rutger5000 said:
Honestly why is it? Don't get me wrong I've got no problems without homosexuality, in fact I can see myself experimenting some day. But for the live of me I can't see why it's most often considered offensive to think of it as a choice.
Is it offensive that I say you're icky 'cause you chose to be black [No idea if you are or not]?
Yes? Why? Well, for one that I'm calling you icky, which is what near everyone who considers homosexuality a choice generally pairs such an assertion with - or that its a sin or a crime or something - and secondly because you had no choice whether over you were black or white, and its stupid to blame you for that.
I can see that being more sexually attracted to the same sex isn't something you do so purposfully/consiously. So if you purely regard homosexuality as being dominantly sexually attracted to the same sex. Then yes it isn't really a choice, more something that just happens to you. But surely everything beyond that is a choice right?
Again I want to stress that I think it's the right choice. Sexuality is a good thing, so I'd encourage people to do whatever they want on that area as long as all involved parties are consentfull.
This is kinda mucking things up a bit. Homosexuality IS being attracted to the opposite sex. If you are attracted to the opposite sex, you are a homosexual. Or bisexual if you are attracted to both. Acting on that is just the same as a heterosexual person acting on their desire to sleep with the opposite sex. We don't come out and say heterosexuality is a choice, because its not. We come out and say that abstinence or sex is a choice.
But still acting upon your homosexuality is surely a choice right? So why is it considered offensive to regard it as such? Especially as the alternative is to regard it as something like an affliction, which I personally would find much more offensive.
For two reasons.
1. Because its a false choice. What are your options?
a) 'Act on your homosexuality'. Sleep around with other people of the same sex, enjoy yourself, and have a happy relationship with someone, fall in love - ect.
b) Abstain from any and all sexual encounters, don't search for love, don't get into any relationships - ect.
c) Get into a relationship with the opposite sex, which you do not enjoy as you are not attracted to them, try to sleep with them and potentially fail as you don't find them attractive, and if you succeed don't enjoy it all that much, have a relationship with someone else that may be alright, but will always have a bit of a stressed undertone to it due to you not finding them attractive in that way, whilst its expected that you will.
Your options are either 'Act on your homosexuality', become a nun, or do what bigots and homophobes call 'normal' and 'right', and betray yourself in the process. If that's a real choice, then its a bloody offensive choice.
2. Because the only other way to consider it is not as an affliction. Is being a boy an affliction? Is being a girl an affliction? Having 2 eyes is an affliction? No, then why would being homosexual be an affliction? It is simply a genetic trait carried down like gender, hair colour, skin colour and anything else.
rutger5000 said:
With exceptions aside, yeah I can choose whom I'm attracted to.
Those exceptions aren't universal. I can not be attracted to guys. I'm a guy, I have no interest in guys no matter how much I realise being so would bring me less pain [Well, emotional pain anyway...]. Likewise a homosexual man would probably find it impossible to be attracted to girls. Not everyone can choose who they are and aren't attracted too.
As for persecuted and discriminated. Well maybe I'm speaking from the luxury of never been discriminated or persecuted, but yeah. People who treat others badly for something such as sexuality are bad people, and I usually don't feel bad if bad people treat me badly. Then you get to call them out and be the bigger person.
Unless you live in Russia where you're just tortured, sent to jail, tortured some more and eventually killed.
Or Iran. Or Iraq.
Or if you live in some towns in America even, where Evangelical Christians send you letters asking you to move out of town peacefully else they will bring in contacts from the police force and forcefully move you out of town because you are homosexual, claiming to have done so to 7 other couples so far [Seriously seen a letter saying that. I'll have to find the picture, its laughable and sad at the same time]. Its also worse than you think when you are unable to make any friends in your area, or talk to anyone on even a professional level, because they judge you as a lesser person because you are homosexual. Discrimination is a real issue in some placed. Its not just "I don't like you 'cause your homosexual" its "I'm going to make your life hell because you're a homosexual", and I'd be surprised if you could put up with that.