Recent cultural changes have left me thinking a lot about how we view and deal with the world.
Its been a creeping change over the years but of late its in full swing and its only getting louder and more strident as the months pass.
The topic is a bit obscure but the subject itself is rather evident. Everywhere you look in "new media" there is this huge shift of cultural focus towards body diversity and rejection of previous standards and almost a narcissistic obsession with the celebrating the average and mediocre "reality" of what "people really are".
But I feel this is a direct result of how our educational systems have changed over the decades that I have been alive.
For example, when I was in grade school and on to high school. You passed or failed or had varying degrees of acceptable levels of grade, but there was no such thing as a curve, no one was graded on a classroom average when I went to school.
You had winners, you had losers, and you had all the people in between. Somewhere in the late 80s and into the 90s and beyond educational systems changed from individual grade point averages to classroom based grade curves and then just no grades at all just, you were there so you must have learned something, heres your diploma.
Twenty years later this has seeped into our culture in the most insidious of methods. "Social Media". And yes there was a heavy clang sound on the insertion of those quotes.
To expand, we now live in a cultural era which is socially dominated by millions of people that don't quite understand psychologically that they are not the star of their own personal movie. They have been socially programmed to believe that they are special and that they have a purpose on this planet beyond taking up space in the line at Starbucks and that everyone else around them is merely background scenery. This is a well documented mental state that many people live in daily. Its not a mental problem, people that think like this lead completely productive normal lives of course, but its a known self delusion based in uneducated Solipsism. In fact if you faced off with someone with a word like Solipsism on a Scrabble board, and they didn't have a smart phone handy to look it up they probably wouldn't even know what it was a real word or that they have a small mental area in their brain that already subscribes to it.
Anyways, this unconscious Solipsism, this belief that all people are special because everyone is an individual stems from unconditional acceptance. You didn't lose, you didn't win, but you did participate. And this is the basic psycho-social mental state that has crept into most of the social movements of our time.
So we montage forward again to the present day, and you have all these extremely angry movements of absolutely average and mediocre people consistently shaking the foundations of established industries demanding equality and acceptance when the actual problem is there are winners and losers and not everyone can win.
From a purely physical perspective, one cannot state that one body image for a male or a female is "perfect" in fact the prevalent social opinion of what is biologically perfect has been in relative amounts of flux in the 2000 years or so of written accounts and artistic representations that we can visually account for.
But that doesn't mean that in every age there hasn't been an standard for what is "better" than everything else. In ancient history these people were regarded as heroes or descended from gods, or even gods themselves depending on the culture. Today, we call them celebrities, even if they're not particularly good at anything but being who they are.
And again back to 2015, and its huge social attempts to celebrate mediocrity. From a purely physical standpoint again...its understandable that some individuals are simply medically and physiologically incapable of "physical perfection" as such, but to deny that "physical perfection" is a possibility, simply because some of our human numbers are incapable of ever achieving it, to state that no body image or no facial proportion is more visually appealing than any other is a direct and obvious fallacy. Its a white knight delusion.
Using myself as an example, I am 6'2". or just above two meters in the metric system. I also naturally weigh about 180 pounds. I have a strong jawline, a prominent chin and light blue eyes that stand out well from my dark hair. Genetically I have all the basic foundations of physical "perfection"....but I'm not "perfect" and there is a reason for that. Its because I'm lazy.
That's right, instead of pointing my finger at anyone else, I will use myself as an example and say exactly why I'm not perfect. I could quite easily top 225 pounds and be cut like a comic book super hero if I wanted to and this is considered to be in most western society to be a "perfect" physiology for males. Not built like a wrestler but muscular and toned...I can do that quite easily, in fact when I was younger I used to do it more regularly and I got quite a lot of attention from the ladies and even other men. But the simple facts are is working out is hard....it takes time that I'd rather use doing other things like reading books or playing a game or working or spending time with my family.
So at this point in my life I'm around 180 pounds, I'm not particularly visually stunning, I am occasionally pasty white and flabby depending on what time of year it is and whether I'm getting any exercise at all or not..and thats all on me, thats my decision, I'm not "perfect" because I don't try to be. I could be, or at least my version of perfect...I just don't put in the effort.
And thats what it really comes down to for a large portion of modern society. The roots of "perfection" are in everyone and everyone has their own peak they could climb and summit and be as physically perfect as their genetics can allow for, they just don't try...they don't put in the effort. And the effort is not made for a lot of the same reasons I don't make the effort...but its not as if the possibility isn't there.
My own girlfriend is a beautiful redheaded girl who constantly complains about how fat she is. Shes not fat shes just not in the shape she wants to be in....but she never does anything about it. We live in a downtown building and there is a gym in the basement and a full sized Olympic swimming pool. She could easily change what she doesn't like about herself but she doesn't try...because she has other things to do or because shes lazy, kinda like me.
So what it comes down to is that being ugly, being "body diverse" isn't really about changing social standards and "acceptance" its really not anything but ugly narcissism. Its people like me who could be physically better that don't put in the effort, but then, for some strange reason, demand that the rest of the world change its standards for what is "beautiful" simply to accommodate their lack of effort.
I know everyone says that beauty is only skin deep and its whats inside that is truly special. But I hate to break it to you, but you're nothing inside but a collection of neuro-chemicals, hormones, various organs and connective tissues more or less. There is nothing special about you on the inside. That is a romantic (if not ill-educated) belief that humans have a soul or a heart or something else inside them that makes them special. The simple facts are is the only thing that makes you special at all is how special you decide to be to others around you and that is more or less about it. And if you don't put any effort into doing that...then you're likely to be rather forgettable and that is not the fault of media culture nor is it the fault of society in general.
And in general, there is nothing wrong with choosing not to chase perfection or personally believing that social standards of perfection are, somehow, in error.... even when its obvious that regardless of that belief, theres still a a huge industry of people that are simply famous because they're beautiful and whether you think they're beautiful or not they're still celebrities and you are a barista.
In the end and somehow trying to tie up this huge wandering ramble that I don't expect many people will read and the ones that do will mentally reject it because its cutting too close to the bone...is that ugly narcissism is still narcissism....its just uglier. Bimbos are people too, and you might hate them because they're bimbos, but yanno what? While you might sleep in til 9AM, they're getting up at 5AM to go to the gym, to put on make up, to pick out the right outfits...in all fairness, as bad as a rap as "bimbos" get, they put more effort into their lives than most of their critics.
So in closing, whether we agree to it or not, whether we collectively agree to give everyone a participation award (which to be fair, generally everyone gets a headstone somewhere...so most of us get a participation award by default), so they can feel equal and valued in our society, the undeniable, basic truth of human existence is that there will always be winners and losers, physically, mentally and psychologically...and attempting to change that with hashtags is the epitome of human arrogance and laziness.
Its been a creeping change over the years but of late its in full swing and its only getting louder and more strident as the months pass.
The topic is a bit obscure but the subject itself is rather evident. Everywhere you look in "new media" there is this huge shift of cultural focus towards body diversity and rejection of previous standards and almost a narcissistic obsession with the celebrating the average and mediocre "reality" of what "people really are".
But I feel this is a direct result of how our educational systems have changed over the decades that I have been alive.
For example, when I was in grade school and on to high school. You passed or failed or had varying degrees of acceptable levels of grade, but there was no such thing as a curve, no one was graded on a classroom average when I went to school.
You had winners, you had losers, and you had all the people in between. Somewhere in the late 80s and into the 90s and beyond educational systems changed from individual grade point averages to classroom based grade curves and then just no grades at all just, you were there so you must have learned something, heres your diploma.
Twenty years later this has seeped into our culture in the most insidious of methods. "Social Media". And yes there was a heavy clang sound on the insertion of those quotes.
To expand, we now live in a cultural era which is socially dominated by millions of people that don't quite understand psychologically that they are not the star of their own personal movie. They have been socially programmed to believe that they are special and that they have a purpose on this planet beyond taking up space in the line at Starbucks and that everyone else around them is merely background scenery. This is a well documented mental state that many people live in daily. Its not a mental problem, people that think like this lead completely productive normal lives of course, but its a known self delusion based in uneducated Solipsism. In fact if you faced off with someone with a word like Solipsism on a Scrabble board, and they didn't have a smart phone handy to look it up they probably wouldn't even know what it was a real word or that they have a small mental area in their brain that already subscribes to it.
Anyways, this unconscious Solipsism, this belief that all people are special because everyone is an individual stems from unconditional acceptance. You didn't lose, you didn't win, but you did participate. And this is the basic psycho-social mental state that has crept into most of the social movements of our time.
So we montage forward again to the present day, and you have all these extremely angry movements of absolutely average and mediocre people consistently shaking the foundations of established industries demanding equality and acceptance when the actual problem is there are winners and losers and not everyone can win.
From a purely physical perspective, one cannot state that one body image for a male or a female is "perfect" in fact the prevalent social opinion of what is biologically perfect has been in relative amounts of flux in the 2000 years or so of written accounts and artistic representations that we can visually account for.
But that doesn't mean that in every age there hasn't been an standard for what is "better" than everything else. In ancient history these people were regarded as heroes or descended from gods, or even gods themselves depending on the culture. Today, we call them celebrities, even if they're not particularly good at anything but being who they are.
And again back to 2015, and its huge social attempts to celebrate mediocrity. From a purely physical standpoint again...its understandable that some individuals are simply medically and physiologically incapable of "physical perfection" as such, but to deny that "physical perfection" is a possibility, simply because some of our human numbers are incapable of ever achieving it, to state that no body image or no facial proportion is more visually appealing than any other is a direct and obvious fallacy. Its a white knight delusion.
Using myself as an example, I am 6'2". or just above two meters in the metric system. I also naturally weigh about 180 pounds. I have a strong jawline, a prominent chin and light blue eyes that stand out well from my dark hair. Genetically I have all the basic foundations of physical "perfection"....but I'm not "perfect" and there is a reason for that. Its because I'm lazy.
That's right, instead of pointing my finger at anyone else, I will use myself as an example and say exactly why I'm not perfect. I could quite easily top 225 pounds and be cut like a comic book super hero if I wanted to and this is considered to be in most western society to be a "perfect" physiology for males. Not built like a wrestler but muscular and toned...I can do that quite easily, in fact when I was younger I used to do it more regularly and I got quite a lot of attention from the ladies and even other men. But the simple facts are is working out is hard....it takes time that I'd rather use doing other things like reading books or playing a game or working or spending time with my family.
So at this point in my life I'm around 180 pounds, I'm not particularly visually stunning, I am occasionally pasty white and flabby depending on what time of year it is and whether I'm getting any exercise at all or not..and thats all on me, thats my decision, I'm not "perfect" because I don't try to be. I could be, or at least my version of perfect...I just don't put in the effort.
And thats what it really comes down to for a large portion of modern society. The roots of "perfection" are in everyone and everyone has their own peak they could climb and summit and be as physically perfect as their genetics can allow for, they just don't try...they don't put in the effort. And the effort is not made for a lot of the same reasons I don't make the effort...but its not as if the possibility isn't there.
My own girlfriend is a beautiful redheaded girl who constantly complains about how fat she is. Shes not fat shes just not in the shape she wants to be in....but she never does anything about it. We live in a downtown building and there is a gym in the basement and a full sized Olympic swimming pool. She could easily change what she doesn't like about herself but she doesn't try...because she has other things to do or because shes lazy, kinda like me.
So what it comes down to is that being ugly, being "body diverse" isn't really about changing social standards and "acceptance" its really not anything but ugly narcissism. Its people like me who could be physically better that don't put in the effort, but then, for some strange reason, demand that the rest of the world change its standards for what is "beautiful" simply to accommodate their lack of effort.
I know everyone says that beauty is only skin deep and its whats inside that is truly special. But I hate to break it to you, but you're nothing inside but a collection of neuro-chemicals, hormones, various organs and connective tissues more or less. There is nothing special about you on the inside. That is a romantic (if not ill-educated) belief that humans have a soul or a heart or something else inside them that makes them special. The simple facts are is the only thing that makes you special at all is how special you decide to be to others around you and that is more or less about it. And if you don't put any effort into doing that...then you're likely to be rather forgettable and that is not the fault of media culture nor is it the fault of society in general.
And in general, there is nothing wrong with choosing not to chase perfection or personally believing that social standards of perfection are, somehow, in error.... even when its obvious that regardless of that belief, theres still a a huge industry of people that are simply famous because they're beautiful and whether you think they're beautiful or not they're still celebrities and you are a barista.
In the end and somehow trying to tie up this huge wandering ramble that I don't expect many people will read and the ones that do will mentally reject it because its cutting too close to the bone...is that ugly narcissism is still narcissism....its just uglier. Bimbos are people too, and you might hate them because they're bimbos, but yanno what? While you might sleep in til 9AM, they're getting up at 5AM to go to the gym, to put on make up, to pick out the right outfits...in all fairness, as bad as a rap as "bimbos" get, they put more effort into their lives than most of their critics.
So in closing, whether we agree to it or not, whether we collectively agree to give everyone a participation award (which to be fair, generally everyone gets a headstone somewhere...so most of us get a participation award by default), so they can feel equal and valued in our society, the undeniable, basic truth of human existence is that there will always be winners and losers, physically, mentally and psychologically...and attempting to change that with hashtags is the epitome of human arrogance and laziness.