So who is right here?

[effilctar]

So, I have all my offers in from universities, and I'm wanting to make the offer from Warwick my firm choice as it is the only one that isn't BBB, because to be honest making a firm choice with an offer that's BBB would be underselling myself; this isn't me talking, this is what I have been told. Given my Warwick situation thanks to my family, I would have made York my firm choice but they gave me a BBB offer instead of ABB.

Now, here's the thing. I was given the opportunity to visit Warwick on an open day which my friends were also attending, but my mother said no, complaining that it would be too far away. This seriously pissed me off. So now here I am, wanting to make MY choices and she's screaming at me because I want to accept Warwick because apparently I made "no attempt of visiting the place". Now, rewind the fuck back to a couple of sentences ago. I swear to you Escapists, not a word a lie, my mother said no to a Warwick visit day because it is too far away. I explain this to all of my family and they come out with the same bullshit: "Well you haven't visited so how can you say you definitely want to go there?". So now, thanks to my mother not wanting to sacrifice one saturday of watching music videos on TV, I have been denied the chance to visit the university I was most interested in, and as a consequence my family are actually trying to stop me from making Warwick my firm choice.

I'm posting here because my whole family thinks I'm being silly, whereas my friends, and the few teachers I ask, would say it is my family who are being silly. So, what's your view on this?

EDIT: Sorry for forgetting a link

[link]http://extras.timesonline.co.uk/tol_gug/gooduniversityguide.php[/link]
So you can see from this that it is ranked very highly.

And for my chosen subject(Chemistry):
[link]http://extras.timesonline.co.uk/tol_gug/gooduniversityguide.php?AC_sub=Chemistry&x=52&y=12&sub=14[/link]
Still pretty high.

 

[Liberaliter]

Why would you let your mother tell you what to do in the first place, especially since you are considering university

you are in the right. It is your choice and if you want to go to Warrick then go, don't let family stop you, its seriously up to you. Warwick is ranked highly anyway and I hear it is very nice.

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

You only live once, simple as that. If you've looked into the place, despite not visiting it, and like it thats a promising start. Secondly your friends went and if they thought it was good then why wouldn't you?

Seems to me you've made up your mind for Warwick, so go for it. They'll whine for a while but then they'll get over it. Rather go for the choice you think best and regret it than to wonder 'what if' while at York.

Also York is not that great, just so you know.

 

[Jedoro]

You're a separate person, make the decision yourself. Go to Warwick, and if your family doesn't like it, they can suck it the hell up because it's your decision.

 

[Lullabye]

1. Grow some balls!
2. ?????????
3. Profit!
Actually, 2 is more like: Tell your mom she's an idiot. Move out. Get a job. Go to uni, hopefully one of your choice and basically quite whining about how needy you are. I'm sure you have friends who could've drove you, if not, then you need ot get social skils and make more friends.

 

[Daniel Cygnus]

Do what you want to do. It's your choice and no one else's.

 

[Trivun]

Pick where you want to go and put that as your choice, no matter what your mother says. I had offers from Leeds, Cardiff and Aberystwyth. Leeds I'd been to several times before, and I went to Cardiff and thought it was shit. I have never actually been to Aberystwyth and yet my parents still agreed to me putting the town as my Insurance choice. Leeds was my firm offer, which I managed to get, and I love being at uni in Leeds.

But my point is, I hadn't visited Aberystwyth yet I still put it as one of my choices. So the same should apply to anyone. If you want to put Warwick as your choice, then it's up to you. Your mother has absolutely no right to tell you where you can and can't go to university.

 

[Valksy]

I read law at the University of Warwick and it was a great place. Now OK, that was 15 years ago. But it had good facilities, good transport links and a very good reputation.

If memory serves it is about a 14 min bus ride from the campus to Coventry railway station. About a 22 min inter city to Birmingham New Street and from Brum you can easily travel North if that is where your family is. Let's be honest, compared to the US, Australia, Canada and some EU nations, England is very very small and you are never THAT far away from home.

This is your future and good grief your education is the best gift you will ever give yourself. So look at your options with open and objective eyes for what opportunities there may be in your future.