Someone you like on Facebook

[Altorin]

I have nowhere else to post this, so I'll post it here and hope some of you understand what I'm talking about..

Isn't letting someone you like be your friend on facebook a lot like seeing them naked for the first time? Like, you're both nervous, what if you see something you don't like? what if THEY see something they don't like? What if she sees that horrible picture of you? What if he sees that I play the hell out of farmville and have 3000 friends and wonders what the fucks up with that?

If you're a shy person, or have some characteristic that you despise about yourself that isn't apparent when meeting the person but is very apparent through your facebook, it can be absolutely nerve racking..

For discussion value, do you have anyone in your life, that if you saw them ask for a friend request in a social networking site would cause you to sweat buckets? Doesn't necessarily have to be significant other or potential mate, but it should be someone who not accepting the invite would carry some sort of social penalty.. Maybe like a boss, or your supervisor on a work project, or something. And if you do, and don't mind sharing, what sort of things are on there that you wouldn't want them to see? Or maybe that you wouldn't want other people to see you associated with them.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

I suppose I can see the logic to that, even though I haven't experienced it myself.

I would rather not have most of my family on facebook, but meh, I always watch what I post on it and stuff(Y).

Facebook isn't really that such a personal deal for me...if there's a bad picture, I untag myself. If I want to post a rude link, I just won't xD.

I don't really use facebook for my own updates and stuff; I'm just one of those lurkers that sometimes likes and comments on people's statuses.

Wheee.

 

[El Poncho]

No, I don't put stuff on my facebook I don't want people to know.

 

[emion]

I have a big problem with shearing or opening up to people so I have just decided that Im not going to get a facebook account. I would rather be outside with my friends and girlfriend instead on wasting my time on that website. friend of mine vent from a 5 to 3 in english for being on it too much XD

sorry I couldn't help more . . .

 

[OakTaooper]

Eh, I wouldn't worry about it too much. As long as you're not one of the those people who posts status updates like every two minutes there shouldn't be much of a problem. I've never had any problems sending friend requests to people that I like, but then again, I also have like four pictures on the site hardly ever update my status about personal stuff, so, yeah. Take that for what you will.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

I put anything on Facebook and let anyone I actually know and remember add me as a friend. The only people I keep off my profile are my family members. They don't need to know what I get up when I'm not at home *shifty eyes*

I suppose it could be nerve-wracking but fuck it. Everyone has shit they're ashamed of. The fact that your able to put that up on Facebook is surely a sign of your confidence. I dunno what i'm saying now...

 

[RaphaelsRedemption]

I have to monitor everything I post on Facebook. My mum is friends with me, and regularly checks on my behaviour.

I'm 23 and haven't lived at home for 5 years now. FML.

 

[Rakkana]

Me and my facebook have a very Laissez-faire realtationship.

 

[tombman888]

Well, thats the thing, i don't put stuff up i don't want people to see.

I use Facebook as a way to communicate with friends, so yea, i usually just says things about our group and stuff were going to do and crap etc but since my family member's aren't friends of mine, they can't see what i'm writing and it's only their opinions on what i write hat bug me.

 

[Jasper Jeffs]

Nah, the only thing I have liked on my FB is a lot of artists, and that's just so I can see when their tour dates/album releases are. Plus, it's quite broad, so even someone who doesn't know anyone will at least be able to identify with my liking of Muse, Radiohead etc. The only thing a complete stranger would be weirded out by is a drawing of a penis with wings, in which 2 of my mates are tagged as testicles, and one picture where I (purposely) look like a wigger. But, I pretty much only add people I know (that's why I have 57 friends), and they know what I'm like to begin with so they don't think anything different when they see my profile.

I have to monitor everything I post on Facebook. My mum is friends with me, and regularly checks on my behaviour.

I'm 23 and haven't lived at home for 5 years now. FML.

Haha, I'm friends with my mum too on it. She doesn't care however, because I've told her if she doesn't like what she sees then she can remove me.

 

[latenightapplepie]

I'm conscious of it. But it doesn't make me worry a whole lot.

When I add someone I like, yeah they're going to see some fairly intimate stuff. However, I feel that if they don't like what they see, which is hardly a warts-and-all picture by the way, then it wasn't to be. Most people, myself included, censor their Facebook profiles fairly heavily; you cannot see into the depths of someone's personality and character by looking at their Facebook page.

It's a bit like the tip of an iceberg; there's a lot underneath that's hidden.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

I don't have a Facebook or anything like that, so I suppose no. If I did, I just simply wouldn't put anything on there I don't want people to know about, but for the most part I'm open about anything so I wouldn't be worried. If they had a problem with something about me, well, then they don't need to be my virtual friend or otherwise. Get off my Facebook!

 

[Marter]

If the girl I liked wanted to add me on Facebook, the only thing "embarrassing" she'd see would be how few friends I still have on there. (I deleted the majority of them last summer, and now only keep my actual friends on there).

 

[beniki]

Not really. I don't post anything on Facebook I'm not comfortable showing in the real world. As a rule of thumb, if you're worried about your parents or close friends seeing something online, you probably shouldn't be putting it there anyway.

 

[endnuen]

For anything involving my nightlife and stuff amongst my close friends, we have a closed group for that kind of things.
For the rest, It's usually just funny episodes from my life or vague references to things that happens to me.
For instance my latest update: "I'm free! FREE! FREEE!!!"

 

[burningdragoon]

The only people I wouldn't add are my parents and aunts/uncles.. and people I don't know at all, but that's not really a surprise. I don't even a) have anything up I'd be embarrassed to have see, b) am the kind of person who would have anything to worry about be posted, or c) take my facebook stuff that seriously in the first place. I just don't like my older family knowing that much about me.

I pretty much just use it to post Cracked.com articles and webcomics to people. Also, this is my profile picture at the moment:



In fact, if I was adding new friends, I'd hope they'd see how little seriousness I put into and and like me more because of it.... not in a hipster way, but more like "Dude, your profile pic is Mog from FF6. I love FF6! That's awesome!"

Edit: as far as bosses go, I wouldn't mind really. I can understand the concern for that, but I think anything more than untagging less-than-respectable photos of yourself is overdoing it.

 

[Red Right Hand]

No, because the person you see on my Facebook is pretty much the person you see in real life.

 

[Legion]

No, I don't put stuff on my facebook I don't want people to know.

Indeed, or rather, indeed is what I'd say if I still had Facebook.

When I had Facebook I had gaming down in my interests section, a list of anime that I liked (a rather short one to be honest) as well as my top 5 games. I couldn't care less if people thought anything of it.

Considering the crap 99% of people I was in contact with put up on theirs, and others profiles, I looked positively sane and normal.

 

[ZeroMachine]

Anything I wouldn't say upfront to someone I've met isn't on my Facebook.

Thing is, there isn't much I wouldn't admit to someone even when I first meet them. Hell, I practically warn people that I'm a huge video game nerd.

EDIT: Also, if, for some reason, they have a problem with something they see or learn about me, fuck 'em. I have tons of good friends. Yeah, it sucks that a potential friendship/relationship can go down the drain for one little thing, but hey, worse shit happens.

EDIT PART DUEX: Another thing, about your Farmville comment. If I see that, depending on how comfortable I am with the person, I'll tease them about it. If they're insulted by it, I'll explain it was all in good humor, and stop. If they're a ***** about it, once again, "Oh well, guess that friendship wouldn't go over so well anyways."

And one last thing, re: family. If the family I have on Facebook doesn't like what I post, fuckin' deal with it. Luckily, most of them don't care, and one of them even likes a lot of what I post (and I don't mean "clicked the like button", I mean comments and explains that she agrees).

EDIT 3 THE RE-EDITING: Riight, also, for the record I don't get why a lot of people post pictures of themselves doing illegal things on Facebook. You're 17. Posting a picture of yourself getting shitfaced seems like a bad idea to me.

 

[ProfessorLayton]

No, I don't put stuff on my facebook I don't want people to know.

Seriously... if you have something you don't want people to see, don't put it on Facebook... If you have to hide stuff about yourself like that, it's probably not worth it.

The only reason I would be nervous about sending a friend request is that it would seem creepy, especially if I don't know them all that well.