First off, here's my situation. I'm a college student and I'm in my last year for my bachelors degree and I'm still living at home because I couldn't afford to go to college anywhere further than a bus ride away.
I have been hunting for a job for about a year and finally was able to find a summer job back at the pool I used to work at last summer, with my first day being tomorrow.
And now, incoming wall of text.
So anyway, I wake up this morning and before I even get downstairs I'm already loaded with chores. The first being to walk my dogs.
So I get about doing that, walk them for a good 45 mins, and the second I return I get yelled at for taking too long and generally being a lazy worthless pile of shit and my mom demands I vacuum the house, which I do.
I then do the dishes, pick up the dog poop, clean the living room and then get started on the yard work I was asked to do the night before.
About half an hour into trimming the hedges my mom comes outside and starts yelling at how I never ever do anything right because I forgot to vacuum under one half of an arm chair. Again accusing me of being lazy and never doing anything to help ever.
I honestly wish I could have something to play back my whole day at this point.
So I go back inside to vacuum the 3 feet of floor I missed when I'm accosted by my dad for not finishing the hedges, but when I explain I'm just finishing this up because I missed it and that I will be back out to finish the hedges he just says "OK", being that he is about a thousand times more reasonable a person than my mother, and lets me get on with my chores.
So I go back outside and finish the yard work I was asked to do and start cleaning up the leaves and return the tools to the garage, and since it is now 1 in the afternoon at this point I get myself some lunch.
And then my mom comes into the kitchen, the first thing she says to me is "Why are you sitting down? You should be out there looking for a job."
I say that I got my old summer job back and that I start tomorrow.
So normally, if your parents have been bugging you to find a job for a while what would you say?
Would you say: "Well well done." or maybe even "About time."
But no, my mother wouldn't say anything like that because she just walked off in a huff saying "Well I guess that means you wont be able to do anything to help around the house at all this summer."
No, me getting a job is a way of me trying to get out of chores apparently.
So anyway, what can I do to counter this? Or even better prevent this from happening. Because no matter what I do my mother just sees the negative side or the tiny little detail that wasn't done to perfection.
It's becoming a serious problem and I can see why my sister left as soon as it was feasible for her too.
I have been hunting for a job for about a year and finally was able to find a summer job back at the pool I used to work at last summer, with my first day being tomorrow.
And now, incoming wall of text.
So anyway, I wake up this morning and before I even get downstairs I'm already loaded with chores. The first being to walk my dogs.
So I get about doing that, walk them for a good 45 mins, and the second I return I get yelled at for taking too long and generally being a lazy worthless pile of shit and my mom demands I vacuum the house, which I do.
I then do the dishes, pick up the dog poop, clean the living room and then get started on the yard work I was asked to do the night before.
About half an hour into trimming the hedges my mom comes outside and starts yelling at how I never ever do anything right because I forgot to vacuum under one half of an arm chair. Again accusing me of being lazy and never doing anything to help ever.
I honestly wish I could have something to play back my whole day at this point.
So I go back inside to vacuum the 3 feet of floor I missed when I'm accosted by my dad for not finishing the hedges, but when I explain I'm just finishing this up because I missed it and that I will be back out to finish the hedges he just says "OK", being that he is about a thousand times more reasonable a person than my mother, and lets me get on with my chores.
So I go back outside and finish the yard work I was asked to do and start cleaning up the leaves and return the tools to the garage, and since it is now 1 in the afternoon at this point I get myself some lunch.
And then my mom comes into the kitchen, the first thing she says to me is "Why are you sitting down? You should be out there looking for a job."
I say that I got my old summer job back and that I start tomorrow.
So normally, if your parents have been bugging you to find a job for a while what would you say?
Would you say: "Well well done." or maybe even "About time."
But no, my mother wouldn't say anything like that because she just walked off in a huff saying "Well I guess that means you wont be able to do anything to help around the house at all this summer."
No, me getting a job is a way of me trying to get out of chores apparently.
So anyway, what can I do to counter this? Or even better prevent this from happening. Because no matter what I do my mother just sees the negative side or the tiny little detail that wasn't done to perfection.
It's becoming a serious problem and I can see why my sister left as soon as it was feasible for her too.