a note is really weak, thats why i think you should try and start with something official, it worked for me, or if you have some friends in common that would be even better.

but who knows, im old school, maybe the best thing to do is poke him on facebook and text together and only get together face to face to get your mack on.

whatever you end up doing i wish you the best of luck, my friend.

 

[SomeLameStuff]

Guys are dense. A note might be the subtlest idea that will actually work.

I think a megaphone might be more suitable actually.

 

[Dark Knifer]

Since you walk past him every day, just trying waving, smiling at first (if you haven't tried this allready). Generally, if this guy has a thing about you, things like this will encourage such thoughts and he will be more willing to talk to you, or even approach you himself. If time is an issue though, a note would be the best bet, but keep it simple and not too sugestive. Subtile, but not too subtile in other words. Hope this helps somewhat.

 

[Swaki]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

i dont know if this works for you, but if a guy did that with me i would be shocked and turned off, plus if she misread his signals that would be crazy embarrassing, and miscommunication does happen, i have been on both sides of that and its embarrassing and painful enough without such an blunt confrontation.

heck even if it was a guy i liked who did that, i would have second thought if he was so blunt, and shyness is hard to overcome, imagine if the poor girl got shot down.

 

[Chancie]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

i dont know if this works for you, but if a guy did that with me i would be shocked and turned off, plus if she misread his signals that would be crazy embarrassing, and miscommunication does happen, i have been on both sides of that and its embarrassing and painful enough without such an blunt confrontation.

heck even if it was a guy i liked who did that, i would have second thought if he was so blunt, and shyness is hard to overcome, imagine if the poor girl got shot down.

Honestly, this is why I'm hesitant to ask him about it face-to-face. There's a part of me that's paranoid I'm misreading the signals, and a note would be painless enough. Give it to him, walk out the door, never HAVE to see him again, and what happens happens...that's what I was thinking.
But then again, that's also why I'm asking for other opinions on it. xD;

 

[Socius]

Your idea is cute I would say.
If someone slipped a note into my pockets I am not sure how I would react.
Most likely I would think that it was something out of a manga, so if he is into that sort of thing you're most sure to have some sort of impact at least.
look, the best thing to do is just to talk to him, if he is a nice guy he will react in a mature way even if things were to go wrong. Take a leap.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I'm not a guy, but that doesn't seem like the best idea to me. At best it's a little weird. I might be wrong, but from my understanding, you've never talked to him before and are too shy to say hello. How do you intend to go about slipping him the paper? Isn't that a more forward and embarrassing thing to do than just say hello? If someone I'd never talked to tried to put a piece of paper in my hand as they were walking past, I wouldn't just take it. My automatic reaction would probably be ' wth are you doing', and if he reacts like that as well it might be a little awkward. Of course, everyone is different, but I'm just proposing different scenarios.

So I can see it backfiring. I think you'd be better off with just talking to him. Something along the lines of: "Hi, how are you? I'll be dropping this class soon and I was sort of disappointed I never got to know you better. I was wondering if you'd like to exchange numbers/ get together for coffee."

It just seems to make more sense, you know.

 

[Swaki]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

i dont know if this works for you, but if a guy did that with me i would be shocked and turned off, plus if she misread his signals that would be crazy embarrassing, and miscommunication does happen, i have been on both sides of that and its embarrassing and painful enough without such an blunt confrontation.

heck even if it was a guy i liked who did that, i would have second thought if he was so blunt, and shyness is hard to overcome, imagine if the poor girl got shot down.

Honestly, this is why I'm hesitant to ask him about it face-to-face. There's a part of me that's paranoid I'm misreading the signals, and a note would be painless enough. Give it to him, walk out the door, never HAVE to see him again, and what happens happens...that's what I was thinking.
But then again, that's also why I'm asking for other opinions on it. xD;

well i think my suggestion is absolutely brilliant and if you follow it you will get married and have babies and get a latino lover on the side, its just that good, and for only 29.99 i will tell you how to keep the marriage strong even while getting some lovin on the side.

and i hate to say it, but having known 18 year olds, there is a good chance that you will get mocked even for a note, maybe even worse, there's no winning when you are a teenager, unless that is, that you follow my advice, because i was Mr. popular in school, and i got all the guys, i never got beaten up or bullied or threaten with a knife in the classroom, no sir.

 

[Naheal]

"Hi, how are you? I'll be dropping this class soon and I was sort of disappointed I never got to know you better. I was wondering if you'd like to exchange numbers/ get together for coffee."

This is probably the best solution. Coffee shops work really well for a high-social interaction between you and the person you're trying to talk to. If you two connect well, you'll find out then.

For first conversations, a good rule of thumb that I've found is that, if you run out of things to talk about in 15 minutes or if you lose interest in that first 15 minutes, it probably won't work out.

 

[AcacianLeaves]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!", then hand him your note
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

Its clever and inventive, gets his interest piqued, and has the benefit of not embarrassing you at all. Folding is a key element, it gives you time to ninja vanish.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

Honestly, this is why I'm hesitant to ask him about it face-to-face. There's a part of me that's paranoid I'm misreading the signals, and a note would be painless enough. Give it to him, walk out the door, never HAVE to see him again, and what happens happens...that's what I was thinking.
But then again, that's also why I'm asking for other opinions on it. xD;

You could just ask him to lunch, or find some other excuse to spend time with him. You don't have to go and tell him up front that you're interested; finding some way to strike up a conversation would be a good way to find out if he's even worth dating. It sounds to me like this whole thing is based off of the occasional flirtatious glance, caused purely by physical attraction. That's a pretty weak foundation for a relationship, but if that attraction leads to a conversation first, it might actually go somewhere. Granted, the whole point of a first date is getting to know one another, but you have to actually talk to him to ask him out. Simply walking up to him and saying something to the effect of "I like you, do you like me?" is kind of creepy once you get past grade school. Although if this guy is a red blooded male, and really is interested in you, that might not matter.

 

[Naheal]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!"
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

...and if a girl did that with me, that piece of paper would go straight into the trash.

 

[Thaius]

Honestly, as awkward as it might seem, the best thing to do is pull him aside sometime and talk to him. A note would work, but it's rather juvenile. You will gain instant respect points if you just tell him you need to talk to him, go to a spot that's not completely full of people, and talk to him about it. And in that conversation, tell him straight-out that you're interested in getting to know him better. Don't beat around the bush. Don't be pushy either, and start small, but let him know your intention right off.

This is much more difficult, but it will gain you much more respect. An alternative might be to simply wait for him to move, but if you won't be seeing him as often anymore this might be your only real option.

i dont know if this works for you, but if a guy did that with me i would be shocked and turned off, plus if she misread his signals that would be crazy embarrassing, and miscommunication does happen, i have been on both sides of that and its embarrassing and painful enough without such an blunt confrontation.

heck even if it was a guy i liked who did that, i would have second thought if he was so blunt, and shyness is hard to overcome, imagine if the poor girl got shot down.

Honestly, this is why I'm hesitant to ask him about it face-to-face. There's a part of me that's paranoid I'm misreading the signals, and a note would be painless enough. Give it to him, walk out the door, never HAVE to see him again, and what happens happens...that's what I was thinking.
But then again, that's also why I'm asking for other opinions on it. xD;

On reflection, I understand this approach is probably not for everyone. Personally, I take dating and romantic relationships very seriously, so I would rather have someone just come up and talk to me about it than a more roundabout way such as a note. But now that I think about it, that approach isn't for everyone, and it's obvious from the other posters that there are people who would find a gesture such as a note cute and appealing. So if my advice doesn't seem to be right for you or him, feel free to disregard it. I just know that's what I would prefer.

The alternative means along the lines of what I suggested would be inviting him to an event you and some friends are going to. This would allow you to get to know him better in a more casual setting. Though this only really works if you have friends in common; otherwise it could be kind of awkward.

But anyway, if a note would work better for you, go ahead and do that. Best of luck.

 

[AcacianLeaves]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!"
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

...and if a girl did that with me, that piece of paper would go straight into the trash.

Heh well it worked for me, that's how I met my wife lol

 

[Naheal]

Feel free to use this:

1. Write your phone number on a folded up piece of paper with "call me" written on it and maybe a smiley face.
2. After class or something follow him, tap him on the shoulder, and say "hey you dropped this!"
3. Leave before he can respond like the smooth criminal you are.
4. PROFIT

...and if a girl did that with me, that piece of paper would go straight into the trash.

Heh well it worked for me, that's how I met my wife lol

You got lucky. I find such to be insulting. I respect a person who's willing to take a gamble and keep themselves out in the open to feel the consequences. Hell, if I can detect subtle manipulation, I'm generally intrigued as well, but something overt like that isn't going to catch my interest.

 

[Stasisesque]

Just bluntly ask him out for coffee/lunch/a drink/dinner. He is either going to say yes, or no. If he says no, there aren't any "tricks" you can use to get him to change his mind - so there is no reason not to make your intentions clear from the start.