So you find out your best friend's girlfriend is cheating on him.. with his best friend..

[Sean Hollyman]

What would you do in this situation, if it happened?

Basically:

You find out that your best friend's girlfriend, is cheating on him, with his best friend, who is also your other best friend?

Would you tell him, and risk ruining both your friendships, or let it carry on?

BTW I'm not actually in this situation, lol.

 

[DugMachine]

Best to let them work those things out themselves and act like you don't know anything. You just set yourself up for a world of shit getting involved in their business.

edit: seeing as you're not taking my advice here lol. I only said this from experience as I was in this very position. Yes, if you're a true friend you should be able to tell your friends this stuff BUT a lot of times you get caught in the middle of a shit storm you really didn't want to be in and stuff is awkward after awhile. Yeah you'll still be friends but there will always be this lingering cloud.

idk just my 2 cents. I say stay out of it.

 

[Psykoma]

Depends on the friendship dynamic

Some friendships demand each other be open about stuff like this.
Some friendships demand you keep to yourself.
Frankly you should think about your friendships with the people in question, because thats where youll find your answer, not on the internet.

Some of my friends i would guarantee you would hate me if i exposed a cheating SO.
Some would hate me if i knew about the cheating and didnt say anything.

 

[kurupt87]

Hah, you're fucked.

If you say nothing, you support the cheating mate. If you say something, you support the cheated mate. You have to choose who is your better mate.

Best option, tell the cheater you will let your other mate know unless they tell him first. Hope that they do. If they don't, you're back to my previous paragraph.

 

[Stasisesque]

You find out your best friend's girlfriend is cheating on him with his best friend? So... that'd be you, then?

I'd not say anything. It's not your place. If questioned, tell the truth. Your friend will forgive you faster than he would if you started stirring things up between them.

 

[saints1544]

Best friend #1(cheated) + Sleazy GF(cheater) + Best Friend #2(Dick) = Run away scared or make it a best friend trifecta and hit on her too, turns out shes easy......

 

[The Artificially Prolonged]

There is no truly right way to go in that situation, no matter what it will go bad. However I would say if the guy is really your best friend you'd tell him what you saw and let him deal with it how he chooses, because you won't have a friend much longer when he finds out you knew and didn't tell him.

 

[Sean Hollyman]

You find out your best friend's girlfriend is cheating on him with his best friend? So... that'd be you, then?

I'd not say anything. It's not your place. If questioned, tell the truth. Your friend will forgive you faster than he would if you started stirring things up between them.

I meant that you are best friends with the cheated guy, but you are also best friends with the guy she is cheating with.

BASICALLY 3 BEST FRIENDS.

 

[Lionsfan]

You find out your best friend's girlfriend is cheating on him with his best friend? So... that'd be you, then?

I'd not say anything. It's not your place. If questioned, tell the truth. Your friend will forgive you faster than he would if you started stirring things up between them.

I meant that you are best friends with the cheated guy, but you are also best friends with the guy she is cheating with.

BASICALLY 3 BEST FRIENDS.

You might want to change the topic title (if you can) cause I had the same thought as Stasisesque.


Anyways, I would confront Friend 3, but wouldn't say anything unless confronted with it

 

[SciMal]

What would you do in this situation, if it happened?

Basically:

You find out that your best friend's girlfriend, is cheating on him, with his best friend, who is also your other best friend?

Would you tell him, and risk ruining both your friendships, or let it carry on?

Of course you tell him. Tell the other one, too. If your friends aren't mature enough to have a frank discussion about the love triangle going on, why are they your friends again?

Your friend deserves to know what's going on, and your other friend deserves to catch shit for being a dumbass. The girl will probably get dumped (she deserves it), there will be a fight, and tell both friends you're staying out of this.

If the friend who cheated with the other's girlfriend accuses you of betraying him, remind him that it was his actions which got him caught and that you would have told him if his girlfriend was cheating on him.

If the friend being cheated on accuses you if witholding information (not likely), then remind him that it wasn't an easy position to be in and you did the right thing in the end.

People will ***** and moan for a while, and anyone who holds a grudge against you isn't worth being friends with. Period. You don't need friends who don't respect your moral choices and choose to shift the blame onto you than take responsibility for themselves.

The only exceptions are:

1) If you're in your teens, because relationship drama is what keeps all teenagers from commiting suicide out of boredom.

2) If the couple has an open relationship and everyone knows what's happening. It happens, and your person opinion about open relationships aside, it's your job to respect their beliefs.

 

[Sean Hollyman]

In case there's any confusion caused, I'm not actually in this situation.

Just wondering what you'd do, lol.

 

[Fappy]

Seduce her. That is the only option. Or would that make the situation more complicated?

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Wait, I am cheating on my best friend with my best friend's girlfriend / wife?
I must be a fucked up person.
Anyways, time to seduce my best friend then.
Waaaiiit...

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Clearly, the only solution is to sleep with all of them, and shout out the wrong name every time you climax.

 

[Brendan Stepladder]

Hah, you're fucked.

If you say nothing, you support the cheating mate. If you say something, you support the cheated mate. You have to choose who is your better mate.

Best option, tell the cheater you will let your other mate know unless they tell him first. Hope that they do. If they don't, you're back to my previous paragraph.

This is probably will be the best way to resolve this one. Looks like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place, OP.

 

[JeffBergGold]

Tell him, any guy who's worth calling a best friend understands how the game works and shouldn't be too upset over it. Just let him know he'll probably laugh and they can both talk about weird stuff she does. It would be camaraderie building rather than a friendship destroyer.

 

[exessmirror]

if he is my best friend and his girl is cheating with his best friend, it would mean that she would cheat with me. i dont want to deal with that fallout so no i wont tell him

 

[game-lover]

I'm snitching. I'm snitching.

Here's why:

Any friend of mine is going to know way ahead of time--before our friendship is established to get this far--that I have a no tolerance policy on cheating. They will know this and memorize to the point that it gets engraved into their goddamn minds.

So if one of them fucks up, does this shit and I find out about it. Fucking consequences.

I am more than prepared to severe relationship ties over this. The most I will do is tell friend #2 to tell friend #1 just what the hell he's been doing in a time limit. If they do not make this time limit, then I Will Snitch.

The way I see it, I'll probably lose at least one friend in the end. Because when you make your world as small as this, it's gonna get out eventually. Just a matter of time. I'd much rather lose the cheating traitor than the other one.

Because I'd lose all the respect I had for him in the single instant I learned that sex was had.

 

[JeffBergGold]

I'm snitching. I'm snitching.

Here's why:

Any friend of mine is going to know way ahead of time--before our friendship is established to get this far--that I have a no tolerance policy on cheating. They will know this and memorize to the point that it gets engraved into their goddamn minds.

So if one of them fucks up, does this shit and I find out about it. Fucking consequences.

I am more than prepared to severe relationship ties over this. The most I will do is tell friend #2 to tell friend #1 just what the hell he's been doing in a time limit. If they do not make this time limit, then I Will Snitch.

The way I see it, I'll probably lose at least one friend in the end. Because when you make your world as small as this, it's gonna get out eventually. Just a matter of time. I'd much rather lose the cheating traitor than the other one.

Because I'd lose all the respect I had for him in the single instant I learned that sex was had.

But it's not the other guys fault it is the girls fault.

 

[game-lover]

I'm snitching. I'm snitching.

Here's why:

Any friend of mine is going to know way ahead of time--before our friendship is established to get this far--that I have a no tolerance policy on cheating. They will know this and memorize to the point that it gets engraved into their goddamn minds.

So if one of them fucks up, does this shit and I find out about it. Fucking consequences.

I am more than prepared to severe relationship ties over this. The most I will do is tell friend #2 to tell friend #1 just what the hell he's been doing in a time limit. If they do not make this time limit, then I Will Snitch.

The way I see it, I'll probably lose at least one friend in the end. Because when you make your world as small as this, it's gonna get out eventually. Just a matter of time. I'd much rather lose the cheating traitor than the other one.

Because I'd lose all the respect I had for him in the single instant I learned that sex was had.

But it's not the other guys fault it is the girls fault.

No, no, no, no... It is BOTH his fault and her fault.

Yes, she's a traitorous slut. But friend #2 didn't have to sleep with her. What, he couldn't have shut her down? Couldn't have then told friend #1 "hey, your girl is a slut who tried to put the moves on me?"

Sure, you can say there's no certainty the first friend would believe second friend. But even so, second didn't have to fuck her.

I mean, seriously. Not his fault? What did she blackmail him? Did she make sure to trip him while she was on a bed so that he'd fall on top of her? And it just so happened that they were naked? Bull Fucking Shit.

Unless she forced herself on him--because, yeah, that can happen sadly enough--it is oh so very much his fault as much as it is hers.