Social Leeches
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Honestly, I can't see a problem with it. If the friend has his or her sights set on the friend's friend they know the person well enough that it wouldn't be a casual kind of thing, and would probably have mentioned it at some point. If that's the case, you back off. Otherwise, it's just a group of people. Heck, it's probably even a better group of people, since your friend probably has taste similar to yours.
I would never try to poach from a friend (it's just poor taste, and can only end in either tears, or fisticuffs), but if this just happens to be a friend of a friend, more power to you
I would never try to poach from a friend (it's just poor taste, and can only end in either tears, or fisticuffs), but if this just happens to be a friend of a friend, more power to you
"But I did! Then you said that thing about the guy. I totally remember it."Larenxis said:
Yeah, I have a Myspace. But I don't use it as a Myspace. I use it as an Email system... thingy. I don't care for Myspace friends or people I don't know. I get a few 'Friends' I've never heard of or don't care to remember so I just ignore them. I only cheak it like once a week.
Stop looking at me like that! I'm not an animal!
I do that but with bands, so I suppose it's not the same thing. Come to think of it, that's what I usually use myspace for. I view the profile of a band I like and then I look at their friends and then their friend's friends and their friend's friend's friend. By the end of the day i have accumulated about 10 extra bands on my friends list whom will be deleted the next day for filling my bulletins with the same updates three times in a row.
Social networking must be the most annoying thing on the web. It just encourages pointless communication and makes "socializing" a chore. Thank God I tuned off all e-mail notifications, else my mail would be constantly filled with friending notifications from people I'm sure I never, ever met or heard of and random invitations. I find this all, more than creepy, very irritating.
Indeed, but there's a whole generation of kids who are being slowly conditioned never to talk to strangers. Meeting people at bars, or just striking up a random but practical conversation on the street is slowly becoming taboo. Instead, they are opting to meet people through the Internet or - indeed - through their friends' friends. Leeching is the natural progression of such thinking and can only be prevented when society turns around, condemns it and says its alright to go out and meet random people, within limits.Spinwhiz said:
Agreed. I've always been a social person and I don't have any kind of online profile because, frankly, that stuff freaks me out. And Facebook, as I see it, basically stalks your friends for you. And people take it so seriously. My roommate, for example, broke up with his girlfriend, not because of anything she did, but because of what she did on Facebook. My former roommate (oh, the stories I could tell of this kid) would run, seriously, run, to his computer when he got back from work, and would never turn the volume down so he always knew when he was getting a new instant message. And in turn, until I got to know them better, I was sort of kept at arms length because of my lack of internet personality because that made me shady or secretive or something.
I've had a LiveJournal for, dear god, 7 years, but because it is text-based, it's more like an extended pen-pal network. I've had people "friend" me on that site, usually based on a shared interest or mutual friend. But the mutual friend thing is not creepy because we have usually seen each other in some sort of conversation thread, so it's rather like meeting someone at a friend's party. I check them out, if I like them, then I friend them back. Otherwise I don't, and then they can't read any of the Friends-Only entries. I don't know about Facebook and I would never use MySpace because I hate involuntary streaming media, and the web designs make my eyes bleed. I also understand the the friends-thing on MySpace is a bit fast and loose. As is the whole site, I guess.
I don't even really have online profiles like that. Yeah, maybe made one years ago (you know that; when friends tell you its awesome and you should really try it?) but I just can't be bothered to update it. I don't have much surf time, and the surf time I have goes to this forum actually.
You wanna be my friends?
j/k
You wanna be my friends?
j/k
Yeah I've been contacted a few times by boyfriends of girls I used to date via their extended networks - random guys just looking for friends (as if I'd care). I think the idea is a bit wrong, it's not like your friend has called you up and said "hey, want to come meet my friends?" one night. It's different.
But it's not the internet's fault, or social networking sites. There are people who hang off of you to try and meet other people in all aspects of life.
But it's not the internet's fault, or social networking sites. There are people who hang off of you to try and meet other people in all aspects of life.
I only use facebook to add some friends, and find my friends that I knew before I moved away.I comment on pics but that's about it.
yes, talking to your friend's friends is clearly a subversive plot to undermine the original relationship
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i do not approve of this, it is basically like online dating but safer because they are friends of friends. I do, however make lots of friends with friends of friends through msn joint conversations but that is the equivalent of you both going out together with a mutual friend for the internet.