I want to make one thing clear: I'm not a violent person. That being said, I've found myself becoming more and more violent when playing first person shooters. I try to give them a fair chance, but all I end up doing is wanting to beat the hell out of the nearest wall, or at least scream until I'm red in the throat. I don't think I ever will since I'm supposed to be better than that, but it disturbs me that I even have these tendencies. I used to really like the multiplayer scene, specifically Battlefield 2. That was 5 years ago. Slowly I began to get annoyed that all my effort and practiced never amounted to anything (1.9+ K/D but 0.09 Win/Loss). Now I never want to touch anything multiplayer based again and I've become quite adamant against anything multiplayer, considering it the worst form of a game, compared to ET and Superman 64, even though in reality I know otherwise. I've lost most of my friends due to a rather heated argument where I refused to buy Black Ops because I now hate multiplayer. I love co-op, but I feel like the only person that does. I do have a girlfriend, who supports me in my decision to abstain from multiplayer, but I don't know what causes my burning hatred. I used to love games like TF2 but now I hate them with quite possibly the purest form of hatred known to humanity. What happened?
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If your anything like me you just ran out of patience for people, its not exactly easy to get along with someone when they are always your enemy or fucking with your ability to progress in one way or another, especially in multiplayer FPS', as those tend to have the more vile among us all.
Frankly the only reason I ever gave multiplayer a chance period was because the industry seems to hate Co-op, which is a shame because I adore it x.x.
You really have no reason to play multiplayer games if you lose your temper, that generally means that you can no longer tolerate a competitive environment, and it rarely gets better.
In closing, fuck the "competitive spirit" i'm tired of getting knifed.
Note: It also has alot to do with the kind of person you are at a given time, some people gain mental rewards and satisfaction from competition, even if they lose. Other people don't, so all that's left is you getting shot constantly and not getting to win, which ynow, blows.
Edit: Ile take your word on not being violent, but screaming at a game or doing anything else you described usually says otherwise, should probly get that in check.
Aaaaannd, fuck these friends of yours who are willing to start a war over call of duty. I mean really, ynow what my call of duty buddies said when I sold my copy for 32 bucks? "That sucks, wanna go play saints row 2?" Major difference brah.
It also has alot to do with the fact that nomatter how hard you work and how long you play, you just cant truly win in multiplayer games, because everyone else keeps pace and almost always has a fair 1 to 1 chance of fucking up your day. Can be hard to stomach for people who depend on actual progress xD. Again, the competitive drive is really the ONLY advantage of multiplayer, without that your just getting ganked by cheap ass AI named "Sniperxxninjadoomwolfxx.
Frankly the only reason I ever gave multiplayer a chance period was because the industry seems to hate Co-op, which is a shame because I adore it x.x.
You really have no reason to play multiplayer games if you lose your temper, that generally means that you can no longer tolerate a competitive environment, and it rarely gets better.
In closing, fuck the "competitive spirit" i'm tired of getting knifed.
Note: It also has alot to do with the kind of person you are at a given time, some people gain mental rewards and satisfaction from competition, even if they lose. Other people don't, so all that's left is you getting shot constantly and not getting to win, which ynow, blows.
Edit: Ile take your word on not being violent, but screaming at a game or doing anything else you described usually says otherwise, should probly get that in check.
Aaaaannd, fuck these friends of yours who are willing to start a war over call of duty. I mean really, ynow what my call of duty buddies said when I sold my copy for 32 bucks? "That sucks, wanna go play saints row 2?" Major difference brah.
It also has alot to do with the fact that nomatter how hard you work and how long you play, you just cant truly win in multiplayer games, because everyone else keeps pace and almost always has a fair 1 to 1 chance of fucking up your day. Can be hard to stomach for people who depend on actual progress xD. Again, the competitive drive is really the ONLY advantage of multiplayer, without that your just getting ganked by cheap ass AI named "Sniperxxninjadoomwolfxx.
Well as gaming becomes more main stream more different walks of life play games. If someone doesn't want to be your friend because you decided not to buy Vietnam Warfare then they weren't your friend at all anyway. I've never really played co-op because it requires too much and I much rather local.
I have never in my life raged out violently for real (in-game chatting not included in that statement) but I'm afraid I will someday if I keep this competitive spirit thing up for much longer. I'd be perfectly happy sticking to co-op but I'm to the point where I'm solo now. Unless I run into someone that likes co-op and has a good PC anyways.Hisshiss said:
Same here. It depends on the game, but I prefer working with my friends to defeat an enemy than to fight against them (Also why I prefer sports that don't pit me against someone, but instead against myself). I don't mind competitive games so much as long as it's not 1v1, or if I'm not in the same room as the my opponent.
I'm the same - usually a very calm and collected dude but as soon as I get on a multiplayer game I turn into a Tarantino character with Tourettes.
I avoid them as much as I can nowadays. Not worth the rage.
I avoid them as much as I can nowadays. Not worth the rage.
Stop playing multiplayer fps. if it is making you rage it anit worth it.DaHero said:
Every so often i have to put forth some effort to stop swearing and during those times i abstain from pvp as well.
Being deadly serious, try a team sport. It gives you competition and also co-op.DaHero said:
Just see if there's anything near you that you don't suck at and find a recreational team. It takes less time than multiplayer gaming (but is less flexible) you also have others with you in defeat, it's less frustrating, and there's very little someone can do inside the rules of most sports which is "cheap" it all requires skill.
I use to play DotA a reduculous amount (Greater than 8 hours a day, every day, for about 6 months... good bye savings
), losing frustrated me, but I didn't mind too much and my win loss was like 3:1 so I had a pretty decent time of it. But eventually a couple of my mates started taking it too seriously, to the point I'd go in a team of rands rather than play with him because winning with him was no reward compared to the chewing out I'd get if I died, once. In the end I stopped playing all together because I just wasn't enjoying it anymore, the losses crushed me more than the wins lifted me.Same reason I never enjoyed Judo competitions, sparring was fun, because there were no stakes but pride, and it was all a learning experience. But losing in comps pissed me off because I usually lost due to me making a mistake rather than them being more skilled. But winning wasn't fun either because I just put it down to "I was better than him when I walked in, I still am, the only difference is that he feels shitty now that he knows it."
I know you could argue that not making a mistake is skill but I mean technical skill in throws and holds not skill in winning a comp.... In fact, now that I think on it, maybe the reason I hated it was because I was using a different definition of success and wasn't rewarded for being (in my eyes) the better competitor.
What I'm getting at is that you may need to try a different type of competition to get a rush than competitive gaming. I did. Team sport was it for me.
I totally understand where you're coming from mate.
I've got a few mates who play League of Legends (a DOTA clone, if you know what DOTA is...) and who invited me to play along. Naturally, I did, just to be nice.
I'm a casual gamer, I play for fun, the art and the experience. I prefer aesthetics over gameplay, so naturally I suck at games.
Whenever I play LoL with my mates I get so fucking sick of getting killed over and over and over and OVER by a bunch of nerds who spend too much time playing games (at least that's what I tell myself) without ever getting a kill myself. It's a joyless experience and most of the time I'll just end up quitting, partially from rage, but mostly because I'M NOT HAVING FUN.
I thought that's what games were primarily about?! Entertainment??
If playing a game with others makes you burn with the rage you say it does (and I'm gonna have to agree with you a little there!), it is clearly not doing what it's meant to... Stay well clear of them buddy!!!
I've got a few mates who play League of Legends (a DOTA clone, if you know what DOTA is...) and who invited me to play along. Naturally, I did, just to be nice.
I'm a casual gamer, I play for fun, the art and the experience. I prefer aesthetics over gameplay, so naturally I suck at games.
Whenever I play LoL with my mates I get so fucking sick of getting killed over and over and over and OVER by a bunch of nerds who spend too much time playing games (at least that's what I tell myself) without ever getting a kill myself. It's a joyless experience and most of the time I'll just end up quitting, partially from rage, but mostly because I'M NOT HAVING FUN.
I thought that's what games were primarily about?! Entertainment??
If playing a game with others makes you burn with the rage you say it does (and I'm gonna have to agree with you a little there!), it is clearly not doing what it's meant to... Stay well clear of them buddy!!!
When frustration started turning into red-vision anger, I started branching out a bit more with my gaming. Especially in the DS category. When I removed myself from the multiplayer FPS scene for a while and took a moment to look upon my recent gaming I noticed a trend showing year-by-year more and more of my library was being overtaken by FPS titles.
Nothing wrong with that of course, but when I realized what was going on I made much more of a effort to try out new series, titles, and genres that I had previously overlooked for my next hit of that FPS. I am now starting to ease myself back into multiplayer FPS games with different titles, Medal of Honor has really been taking a good bit of my time recently and I look forward to picking up BC2. I'm finding playing these games much less frustrating, and if I do reach the point of frustration I've got a massive backlog of games to play. I haven't touched Black Ops in months.
So my advice is to go cold turkey on FPS games for a bit. Try some new games out, play some old favorites, take a shot with some games that you'd once looked at with interest, if you have a DS of some sort I really recommend starting with that. Make your gaming once again about having some simple fun instead of a constant "must win" chore, expand even if you're an expansive player, or if you find it's the right decision for you, cut your ties with the FPS genre to a bare minimum. Hope my perspective and story gives you a bit of insight pertaining to your problem. Good luck and best wishes.
Nothing wrong with that of course, but when I realized what was going on I made much more of a effort to try out new series, titles, and genres that I had previously overlooked for my next hit of that FPS. I am now starting to ease myself back into multiplayer FPS games with different titles, Medal of Honor has really been taking a good bit of my time recently and I look forward to picking up BC2. I'm finding playing these games much less frustrating, and if I do reach the point of frustration I've got a massive backlog of games to play. I haven't touched Black Ops in months.
So my advice is to go cold turkey on FPS games for a bit. Try some new games out, play some old favorites, take a shot with some games that you'd once looked at with interest, if you have a DS of some sort I really recommend starting with that. Make your gaming once again about having some simple fun instead of a constant "must win" chore, expand even if you're an expansive player, or if you find it's the right decision for you, cut your ties with the FPS genre to a bare minimum. Hope my perspective and story gives you a bit of insight pertaining to your problem. Good luck and best wishes.